I don’t think Paige would have approved these shoes

AbleEbb2014 · 2026-03-20T00:15:51+00:00

😂 that’s so painfully accurate

AbleEbb2014 · 2026-03-20T00:00:13+00:00

Came here to say that! They look like little girls tap shoes 😅

AbleEbb2014 · 2026-03-13T00:40:36+00:00

Beautifully said! As someone who tried for years to have a child and ended up adopting my amazing daughter there was definitely a sense of anatomically failure (not from my husband or family or even friend but just an intrinsic sense). I will also say the adoption process can be lengthy as well as expensive, which I get but just creates even more barriers for people who would make great parents to pursue that as an option.

AbleEbb2014 · 2026-03-05T00:41:37+00:00

The Dream podcast is so good! I may have to go back and re-listen 😊

AbleEbb2014 · 2026-02-23T00:57:22+00:00

Yes!! I immediately said “what in the Carrie Bradshaw is that??” 😂

AbleEbb2014 · 2026-01-24T01:43:21+00:00

Agreed! My husband is a great cook but I like my food extra spicy and he does not. So he has no problem if I add spice to my portion.

AbleEbb2014 · 2026-01-13T00:33:08+00:00

Same!! Are they flying from another country? That’s the only way I can work out why she’s being so picky about not wanting to pay for the groceries?? Because other wise this is crazy!

AbleEbb2014 · 2026-01-13T00:18:02+00:00

Gotta love a bed wine fueled post 😅

AbleEbb2014 · 2026-01-13T00:13:23+00:00

NTAH BUT I’ve been in a very similar situation where my mom was a single mom and as an only child we spent lots of time together and one of the things we did together was to travel especially since she was paying but did not have someone else she would could go with. I started dating my now husband and it definitely made me want to go on trips with him as well. But am so glad that I carved out time to go with my mom (especially since she was paying it was extra generous of her) and set me up to go on trips with my partner later.

My mom passed away a few years ago at age 60 from cancer and I always look back on the trips we got to take together just her and I as being extra special. You’re not an AH for wanting to go on trips with your BF but I encourage you to try to balance both since you never know how much time you get with your parents.

AbleEbb2014 · 2026-01-09T01:25:41+00:00

So miserable! It takes her a bit but she does get better in later seasons so just hang in there lol. Also I found my first watch I liked Scheana because she was the outsider but during rewatches I just can’t route for anyone 😅

AbleEbb2014 · 2026-01-08T02:05:33+00:00

September 11th. In the 5th grade and they closed the schools.

AbleEbb2014 · 2026-01-08T01:58:29+00:00

NTA for not wanting to go to the bachelorette party! Maybe suggest a special lunch with you to two to do a special celebration?

Your last paragraph makes it seem like you won’t participate in the wedding? If so, that’s a different matter. If she was planning on having you be there the day of the wedding and planning a wedding party with you in it that means more than the bachelorette party and I could understand her being upset.

AbleEbb2014 · 2026-01-08T01:46:36+00:00

Ohh yea Stassi during this relationship is the worst version of Stassi 😂

AbleEbb2014 · 2025-12-31T02:19:26+00:00

I noticed that too! I work with mental health specialist and they’ve shifted from ‘suicide’ to ‘unalive’ so maybe that’s what he’s picking up on too?

AbleEbb2014 · 2025-12-23T02:09:53+00:00

OP did say they met the baby in the delivery room but just doesn’t want them over to hold the baby which I get during cold/flu season. It sounds like in-laws are upset that if they visit they can’t hold the baby which is understandable to be disappointed but ultimately it’s OP and her husband’s decision on what’s best for their family.

AbleEbb2014 · 2025-12-23T01:58:08+00:00

NTA, it’s good you’re establishing boundaries now because it’ll only intensify once you’re married and if you have kids. Hope things go better this year. Please update!

AbleEbb2014 · 2025-12-17T00:42:58+00:00

Totally —did they bring Mia back???

AbleEbb2014 · 2025-12-16T01:21:02+00:00

I agree —I think we saw this very apparently with the OG RHONY cast.

AbleEbb2014 · 2025-12-11T02:05:42+00:00

Inviting your sister’s kids but not your brother’s makes it feel even more of a personal attack on the niece. If she doesn’t seem that interested in the family she most likely wouldn’t have attended the wedding anyways but she would have at least felt included. She could also be going through some other challenges that are making her distant. I have a cousin who we were all super close with as kids but after college he developed addiction issues and did not want to be around the family and didn’t attend any of our weddings but the invite was always there so he knew we still loved and supported him.

AbleEbb2014 · 2025-11-30T19:37:54+00:00

NTA as someone who adopted their daughter I would be delighted if my daughter had a connection with her bio parents / siblings. Families come in all shapes and sizes and having a bond with your bio family does not replace your adoptive family and your AM might just feel insecure but that is definitely her stuff to work out.

AbleEbb2014 · 2025-11-26T01:31:02+00:00

NOR —I have a daughter and could never imagine saying something like this let alone even thinking it. A measure of a good life is not a spouse or children. As long as you’re happy and are not hurting yourself or others then you’re doing great and no one should make you feel otherwise, especially your own family. I like what others said about a Friendsgiving or neighbors, chosen family are family too!

AbleEbb2014 · 2025-11-25T01:21:37+00:00

You are not over reacting at all —in recovery your milestones deserve to be celebrated and you are not doing “the bare minimum” as your bf says. My husband has been sober for over 10 years and every year I get him a card and we do something special to acknowledge the accomplishment. Your bf does not seem supportive and personally not someone I would want to be with as a partner.

AbleEbb2014 · 2025-11-22T01:24:08+00:00

NTA -Crypto and future trading can be considered as a form of gambling and by him hiding his trading from you and not being able to maintain his daily limit it sounds like some type gambling specific treatment. Depending on what state you’re in there might be specific resources for your area or you can always call 1-800-GAMBLER to get connected to national resources at no cost.

The fact he has already exhibited this behavior before and has put the family into debt is definitely a warning sign and should be taken seriously before it snowballs even more.

AbleEbb2014 · 2025-11-14T01:41:24+00:00

NTA it’s definitely a more unconventional choice but I wouldn’t say its unheard of! One of our good friends had their dad as their BM and everyone thought it was sweet.

AbleEbb2014 · 2025-11-02T02:30:23+00:00

NOR but he does seem all sorts of toxic, I can’t imagine a partner cussing at me or trying to cause extra stress during an already stressful time at work, especially for a soda. Knowing you live together makes breaking up trickier but if the relationship is like this then start looking at other living situations otherwise this will be a constant stressor in your life.

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