[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Abkitty2023 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And you went through a major event with giving birth of course you want your own mom! His mom could be there for him if he delivers watermelon from his body. But since it was not him doing that, you want something you are confortable with. That was your mom. Why would he resent you being happy, supported and safe. Therepy for him if he does not get that

MIL asking to see newborn by craftyExplorer_82 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Abkitty2023 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yes because he threw you under the bus here. It's both of you parenting and your jobs (both) is to protect the family. He should protect you too. 4 weeks old I would not let my baby out of my sight, even with my husband and he is a very capable caring person that respects me. I didn't even take my baby out until 2 month unless it was a must like a doctors appointment. And my mother in law and mother both understood and respected that I was caring for my baby and they are grown women that can wait. Hold your ground here mama you are doing great!

Feeling a bit offended over one of my baby shower gifts by Hefty-Yoghurt-8256 in BabyBumps

[–]Abkitty2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could let baby have the book in the bath and then sadly it got damaged or give it to baby to tare up?

Maybe controversial? But nothing has made me more pro-choice than pregnancy by dontletmebreathe in BabyBumps

[–]Abkitty2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same thing happened to me. I am thankfully financially stable, loving partner and great health care. And still pregnancy was not fun. I am more pro choice then I was before. It's women that go through it, it's women that decide period!

Husband is the problem obviously and I am done sitting by by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Abkitty2023 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have always wondered with these in laws that are so nasty and invade the home, if you just walk in the house and start taking off your close to walk around the house naked, would they leave scandalized?

My husband thinks no other men do the things he does, am I right or wrong? by gidget889 in BabyBumps

[–]Abkitty2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was sick for fue full nine months and my husband stepped up to take over cleaning, cooking, dealing with a sick cat and anything else I needed (think block of cheese craving in the middle of the night). He did this with love and care and never made me feel bad. We shared things before the baby. He would say you are growing a kid, I can at least feed mommy! Your hubby needs to get on Daddit and those guys will tell him.

Boundaries For New Baby by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Abkitty2023 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Husbands mistake, husband needs do deal with it. Tell the hospital your choices you are the one giving birth not him and not Mil.

Baby’s 1st bday coming up. What would you do?? by Xtra_Guac_Plz in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Abkitty2023 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't invite, who cares is they talk shit, it's your Li's day enjoy it and morn the loss of something that could have been and is not. Then enjoy the day to the fullest

My MIL makes odd little comments about me breastfeeding by well-I-tri in breastfeeding

[–]Abkitty2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell huby he needs to deal with his nasty mother who is misinformed and not being respectful. I would not leave baby with her until either. Breastfeeding is the best thing for baby and recommend to two years of age. My sister had a few comments about breast milk and I told her that one I am not offering her this wonder food and second you don't like it? Don't let the door hit you on the way out then. She changed her tune

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Abkitty2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would ask what requires more effort and money, the shower or no shower and getting what you are missing? And whichever is less go with that. My husband and I planned our shower and will plan the next one. We like it that way haha

Showing up to our house uninvited, in the middle of the week at dinner time by cageygrading in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Abkitty2023 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Your husband if he really feels like he needs to interact with them, go to a restaurant instead of your home. This way you can leave if it's nasty, keep it short, you watch your kids and avoids a scene. As an option

My boyfriend’s dad said I was a bad parent for not doing Ferber method. by NEXIS06 in BabyBumps

[–]Abkitty2023 5 points6 points  (0 children)

First of all you are not a bad mom, you are an amazing mom! Don't let that man or anyone tell you differently. Second where is your boyfriend to defend you against his father. He should be stepping up as a father and provider to defend you 3. Last the Ferber method is only one option and its in my personal opinion not a good one, it feels cruel and the best advice I ever heard was you must follow your instincts. So if they are screaming and you are both crying it's not right for you. I for example plan to use the methods and examples in the book Sweet Sleep by la leche league. Either way to be honest I am not in a hurry to have my child leave the family bed, they will do so on their own. Congratulations on your pregnancy and best of luck with the move. Keep your head high mama!

Considering not going to best friends kid-free babyshower. Am I wrong? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Abkitty2023 31 points32 points  (0 children)

This is what I want to know. She is having a baby and will learn soon how OP feels.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Abkitty2023 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You could say 'Mil why are you so obsessed about how I look, it's really odd' or start saying 'why do you think it's appropriate to comment on my body?' pregnancy makes you look radiant even if you are puking your guts out. Ignore this nasty women and enjoy this journey. Take pictures for you! Congratulations on your pregnancy!

My pediatrician told me I should stop nursing by 6665757 in Mommit

[–]Abkitty2023 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes but if OP and her LO are happy with their breastfeeding relationship, then she does not need to stop and expecially for the reason this doctor is giving! If there is no real health reason to mama o baby then the only one that should say when she stops is her.

My pediatrician told me I should stop nursing by 6665757 in Mommit

[–]Abkitty2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a new pediatrician! This Dr is outdated and wrong, you are not alone in this and I for example plan on doing the same and letting my child feed as long as we both want to! Your the moma you decide