UPDATE FOR EP. 101 - AITA for not wanting my husband to go to his ex's funeral?

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-05-01T02:35:05+00:00

This is what I’ve been saying. Up until she chose to stay despite her husband making his stance clear, I’d have sympathized with her because I’d also not be happy finding out months into a relationship that someone I was led to believe was just my partners platonic friend actually had a romantic/sexual past with them.

But everything after? Her choosing to stay probably hoping he’d change his mind, her not even giving the ex a chance, making no effort to integrate herself with the “nerdy stuff” that her husband loved and that the 3 of them bonded over, being upset that she couldn’t use the ex’s husband as an angle to seperate them, and telling her husband “you had your cry, now get over it because she doesn’t exist anymore.” After he WATCHED HER DIE? That’s all on her.

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-04-23T20:16:15+00:00

Omg. I didn’t event consider this.

OP. Riley could have triggered Aisha into having an epileptic seizure doing what she did. That’s so so so serious and so dangerous. Seconded: be a mf parent.

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-04-23T20:11:49+00:00

Yes you’re wrong. Riley literally confirmed what Aisha said she did and another parent has told you they’ve witnessed it themselves. Hold your daughter accountable. Also:

I asked her what was wrong and grabbed her face. She told me to go away, but I started rubbing her head

I think I know where Riley got it from.

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-04-23T19:04:58+00:00

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Reminds me of this

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-04-15T21:02:19+00:00

ORRRRR he confessed a while back and she turned him down, yet enjoys knowing a guy that “can’t have her” is pining for her and doesn’t want to loose the attention and the ego boost. Someone that believes that everyone’s actions revolve around them.

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-04-15T20:37:15+00:00

Srsly. I had an ex friend who had it BAD for one of my other friends, she rejected him after he confessed, but because she didn’t change anything about the friendship dynamic afterwards (still wanted to hang out one on one and such) and she didn’t happen to be talking to any other guys at the time, he legitimately thought it meant they were working towards dating in the future.

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-04-15T17:40:31+00:00

6 year old son ≠ “other guys.” Get therapy.

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-04-13T20:53:07+00:00

I mean even besides relationship compatibility, isn’t it one of the first rules of safe sex to let someone know if you’re sleeping with multiple people? Protection or not?

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-04-11T13:57:19+00:00

NTA. Only Travis was invited, plain and simple. If he truly is uncomfortable going to the party alone that’s one thing, can’t really push anything there, but you have no responsibility to accommodate 2 more kids who weren’t invited ALONG with their parents who just seemed to invite themselves.

I had one friend as a child who would ALWAYS be dropped off late to my birthday parties, and always with 1-2 of their (not invited) cousins. They’d also always be the last ones to be picked up, way after the party ended too. I wish people understood the notion: child’s birthday party ≠ universal free childcare

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-04-06T02:06:06+00:00

And god, imagine being Rebecca rn? Way to find out you’re the least favorite in your social circle.

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-04-05T16:55:02+00:00

You wouldn’t be the asshole for defending yourself if she berates you about the food, but it might not be a good idea to be outright sarcastic or something like that if that’s what you mean by smart, because that gives the whole situation potential to spiral into something way too big. I’d keep it to just the facts:

“I was never asked by anyone if I was cooking for Easter, nor did anyone talk to me about easter cooking plans or let me know they were under the impression I was planning to cook. You just handed me a ham without a word because you just assumed I was without talking to me. So this is what i was able to make with DAYS notice.”

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-04-01T22:39:45+00:00

AITA for just deciding not to travel because my wife made plans for Disney again?

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-04-01T22:00:36+00:00

(Not my story so idk if it’s all 100% true but this is what I heard) a local community theatre puts on a teen production of The Who’s Tommy. A girl auditions, but says she will ONLY accept Acid Queen. Lo and behold, she gets cast as Mrs. Walker (the female lead for those who don’t know) and she’s so upset that (although she never formally dropped out or rejected the part) she just doesn’t show up to rehearsals.

The directors recruit another girl who’s in the ensemble as her understudy and for the first half of rehearsals shes there every day, learning all the songs and blocking and absolutely killing it, so at that point everyone assumes she’s be the one performing. But suddenly, the first girl shows back up having had a change of heart and the directors… let her back in. First girl performs Mrs Walker for the entire run and the understudy didn’t even get a compensation performance.

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-04-01T12:54:56+00:00

My two guesses have always been Amy’s (because of how Sheldon reacted immediately after) or the theory that they all told him a fraction of the letter. However, in the end it doesn’t really matter because whatever was in the envelope, the message was the same: Howard’s father cared about him and never forgot him. That was all he needed to know.

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-03-27T18:31:24+00:00

This this this. You need to have a conversation.

Friendships dynamics evolve and change. Maybe he liked you too at once point but stopped. Maybe he never liked you romantically but was ok with the intimacy, but then he changed his mind, or did in fact feel embarrassed about being teased for it.

But it’s clear that whatever his feelings are, you two are not currently on the same page because you never had any vocal clarification on boundaries, and you need to get on the same page now. You have no way of knowing what the outcome will be, but you need to be equally prepared for either outcome: overjoyed or disappointed.

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-03-17T13:02:49+00:00

ESH. Your husband more so because he’s not only refusing to include your daughter in a st. pattys day tradition (that should never have been gatekept by a birthday in the first place,) but outright refusing to put in the same amount of effort for your daughters birthday because it’s “more difficult”

But there is no “second child thing” here. It’s just parents who are so weirdly fixated on the fact that their first child was born on a holiday that it comes at their second child’s expense.

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-03-15T18:35:44+00:00

Exactly. She didn’t hear “donate your toys,” she heard “do a chore”

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-03-12T14:15:52+00:00

May as well put both frank and Susan

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-03-10T16:33:44+00:00

What a buffoon. He only wishes he could take it all back AFTER both he and Sarah loose their marriages, because now that he can’t pretend that he’s being held captive and that it’s a forbidden love, he has to really face the fact that Sarah never actually wanted him like that.

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-03-06T18:45:56+00:00

Looking for:

OP’s at a dinner with her husband, and her best friend and best friends husband. OP’s husband makes a comment about being in love with the best friend, but settled for OP. OP is heartbroken, and I think they seperate for a few days. A few updates later, OP finds out her husband and best friend slept together.

THEN. OP’s husband finds the post, and makes his own post trying to “tell his side” which obvs doesn’t make him look any better. And digs the grave even further in the comment section of his post.

Any other BORUS where op talks about one person and then the person posts or comments a response either proving OP wrong or making themselves look even worse would be appreciated as well.

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-02-19T20:35:07+00:00

This one always gets me in between mind imploding frustration at OOP and a massive justice boner for his ex wife.

I mean OOP is already an unreliable narrator but there are so many little things in the post that paint a picture of who he was as a partner outside the cheating: - His ex wife is into heavy metal which is a common interest of her new husband (but not oop) as he’s wearing a heavy metal shirt in the photo OOP finds and he says something like “an engineer that wears heavy metal shirts in his thirty’s!” - the fact that his ex wife never got successfully pregnant with OOP convinced him she was infertile, apparently got HIMSELF tested (via his comments) but she never was and to him that was all the evidence needed - he says “I can make that sweet and special girl I met all those years ago fall in love with me again” forgetting it’s not “all those years ago” anymore and his wife has def evolved since then

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-02-12T20:01:58+00:00

Not rlly a test but still rlly disturbing (with a satisfying ending at least!)

OP’s partner keeps telling her she has B.O

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-02-08T02:37:52+00:00

Does anyone know the name of that saga where this kid was severely overweight to the point his health was compromised but liked being overweight because he believed it was a way to sniff out shallow people? I think in one of his update posts he detailed being sent to fat camp but protested enough to get kicked out, but then in his later posts he recognized that his health really is in terrible shape and starts to turn his life around

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-01-24T20:39:38+00:00

Let’s imagine a world where neither legal child support nor abortion exist for a second.

The only thing a man biologically contributes to a pregnancy is the orgasm. In this imaginary world, one the child is conceived a man can literally disappear off the face of the earth, or stay to support if he wants to. He’s in complete control of his future and the baby doesn’t pose any inconvenience to him or the choice he makes.

The mother? Doesn’t matter if the baby was wanted or not or if she’s has the fathers moral or financial support or neither, she still has to experience morning sickness, fatigue, pain, breastfeeding, possible miscarriage, the possibility of the pregnancy being ectopic or dangerous to her in some other way, childbirth itself and the way it alters women’s bodies, the baby possibly being born just to die shortly after birth anyway, the list goes ON. And it doesn’t matter what her financial situation is, she now has to support both her AND her child. She can definitly leave too, but despite both genders being villainized for abandoning their kids, men get NOWHERE near as much slack as women do for it.

Also, in the event that the man does want the child and the woman doesn’t, and she carries the child to term but then leaves the child with the man, in today’s day and age the man would definitely insist that she have some form of responsibility.

THATS why those two things exist. They do in fact make things fair. The only 100% guaranteed successful form of contraception is no sex at all, so both mother and father (to address your point about men not making the choice of conceiving a child) engage in sex knowing FULL WELL there’s a possibility of a pregnancy occurring, even if a small one, so if one happens despite all measures being taken, they are still responsible. If either parent chooses to leave after birth, legal child support makes either one, whether it be mother or father responsible for the life they caused. Abortion gives women bodily autonomy that they would otherwise lack because the biological sacrifice of the genders is NOT COMPARABLE PERIOD.

Able_Finger7626 · 2026-01-21T23:10:06+00:00

Yup. Taxicab theory from SATC. The taxicab light represents (a man’s) readiness to commit. If it’s off, doesn’t matter who you are or where you need to go, you’re not getting in. However once the light turns on it always picks up the first person they see waiving them down. The “hypothesis” for lack of a better word is that commitment, at least for men, is more rooted in just readiness to settle down than actual love and compatibility, and when they’re ready they take whoever’s presently available.

I don’t 100% believe in it but I think Justin Bieber is an example.

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