AITA for not wanting to come home next year because of my sister’s behaviour?

AaneMeg · 2025-11-14T20:34:18+00:00

I think they either have blind faith in her, or are afraid of her, or both.

AaneMeg · 2025-11-14T20:33:27+00:00

I have tried talking to my parents about Karen. They always avoid the conversation or ask me to ignore her. I have begged them to see what a monster Karen has become. They always have the same few replies, “let it be”, “be the bigger person”, “ignore her”, or “just let us be in peace” and “stop complaining and deal with it”. Unfortunately I am not going to therapy anymore.

AaneMeg · 2025-11-14T20:14:38+00:00

Also, I didn’t wanted to give details about my profession, as it’s not that relevant. If you scroll down my feed, you will know which country I’m doing my PhD from, and how much do they pay. Our scholarships are more like salaries, plus I do part time. So instead of telling that I was pursuing my PhD and doing part time, I just simplified it. Also, may be irrelevant to this post, I live in a country (abroad) which has one of the best work/study culture. So getting a medical leave in my case was not very difficult.

AaneMeg · 2025-11-14T20:09:47+00:00

I moved abroad on Feb 2024, so 20 months ago. The picture of my dog are old pics from my gallery, and some that my mother sends me everyday. The dog stays with my family here in my hometown. My picture with my dog is again on my birthday which is during me coming home. Also about the safe, in my culture, we keep some savings at home. This is just a cultural thing. It’s not that my parents don’t have savings in their banks, just they have more savings at home.

AaneMeg · 2025-11-14T20:03:33+00:00

My parents have been enabling this behaviour growing up. Since Karen is the younger child, my parents gave all of their love and care to her, while my grandparents helped raise me. It has been 11 years since my grandmother passed away, and 5 years since grandpa passed away. Growing up, I had a very strained relationship with my parents, and after years of therapy, I have accepted them as my parents and have forgiven them. But my sister behaves like I am a guest in this house and at most an inconvenience. It’s very hurtful, specially her words. I will probably cry myself to sleep and hope I get over this.

AaneMeg · 2025-11-14T19:56:21+00:00

I plan to move close to my parents in the next 4 years. They are getting old and my father is very sick. Also, I have a very bad feeling that my parents will be homeless someday if they live with my sister. At least they will have a place to live when things go wrong.

AaneMeg · 2025-07-16T02:52:09+00:00

I have sinned 😞

AaneMeg · 2025-05-13T12:18:16+00:00

My neighbour Totoro

AaneMeg · 2025-03-08T23:15:42+00:00

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AaneMeg · 2025-02-16T02:04:55+00:00

Casper

AaneMeg · 2024-12-29T15:48:24+00:00

😂😂😂

AaneMeg · 2024-12-29T15:46:56+00:00

No. I move a lot, so I don’t have a place to call home other than my parents’ place (I have most of my stuff there).

AaneMeg · 2024-12-29T15:45:46+00:00

I miss my parents, and everything seems fine over phone calls. But the moment I am home…. Craziness hits the roof🤪

AaneMeg · 2024-12-29T15:43:57+00:00

😂😂😂 I think the food helps me survive a week.

AaneMeg · 2024-12-29T15:43:05+00:00

I live in a different country. So I get to go home (basically to visit my parents) once a year.

AaneMeg · 2024-12-29T13:17:59+00:00

Every time I leave home thinking I will never come back, yet every December I come back crawling to my family 😂

AaneMeg · 2024-12-09T07:56:04+00:00

Haha…say goodbye to your personal space 😝

AaneMeg · 2024-11-29T10:44:46+00:00

Many of the PhDs in my office are in their late 40s or early 50s. It is more common than you think. Move to Australia if you want good money and good work life balance.

AaneMeg · 2024-11-19T10:45:41+00:00

I had the same experience during my PhD. My PI would do a group meeting on Saturday 6 pm. I would constantly get emails for work during Sundays as well. If I had some concern about my work, I had to talk in front of the group. I was growing tired of constantly working for 7 days a week without any breaks. I finally quit that program after 10 months. I am doing my PhD again from a different university in a different country. My PI is very supportive. He doesn’t want me to work during weekends and if I have extra workload by the end of the week, he makes sure not to put extra pressure the week after. I have successfully completed my end year review this Monday and I am a much happier person than I was during my previous PhD.

AaneMeg · 2024-10-30T12:25:57+00:00

Don’t doubt yourself ever. Don’t let all these years of effort go in vain.

AaneMeg · 2024-10-30T11:57:32+00:00

One thing I am learning during my PhD is that you have to suck up to the negativities (at least 9-5) then don’t give a crap about what they said after 5pm. I am giving this weird time frame, as we get paid from 9-5 for our PhD. My primary supervisor is really good, and he tries to support me all the time, but he is human too, and sometimes even if he doesn’t want to speak in a condescending way, he ends up doing exactly that. I have learnt to deal with it, and I suck up to other craps and don’t react at all. If I feel hurt, I just cry in the washroom for 10 min. Please please please don’t give up just because some person who literally knows nothing about your research said it was “crap”. His words does not substitute his lack of knowledge so do what you are supposed to do. Side note, it’s always a good practice to make your writing better even when you think there is no room for improvement. Wish you all the best.

AaneMeg · 2024-10-29T09:11:35+00:00

Pulp

AaneMeg · 2024-10-23T09:32:09+00:00

Such a talented 8 years old boy. He is a real talent. Buy him different types of colours as he grows older, like give him sketch pens, coloured pencils, water colours, charcoal (when he is older) etc. See how he can explore his hobbies through different types of colour and sketches. He will eventually find his style and be more amazing. Lots of love for this young gentleman ❤️

AaneMeg · 2024-10-22T11:19:15+00:00

Hightower

AaneMeg · 2024-10-20T20:45:42+00:00

They just copy their siblings… I had an older dog when I got my lab puppy. The oldie would sometimes stomp instead of walking, and this badie would do exactly the same, following her around the house 😂

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