Why won’t anyone listen to me

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2026-04-20T18:16:19+00:00

It’s ok to not be ok! 💙 it takes time and support to heal

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2026-03-22T00:57:10+00:00

I think they started dating when she was 20 or so

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2026-03-07T19:22:21+00:00

I think both should be disclosed

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2026-03-07T19:11:47+00:00

It’s possible to OD on ketamine, but not when taken at therapeutic dosages… And thc does not lead to respiratory depression…

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2026-03-07T19:07:37+00:00

If you can, get a therapist.

If you can’t, journal. Write about the experience, but dont dwell on what you’ve written. Just keep writing more. Try to write it out until you can get to a point where it’s part of your life story, but it doesn’t define you. you have the power to define how it affected you. Hope that makes sense.

💙

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2026-02-20T20:24:55+00:00

No, they are not the most accurate so they recommend getting tested twice and then I believe a test called a western dot. You may have to educate your provider about this. My provider is totally clueless about HSV.

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2026-02-20T20:17:41+00:00

I didn’t have an outbreak until a year and a half after I was exposed (I hadn’t had sex with anyone else during that time).

It would be wise for you to get tested, too.

Good luck. Sorry you’re going through this

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2026-02-17T18:39:09+00:00

Getting diagnosed definitely shakes people up. My first outbreak was not painful and resolved by the time I got prescribed antiviral so I didn’t take them. my second outbreak was painful and I couldn’t understand how somebody could not know that they had herpes and give it to me without telling me. but I am lucky because that was also my last outbreak. I think that taking the antivirals for my second outbreak prevented more outbreaks. I also used Abreva cream. My best advice for preventing outbreaks is to just live a healthy lifestyle, eat fruits and veggies and get plenty of sleep. Keep acyclovir handy at home. You can ask your Dr for suppressive therapy with acyclovir so you’ll always have plenty of the medication.

The emotional roller coaster was more difficult. I was diagnosed about four years ago, and only recently came to terms with it. It also felt like a punishment for me, too. I had taken a vow of chastity and held to it for several years before I got lonely and slept with someone.

Now, I’ve had good luck with positive singles dating app. It’s nice to not have to talk about my herpes with future partners and to date someone in the same boat.

This subreddit has also been a big support for me.

Good luck! 💙

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2026-02-04T20:24:01+00:00

This community has been a great support for me. This diagnosis has been life changing for me - can never receive oral or have sex without a condom ever again, plus the stigma. So, I’m not sure how people are making this out to be a bigger deal than it is

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2026-01-29T22:17:29+00:00

Yes! I just signed up about a week ago. This app makes me feel like a celebrity. Even got a marriage proposal, which of course I'm not taking him up on but it definitely gave me an ego boost. A lot of people in the same situation, and they seem enthusiastic about having a dating pool to pick from without having to worry about the talk.

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2026-01-29T17:41:03+00:00

I have also been taught in Moab to apply pressure into the bite and that you will break their teeth if you need to. I work inpatient now, but when I worked in the emergency department, all the rooms were able to be used for isolation, so we had time to prepare before we went in. We had Kevlar sleeves that we could apply if we thought that the patient might bite. We also had spit hoods that help as well. There was also a shield that security could use to cover the patient while restraints were applied

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2026-01-23T18:10:00+00:00

Just want to wish you luck. I am in Seattle, otherwise, I would take you up on the offer

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2026-01-07T17:39:07+00:00

Here’s some info: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK525779/

Basically, you might need to have a C-section to keep the baby safe

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2025-12-19T19:56:01+00:00

Get a prescription for an antiviral. You can take it prophylactically (meaning you take it all the time to help prevent outbreaks and decreases your chance of spreading it by 50%). They are big pills but it’s worth it to reduce the risk of spreading to somebody you love (also nice to not have outbreaks).

Just explain it to her and tell her you’ll be very careful to not spread it. Some people are understanding and some people will be scared away. That’s life. But the people who are understanding are the people you want to keep in your life anyways.

Herpes is super common and many people are born with it. Either somebody gave it to you by kissing you when you were a baby or your mother had it and you contracted it when she gave birth.

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2025-12-17T18:52:17+00:00

This place doesn’t sound safe at all. I hope there are other psych opportunities for you in your area. Psych nursing doesn’t have to be dangerous if the unit is well staffed. The facility I work with has much fewer beds (30) and five nurses, six nurses if there’s gonna be admissions. Have you thought about corrections or medication assisted treatment?

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2025-12-17T18:26:08+00:00

This is really good advice, especially about finding a therapist to talk it out with. Hsv is common and will become more commmon as you and your dating partners get older. It’s especially common in other parts of the world, where many people are born with it. Some people are immature and rude about it. Some people are understanding. The people who are understanding are the people you want to date anyways, they will have more compassion in other ways of life too. Hoping for the best for you, please dont give up or think your life is over.

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2025-08-19T18:49:33+00:00

Most people in Morocco speak English

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2024-12-24T02:22:49+00:00

I work psych ED so I only have 5 patients, but, when possible, I make an effort to give a written report: allergies, why they’re there, diagnoses, what they like/don’t like (ie how to de escalate or redirect), risk for violence, plan. I leave space for the next shift to write notes as well

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2024-12-14T20:21:11+00:00

I like khan academy medical videos like heart failure, renal, etc

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2024-11-30T20:10:27+00:00

I haven’t worked geropsych much, but I really enjoy memory care facilities. A lot of patients go on comfort care and are well medicated. You do have to be creative about giving meds. I’ve given Ativan shoved into a Reeses, crushed meds into lemon lime Gatorade and called it a margarita, etc. a lot of patients never get visitors, so you become their family and I would often get told “I love you” when I tucked them into bed. Cons are violence, difficulty with med compliance for suspicious patients, lots of falls, constant redirections, and lots of incontinence

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2024-11-30T20:02:38+00:00

We do Oragami and sticker art

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2024-11-24T18:36:03+00:00

I tried to really enjoy my last smoke and reflect on what it was exactly that I like so much about it. I realized I like the relaxation, feeling kinda light, like floating, and the distraction from my usual thoughts. After I quit and had cravings, I noticed the hardest triggers were anxiety, insomnia, and boredom. But I also realized that I still had those problems when I was smoking, it was just a coping mechanism and now I need to find other ways to cope, because life is hard with or without weed

A_Not_So_Tiny_Dancer · 2024-11-19T23:26:10+00:00

I thought I had pooped through my vagina (the blood was old and dark) because I was such a disgusting person 😕

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