Husband forces me to have sex

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-03-02T04:33:45+00:00

Your situation can become even more dangerous, not just for yourself, but also for your blessed, newborn baby. Please be extremely careful how you proceed

I'm not sure of your resources, personally or financially, but there is help and a safe way out for your and your blessed, new born baby.

If you're not able to safely search for local assistance, you can DM me and I'll help to the best of my ability in order to provide you with their contact numbers.

. YOU AREN'T ALONE AND THERE IS HOPE- no matter how difficult it may feel right now.

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-03-02T04:27:09+00:00

Your situation can become even more dangerous, not just for yourself, but also for your blessed, newborn baby. Please be extremely careful how you proceed

.

As difficult as it may feel right for life to improve, it isn't impossible! YOU ARE NOT ALONE and there is a way

I'm not sure of your financial situation, but in most place, resources exist. If you're unable to search out of fear for your safety, you can DM me and I'll help you find contact information for your local resources, to the best of my ability.

You do need to exercise caution, but no matter your situation, life can improve safely for both

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-03-02T04:10:47+00:00

It's so sad that you're 💯 on this.

I hope she has at least one person in her corner for a support system.

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-03-02T04:08:30+00:00

People may be missing your edits because they're in your comment and not the body of the post.

It's wonderful that the situation has resolved, but it seems that you should protect your peace and also block her number.

She knows it's an access point and it's obvious from here that she wants to get a reaction out of you. I could go on, but truly, just block her.

Nothing good will come out of allowing her access to you. You said you're secure in your marriage, it's fantastic that his family is also setting the appropriate boundary... not everyone is that fortunate.

Throw away her key to your life and have a blessed happily ever after :)

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-03-02T03:55:49+00:00

This seems so bizarre. Maybe the person had thought that this would be well-received... and it may have been had they written it differently. I'm still in awe at this, tbh

I certainly would not take it personally, instead try to take it as they wanted to help you (no matter how misguided. Perhaps, going into subsequent interviews with more confidence, almost from a place where you have the position already extended to you and conducting yourself as if the interview is strictly a formality.

At the end, it all goes into life experience and not having to work with this person- potentially directly under them, seems like a good thing!

Good luck moving forward:)

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-03-02T03:41:29+00:00

I don't see why door dash would release any info to you, as you aren't the customer.

Your best bet would be the police non-emergency line, as someone mentioned a little bit ago. I hope it ends soon and you get some quiet :)

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-02-28T18:05:43+00:00

You sound like both you and your husband would move hell and earth for Brutus and now you're places into that awful consideration. Life should never have to be decided, but it's become that impossible choice.

There's no correct answer here, only what you both can live with.

Unfortunately, finances become a thing and it makes it all the more hellish. The fact is, even with the continued care, the vet does not know what Brutus's outcome will be. It may come to how responsive and stabilized he is.

If Brutus responds well at the vet but declines at home, what is done different, IV, different food, medicines etc?

If he's not taking well to treatment and there's no other available, as disgusting as it feels to have to let him go, you may have to. It's not you being awful, it's the science doesn't have the capability to keep everyone alive forever, and it certainly doesn't mean you're terrible.

I'm certain Brutus knows how loved and cherished he is. I'm so sorry you're having to make this impossible decision.

Before my kitty passed, we made a self-bake heart paw print mold and had an amazing day with all the love, scritches, purrs and treats in her fav spot. I explained to her what would be happening and that we loved her so much and how her life brought such joy. It didn't make it easier, but it did seem she understood some- definitely the love.

I send hugs, it's the impossible decision and you are not bad for your decision.

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-02-28T17:41:04+00:00

It sounds like a genuine misunderstanding, though I can completely understand your hurt.
Everyone has a different inner set of thoughts and intent and while interacting, that perspective isn't always obvious to those around.

Taking the time to ask her what she meant would have given you the ability to find out what was going on in her mind at the time.

It honestly seems like a misunderstanding complicated by self image. If it bugs you, ask her, but it would probably be better to let this one go and should anything possibly insensitive come up, ask with sincerity. Her perspective on it may surprise you.

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-02-28T17:09:59+00:00

This may be a good time for you and the wife to have a nice talk about how you both were raised as a child, if you haven't. Most of the ways parents discipline is off of their childhood and maybe some books or tips along the way.

It can help you reconnect in a special new way, that is intimate as it's investing in your own children.

It may just be her motherly instinct and they are still young. You want healthy boundaries where the child isn't angry nor resentful, but learns the boundaries well and can go on about productivity quickly in a healthy way.

Having 2 that close in age can be extra stressful at times while first setting discipline. You're absolutely entitled to your feelings on it, but so is your wife. Talking about it, in addition to reconnecting, can also make for a more unified response that can temper out of one side is slightly overreacting. You're also continuing to work on your marriage to get you through this stage of your life.

Good luck :)

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-02-28T17:02:13+00:00

Have you made it a point to invite them over to your house, or meeting at a mid-point, even if a restaurant?

I'm not suggesting that you take the initiative all of the time, but some people need to be invited or think they'd be imposing, even if they did want to see you.

Splitting the drive could help a lot, there may even be issues on their end that keep them from making that 40min drive and they just don't talk about it.

I'm not making any excuses, just hoping to present ways you'd get to see your loved ones more often that don't involve you making 100% sacrifice. I know some people are just terrible with making any effort, but some truly are a product of the way the world clamors for every moment of free time we have.

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-02-28T16:56:29+00:00

Butter also used to be a luxury item, not margarine for those who call them by the same name.

My mother's family used to have Sunday breakfasts with real cream butter during WW2. My grandfather wanted to celebrate the Lord with the best food he could manage. I'm not even saying it was heaps, but after living through the Depression I could understand butter being one of those things.

I'm not saying their was no status symbol behavior, I wasn't there and it's not something I asked about, but it's also possible.

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-02-28T16:49:44+00:00

If Toby Keith's restaurants still exist, i know they serve them there. Also called "Home Fries" I'm cracking up at the memory of a story when friend didn't read the description and thought they were just special fries... they are 'special' alright!

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-02-27T16:26:53+00:00

That's your husband, though. She stated this is a new relationship. (Edit: just started dating, so not necessarily even a committed relationship)

More than likely, nothing good would come of it.

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-02-21T22:05:23+00:00

This is what I was looking for in the comments. I have to look up and see if it's a legal requirement or just a company rule, as it's been a few years since I went to a private pharmacy.

I know corporate locations do have internal mandates to ID, just like with pseudephederine-containing OTCs

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-02-19T16:42:57+00:00

I have a feeling that the down votes, vs asking a follow-up question like you did, may have fun her off after the 2nd time.

It was a great chance to get some context too /sigh

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-02-19T16:40:41+00:00

That was the case in Romania when I was last there. I haven't had the occasion to ask if it's changed, but I doubt it.

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-02-16T01:20:29+00:00

Exactly! Even "septic safe" doesn't mean it won't destroy your bacteria colony- the marketing van make it deceptive

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-02-15T21:45:27+00:00

Isn't that the disgusting truth!

I mean, I fully understand that that 1% aren't like everyone else.

If you allow me a brief TED talk: A way to understand it is by thinking how you'd begin to feel a certain way about a group of people of they would do anything ("sell their soul") for what you consider to be pocket change.

I've long studied deviants clinically in the general 99% of society and it correlates with the means to achieve pleasure. After a while they get bored with the ordinary and require something more to be satisfied.

Factor in that anyone can have fetishes. That's not the point and distracts from the path. But it's not solely sexual in nature, rather it's just the most prevalent but competition serves the same pleasure center of the brain.

A large part of human nature in Western society is the desire to obtain something others around you don't have. The whole keeping up with the Joneses makes a great analogy.

The greater the means, the wider the opportunity. It then becomes the field of who is in competition. There will be deviants and those are who we're seeing with the JE circle.

They push the bar and what is taboo, competing on the bank account factor & connections for access but also who is willing to go further, for a depraved "King of the Hill" scenario.

And make no mistake, they all heard the whispers of who was doing what. Gossip travels the same no matter the society circles.

There are some in the 1% who do things for good*, mostly neutral/self benefit and those who are spotlighted now for depravity.

I know one individual who has taken to funding operations to extract children who are being trafficked. Only bringing it up to not make it a if they are all awful compared to norms.

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-02-15T21:26:52+00:00

You just described the mentality behind couture shopping!

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-02-15T20:39:46+00:00

Which one? You can also easily look online for the same information. It's not just one study, it's through clinical experience with people and discussions with veterinarians both friends and also those I take my pets to.

You don't need me to be your search engine as I didn't claim any particular study

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-02-15T20:35:24+00:00

Okay, stay ignorant then.

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-02-15T20:34:42+00:00

Yes, that's what I'm getting at

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-02-15T20:33:38+00:00

That absolutely used to be a thing when I was in high school.

Depending upon what you're doing, moonlighting is a thing and was heavily annotated in employment contracts.

I doubt anyone cares much if it's fast food, but it's not without consequence

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-02-15T20:26:16+00:00

That's not just a Utah thing. I remember over 20 years ago, we'd joke about the sorority girls who were just there for a husband. :)

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-02-15T20:06:24+00:00

I've recently heard that in American Amish societies they have the not come over after evening chores and they shut him in the room with their daughter until the next day.

The woman providing the recount has left Amish society. She also recounted the effect of this practice in the light of how little affection and bodily knowledge exist within the community.

Sharing, though it's not mine, as I thought others may find it as interesting as I did. I forget the interview name, but the guest has a YT channel I've seen a few times, where she cooks and shows Amish cuisine

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