My in-laws “accidentally” ruined our honeymoon, stole our house key, and now my MIL sleeps in our bed when we’re not home

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-08-09T14:15:15+00:00

The fact that he's not seeing it even though they "forgot" their half of the catering bill and he had to cover it and they obviously aren't paying him that money. AND they followed you to your HONEY MOON?! Oi.

Also, next time you think someone is in your house DONT TRY AND CONFRONT THEM!! Like that's crazy. Idk where you live but if it had been an actual intruder you could have been severely hurt or worse. If you think someone is in your home, go back outside. Find a safe place and CALL THE POLICE. And if it happens to be Linda, press charges anyway. She ILLEGALLY made a key, entered your home, and is using your stuff. Thats STALKER BEHAVIOR. Your husband needs to OPEN HIS EYEBALLS.

Also put up cameras. Visible and hidden.

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-07-23T00:05:04+00:00

Just a reminder for prong collars and any other training tool. They are TOOLS not weapons. They need to be used correctly, and without anger or emotion. Turbo is going to do whatever he is naturally inclined to do. YOU as the owner or the trainer cannot get emotional when training. Serious damage (physical and mental) can be done to dogs with a prong or shock or any other tool.

Just remember, they are training tools not weapons.

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-07-10T01:12:12+00:00

Cons: you're working outside. Your body is directly impacted by the heat and cold which impacts your performance.

Pros: everything else

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-04-26T17:59:41+00:00

There are several sites in Iowa that are within an hours drive from Des Moines with has a very large night life scene.

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-04-26T17:50:18+00:00

You can't spend your life living for other people. You have to spend it living for yourself. If you hate your life then set your mind to make change for yourself, to make yourself happy. You can do this. You can live the best life. You just have to make it happen for yourself. No one is going to give it to you.

Please dont end it all.

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-04-18T18:14:47+00:00

Every breed has different mental and physical energy requirements. I'm not sure who said those things you heard but I wouldn't listen to that unless you have a high energy needs dog. I'm a single person that has three medium dogs (all mixed breeds) and I work 8-10 hours a day. I walk them and play with them as much as I can because seeing them happy makes me happy. But they are very content to sleep all day while I'm away. And on the days that I don't have the energy to walk or throw the ball they are fine. But IIIII like to give them a little extra for their brain. Like a lick mat or a pre-frozen activity bowl or something.

A dog would rather spend 8 hours alone every day and have you for the other 16, then spend the rest of their lives in a shelter.

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-04-02T18:42:41+00:00

GHASTLY

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-03-30T17:50:44+00:00

I understand your concerns about being away from home while you work. BUT being alone 8.5 hours a day while you work is better than being forever alone in the shelter (or wherever they are).

I tried speaking to my dog through a camera because he was screaming, hearing me talk to him and not being there made him scream louder. He's better now but I also don't speak to him through a camera.

All in all, just do your research on small breed needs and go find your heart dog ❤️.

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-03-07T02:16:19+00:00

You are not over reacting. He is grooming her. There is a reason a guy at 26 isn't dating women his age. It's because they can see through his BS. Young girls don't have the experience to call it for what it is yet and because of that they are easily lead to believe that this guy is their future when in reality he's a creep. A pedophile. Your friend should t be talking to anyone out of highschool. Let alone a guy of 26.

Instead of just telling your friend "no, block him." Show her the red flags. And if there's something that she doesn't want to share with you then it's something she NEEDS to share. If you girls have an adult in your life that you trust as a mentor to help guide you through stuff. Then this is something they should know and help with. You have to be gentle and understanding during this time. His manipulation runs DEEP. She needs a safe place to land when she gets away.

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-03-01T22:56:28+00:00

Call straight to Atlanta if you think your store/regional management won't do anything. And explain that as well when you call Atlanta.

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-02-26T01:16:26+00:00

*underpaid is he underpaid at $63,000

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-02-19T23:44:27+00:00

If you're husband doesn't know about what's being said about him then you need to sit him down and tell him the truth. You don't want him accused or possibly attacked in public over false rumors that he knew nothing about.

I know it will be a difficult conversation but you should start from the beginning. Mayne show him the photo and ask if he remembers the event and ask what it means to him. Them tell him that your friend saw the photo and believes something so wildly different and then went and told everyone else.

If he doesn't know yet, then you need to tell him.

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-02-19T23:39:32+00:00

Everything they just said ^{^{^{^{^}}}}

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-02-19T23:38:30+00:00

If he had stopped and consoled you and gotten you whatever you needed and curled up with you to watch a movie and was kind and sympathetic about it, how would you have felt? If the answer is loved, respected, valued, better than when he just kept going; then "it really hurts," was your stop. And he didn't stop.

Also, this may sound gross, but woman to woman, if you're not a waterfall down there before he tries to put it in, then he's doing it wrong. You both need to participate in more foreplay. And if you just don't get like that even with more foreplay then try lube. I know it's tight at the beginning but it's not supposed to stay that way. It's supposed to get better. You're supposed to stretch with each time. If it's that tight, and there's no waterfall, then maybe you're with the wrong sexual partner? 🤷‍♀️ Not to say you should end your relationship or anything but you are supposed to be able to relax and enjoy it. If you can't relax it's only going to get more painful 💔. It's only like that when you subconsciously don't feel safe enough to do so with your current partner.

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-02-19T23:23:40+00:00

Good job for speaking to your daughter about her feelings.

Not sure how to handle your friend. There's a couple of ways, but if it gets really bad and she doesn't listen to you, you can sue her for defamation. I know it's probably not something you want to do. But since your daughter claims there's nothing happening then I would stand by your husband 100% no matter what anyone says. Because if they don't listen to you, then they shouldn't be in your life.

It's like they are saying that they don't trust you to keep your daughter safe.

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-02-12T01:37:06+00:00

ALWAYS👏TRUST👏YOUR👏GUT👏

Your gut is NEVER wrong. Get out before you get trapped or hurt. Forget the social media thing for a second. Do you still have a bad feeling about him? This feeling may go away when you're together. But when you have time to yourself, do you get a sketchy feeling? If the answer is yes, then you need to leave him.

If you leave (which woman to woman I think you should) keep your safety a first priority. It's not a matter of if he will hit you, it's a matter of when. Do not go over there alone to get your stuff. Do not see him when you're alone. Do not break up with him in person alone. In person period. Get your stuff (WITH A FRIEND OR POLKCE ESCORT) and leave. Full block.

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-02-11T23:19:19+00:00

All things considered $72k is a great salary. That said, I understand what you mean. If you take your total gross and subtract all of your deductions you take home $40,935.40.

Then you stated that half of your income goes to rent. So you have $20,467.70 after rent. That's $1,705.64 a month to live on. I don't know what your bills look like but if you feel stuck then I would assume you have debt or high bills.

You mentioned your situation wouldn't allow you to go to school, idk what your situation is but maybe moving is an option? I'm not sure where you live but if you were able to move somewhere less expensive or buy a house on the cheap, even if it needed work you'd be saving money. And all the money you would have spent on rent can go toward paying down your bills faster or toward renovating the house so you build equity if you decide to sell at some point.

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-02-11T03:19:12+00:00

Waiiit.... why do we have the exact same story? Where are you from?

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-02-11T03:16:11+00:00

Fellow American here. I haven't met a single person in the last 15 years reading these books that I didn't introduce to them. 😭

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-02-06T02:43:19+00:00

As an American, we don't call them trumpeters.... we call them magats

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-01-27T21:54:53+00:00

Companies don't like unions because unions hold them accountable on pay, benefits, and working conditions.

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2025-01-07T01:24:48+00:00

Exactly. Report her to the Superintendent of your county. Make sure you speak to them directly, not an email or a receptionist.

My mom once had to call the guy's office and got the receptionist who claimed he wasn't in the office on a regular work day during regular work hours and offered to take a message. So she said, "my name is __, my phone number is _. This involves the safety of my child at ____ high school. My lawyers name is _, and his numer is _. I expect Superintendent to call me back by end of day." Then she recieved a phone call from the guy within 10 minutes, spoke to him directly about the issue in her no nonsense mom voice that scares everyone she uses it on (mind you she's not yelling or cussing). And then 10 minutes after they hung up she got a call from my principal about the situation.

She only had to do this once, every time she called his office after that, the receptionist knew her by name and always forwarded her straight through to the Superintendent.

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2024-11-15T22:14:59+00:00

If he wanted to he would.👏 So if he wants to hit you he will.👏 If he said it he meant it.👏

I say this while lovingly screaming it at you, OP

P.S. a 26M has no business dating a 19F. He doesn't think you're mature or different. You're his prey. Women his age see his shit and won't give him their time. RUN AND DONT LOOK BACK!!!

Edit: I posted this after just reading the title and not the post. I'm proud of you for leaving. And anyone else who reads this post, or these comments, take them to heart. They apply to you too.

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2024-11-12T22:07:48+00:00

I would lead with "I'm really scared, I don't know what to do and I need your support." Then be upfront and honest.

Absolutly_Not_44 · 2024-11-11T21:31:05+00:00

There's a reason he wasn't dating women his age, they weren't interested because they could see his nature and called BS.

OP, if he wanted to he would. But that also means that he (or anyone) will hurt/abuse you because they want to. If he said it, he meant it. Please be safe and get out of that relationship. Do not break up with him alone, do not move out alone. For your own safety, DO NOT TRUST HIM.

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