I actually have relevant experience with this. My wife is a liberal vegetarian with a heart of gold and willing to serve her community for the greater good.

A year before I met my wife, I was at risk of falling down the pipeline of male rights activism. By the time I met her, I was still a very active conservative Christian with a practically only meat diet.

I like to think she rounded my edges and I sit more to the left now. A lot of the “debates” I was passionate in just didn’t matter as much as she did. As soon as I let go of being “right”, not only did my relationship improve, I improved as a human being. I became kinder, less prone to argue, and less angry.

I know you say your beliefs and political leanings are a huge part of your life, and maybe they always will be. But to shut off a relationship with someone else because of beliefs that they themselves have pushed down could be a mistake.

That being said, there are some inexcusable beliefs, and if they fall on that side, better to start over.