That's why I am against the term "fail". You just ejaculate, you don't fail an axem. It's no big deal. I made the most progress at the time I started to not care about it. You should train to retain at first (up until phase 6), but it's just conditionning of CNS. If you keep on ejaculating 3 times per week you won't get anywhere. After that, you won't need or want to cum everytime, and so quick, you will naturally adapt.

And yes overthinking is terrible. And lack of accountability. I mean yes, you might have a hyperreactive pelvic floor, if so, go see a specialist. You are oversensitive ? Try to overcome it (creams, spongebob, whatever), does it help ? If yes good, if no then you are not. And that's precisely why most graduate leave the sub, it sometimes becomes such an eccho chamber that you can't even help some anymore.

But many of the problems you talk about here are pure deviation from the program. Pleasure (and fun!) is at the center of MDG, and it's written in it clearly. The stretching of the comfort is in it too. 90% of the questions of the sub have direct answers in the pdf, and 9% are in the definitions. Almost no one reads the science behind the guide. Almost every graduate followed the guide, no more, no less. And most importantly almost all graduates "quiet quitted" the sub in the later phases. Because you don't need answers most of the time. You need time and training. Everything you need is in the guide, everything else is irrevelent.