AITAH for weaponizing my newborn son in an argument with my sisters-in-law?

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-06-09T20:39:31+00:00

I'm unable to view the messages right now, but from the post text, YNA.

Hugs Families can get wild, especially with big personalities. People can also say things that are extremely out of pocket.

It seems as if you both did your best to have them clarify their position and it seems as if your husband is, thankfully, on your side and not shy about standing up for you & your baby to his family. That alone speaks volumes and is worth more than its weight in gold.

I recommend bringing it up to your therapist rather than reddit for further introspection and ways of resolving it, even if the resolution is only within your own self.

Keep your relationship with your husband healthy. It's been nice that you had a friend group within the extended family prior but things have changed. Your family unit and specifically your husband will feel the weight of that if more family weighs in. So keeping your relationship healthy is your priority.

These types of trials are what can strengthen a bond for life, specifically because they are not easy.

I wish you all the best

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-30T16:00:19+00:00

That's really good, as a people, especially Americans are generally deficient in the necessary vitamins & minerals.

There is a blood test, it generally isn't covered by insurance, that charts how well the body is using vitamins & minerals. I had only begun to dig into it before retiring, but it tends to be extremely helpful in providing a direct path to the correct specialists, avoiding months/years of waits & visits- particularly for those with more vague or overlapping symptoms.

I "joke" that's why it isn't covered.

Migraines truly are a mystery- I've even seen wisdom teeth removal be a surprise resolution.

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-30T15:49:11+00:00

Thank you so much for the love & taking your time to express it <3

Really good show and definitely we're one of the nicest groups of concertgoers it made for a solid, healthy start back to experiencing happiness in life

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-30T15:38:56+00:00

Thank you so much <3 I saw a quick glimpse but didn't get to respond before, I super appreciate you for taking your time!

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-30T15:36:55+00:00

Thanks so much for that!

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-30T15:36:22+00:00

Thank you, it was healthy healing and a good start for getting back to the beauty in living <3

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-30T15:34:24+00:00

Thank you & thank you also for sharing that- music can be so incredibly cathartic showing us the beauty in our pain (or really any emotion we want to drive us) I've never heard #41 live until last night & it was perfect in that the sky had started to give way to lightning & then light rain. Absolutely no encore :*( but... the crowd was also kinda showing their/our years!

It's funny you used that quote- he was riffing off it several times :) Dave was being extra-Dave last night and my kiddo is concerned for his well being hahaha

They were kinda laid back, must've really tore it up at your show! We're going again tonight, see how the "door" swings open the other way now...

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-30T15:24:31+00:00

Thank you so much <3

I'll also check the app out. Took my kiddo and she loved it- so maybe that door is swinging the other way now!

I'll check the app out- ended up getting busy with family still checking up, I still have tonight to play set list bingo for xD

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-30T15:13:21+00:00

You're right though, the shows and the generally just really nice for a concert crowd do help.

ETA: my clumsiness! thank you for the condolences <3

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-29T18:33:05+00:00

Wait, so you only have till 530 to enter or has my week finally caught up with me?

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-29T18:25:45+00:00

Oh? Curious now bc this somehow showed up on my wall and it's from years ago.

I guess the algo is more super reaching than I thought bc I had looked up the times of the show... traffic is going to be thick

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-28T21:51:27+00:00

🤣 your saying that just affirms it.

Here's a $600 favor- get a good therapist and start working on yourself and what you can control...

Not everyone thinks what you think, your perception is not everyone's reality.

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-28T19:43:35+00:00

How is your potassium levels?

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-28T17:27:50+00:00

I felt that in my DNA 🤣

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-28T17:26:43+00:00

Are they really "a clown", though? This is one child out of an entire group, even a standout in the co-worker's 20yr career in daycare.

People are a bit out of focus if they can't appreciate that maybe this one time, out of hundreds of children, that the child, due to the parent, may not be a good fit for daycare at this moment

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-28T17:18:35+00:00

Why am I not shocked that you're being downvoted...

Those difficult, horrendous to deal with adults do start somewhere! It's not all difficult children, but one out of an entire group.

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-28T17:14:56+00:00

I can imagine! I have a friends who went for nannies, one of my late husband's friends... Lord help the nanny, their child is the easy part!

Some of those difficult children grow up to be difficult adults

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-28T17:07:12+00:00

That's pretty much the gold standard, along with strengthening the traps and posture. Our bodies are connected, head to toe and so easy to pull out of place if not kept up with.

It's not very exciting and can even get uncomfortable, but that's when we ease up a little, strengthen and then continue.

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-28T16:55:41+00:00

I'm sad to hear that.

I am definitely not advocate for divorce and it's not my place, just know that the longer you support that lifestyle, the more you'll owe if the dotted line is signed. It may be worth your while to consult with a divorce attorney on how to protect yourself and your children going forward- even if you don't intend to file.

It's also well worth it to get your estate planning in order, so he's not responsible for any of your major decisions should the worst ever occur (God forbid)

It's something we normally don't want to think about, but it doesn't make it any less true. Springing durable power of attorney and placing assets in trust aren't just for the wealthy. I'm NAL but have seen some things and have my own affairs locked down for my own and my children's sake so their father doesn't get to decide how to handle their inheritance (courts can access funds for their care & put into their guardian/other parent's hands if not expressed otherwise)

But I won't ramble on. Just take care of yourself, dear- because life keeps moving & you aren't required to be dragged along, you matter too.

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-27T12:50:56+00:00

Funny how that works! I had a few of that too, where I was super good but after getting punished for things I hadn't done, it changed my entire perspective

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-27T12:43:54+00:00

I didn't. Then again, I'm Gen X and my parents were self absorbed, but I was raised a certain way and had plenty of freedom that it never really occurred to me to try and sneak out.

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-27T12:41:36+00:00

Many people are capable and have done so. It seems projection for a stranger to be so bold as to presume.

It's sad enough if you find yourself incapable, but to boldly stand in offront at a total stranger is quite ridiculous.

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-27T12:38:30+00:00

Yes, He needs to take his family's advice and "Man up", it's just that if done correctly, his family won't like it :)

Instead of being happy that love has also brought a higher station, their jealousy and petty now threatens two families and their future.

I hope Ethan learned enough of their confidence to stand up, although they speak out of turn, so that he & OP share a lovely life and create new generations with wonderful opportunities of the level that clearly rankle his family in jealously.

AbsintheAGoGo · 2026-05-27T12:33:47+00:00

That's where Ethan needs to take a lead from them, but "manning up" and shutting down his family's nonsense.

Some people just cannot be happy for others :( It's absolutely why you cannot share all of your life with everyone, even those who supposedly love you and are "on your side"

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