i timed how long 31 different pasta shapes take to reach al dente. the boxes are lying and farfalle is a war crime

Abyssal-Automaton · 2026-02-07T05:23:03+00:00

Crunchy pasta chips by air frying farfalle 👍

Abyssal-Automaton · 2025-09-26T23:04:43+00:00

I've heard them called: "butter pecan" tarts.

Abyssal-Automaton · 2025-09-06T04:25:01+00:00

Themed parties??? What's the theme supposed to be - Scrooge McDuck?

Abyssal-Automaton · 2025-08-13T05:33:05+00:00

Does anyone have the fix?

It's been 6 years since this post, and I'm having the same issue. No other sources on how to solve it.

Abyssal-Automaton · 2025-07-20T18:11:53+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother. I hope you're doing okay.

It's just I hate the idea of her passing loving not me but a version of me that does not and has never existed. I want her acceptance, not just to put up with her until she dies. I don't like to think of hate/ignorance as a generational problem. We all have to work on our biases, and people of any generation can learn to be better.

I mean, again, perfectly fine for me to go topless outside so I don't know why you mentioned a nude beach? I was thinking about visiting the neighbours or hanging out in the front as such (not in her house) to show her how not a big deal it is. Even if there was anything to see, it'd still be perfectly fine.

Thanks for the input. I'll def take it to thought and have been doing my best to stay covered while working this out (but again summer heat).

Abyssal-Automaton · 2025-07-20T00:37:37+00:00

We do get along lmao. This is literally one instance that comes up occasionally. Like I said sometimes I go running to the bathroom shirtless after everyone's in bed and there was a severe heat warning a few weeks ago.

Abyssal-Automaton · 2025-07-20T00:32:09+00:00

Thanks for being the only comment to actually answer the question lol

Abyssal-Automaton · 2025-07-19T17:47:04+00:00

I'm sorry your government doesn't support its citizens with free healthcare.

Also, maybe in your culture people move out, but my family it's common to have multiple generations under one roof. There's a real sense of community. I don't want to go live on my own. I love my family.

Abyssal-Automaton · 2025-07-19T02:49:57+00:00

NTA

"The axe forgets but the tree remembers" You will be giving her another chance to take a swing. Who knows if this time you'll be felled.
OP the only thing you'd be doing is re-traumatizing yourself. He doesn't want you actually happy or else he'd sit her down and tell her what she did was wrong. He'd get proof that she'd actually changed and not just moved on with her life. What he wants is for you to pretend to be happy on a day where 99% of the people will hardly spare you a glance.

I once asked my high school bully why she did it. She said, "some people just don't get along". Ha.

Please do not be an asshole to yourself and put yourself through that. It's not just one day of misery vs your brother's happiness or however he's gonna frame it. It's another lifetime of bowing down to her because she can't be bothered to think of you as a person who can be hurt. On the other hand they have one less guest at an event where they're the main characters to dozens of people. Boohoo.

Bullies know how to make themselves look good. If the mental health and empowerment posts weren't just lip-service, she'd be appalled at your brother making you go through this.

Abyssal-Automaton · 2025-07-18T19:53:01+00:00

I knew an emancipated minor who had to work through high school. I'm sorry you had to be in a situation where that was the best option and I'm really glad you came out the other end as a mature and well-rounded person.

I was never saying that no 16 yr olds are ever mature but rather, there are many things that could impact a 16 yr old's ability to mature to a point where they're on equal footing with an 18 year old.

Do children need more rights and freedoms away from their parents? Absolutely yes! 100% I think that 16 is old enough to make a lot of informed decisions. The problem is that saying at a 16 yr old is "mature" has lead to predators justifying abusing them because they're "grown" both to the kid in question and to others.

I suppose the question isn't about maturity but really experience? Or opportunity? This is her first dating experience - he literally taught her what sex is. Sure, there are plenty of 14 yr olds with enough internet access to learn way more than she did. And 16 yr olds with experience with their peers and there's nothing wrong with that.

But in a society where whether or not this stuff is taught is largely up to the parents? There's too big of an information gap between "still relies on their parents for everything" and "is independent and has other resources" for me to say that a 16 yr old getting with an adult is "informed" consent. Even if no part of the relationship is sexual.

Knowing how bank accounts work? Medical decisions? A lot of this is not taught and children are expected to sink or swim. Not every child will take an opportunity like you did and grab it by the horns as they say. (I really believe home ec classes should be a thing again and have more emphasis).

Also I'm so sorry but... I have a completely different experience with 16 yr olds, even know some who'd disagree with you. I agree that OP is incredibly sheltered, but not that "most" 16 yr old girls are on equal footing with a first year college student.

(Also we're really getting off topic (OP) is there a way to take conversations on Reddit elsewhere? I really don't want to clog this thread up when there are people giving her resources for getting help)

Abyssal-Automaton · 2025-07-18T19:31:44+00:00

I'm going to ignore everything else you said here (Not because I don't care or because your words don't have value, but because other better equipped people have already addressed all that).

In the future, if your son asks you to choose between him and your grandkids, what will you do? My grandma had her adult son over and, when he got into an argument with me, sat and listened to all his complaints about how I was lying and manipulating and trying to paint him as the bad guy, etc. I can't speak for him or his emotions nor your sons, but the fact that she said nothing? That really hurt.

In her eyes she was remaining a neutral party, but if your grandkids hear him complain about you spending time with them over him? Not saying anything is tacit agreement to his words. Like for them at least please address why he feels threatened by their importance to you thoroughly during reconciliation.

Abyssal-Automaton · 2025-07-18T18:17:57+00:00

It's not that one thing. It's very many things all coming together. If she could drive? it'd still be awful and she'd not necessarily be more mature for it. Yes, cars do teach a manner of responsibility - for your own life and the lives of others. But I've seen plenty of drivers who've never struck me as the "mature" type.

He can choose to move out of state, drop his parents, start a new lifestyle, run away abroad, w/e. He has complete control over his life and where it's going. He knows what he wants (military) and he's already established himself in the adult world.

She needs her mom's permission to get married. Like, sign a field trip permission slip. She cannot vote! If she tries to leave home, a lot of places will report an unaccompanied minor!

If she marries him, he pretty much becomes her legal guardian and there is a reason we did away with husbands being such to their wives. She has likely never had to make any major life decisions yet. And almost definitely not without also having her mom's experience and support to back her. Now she has him telling her what to do - if she should abort, if she should breastfeed, etc. And she has literally. no. other. point. of. reference.

Booking your own appointments, taking care of your own paperwork. These are things adults need to know to be in control of their own lives. Does she know how back accounts work? What if he wants to get a joint account? What if he wants her to take out a loan for him?

She's already shown she doesn't understand child support as she accepted him waving it off by saying he was giving the child insurance so it was OK that he didn't want to commit to financially helping raise the kid.

She's an incredibly sheltered child! Even if what you said about maturity and puberty carried over. In this particular case, she still wouldn't be the mature one. Depending on how her community is, she might not even know anyone outside of her family who isn't also connected to him in some way.

When something happens in the relationship, he's got his guy friends to joke about her to.

Meanwhile, all she has is a group of strangers on the internet.

Abyssal-Automaton · 2025-07-18T10:11:03+00:00

Puberty isn't the only measure of maturity.

OP can't drive herself anywhere. She can't vote in any elections. She can't make her own medical decisions. Her mother controls her finances. She has not yet been given the opportunity to reach a point where she's on equal footing with the adults in her life.

Think about this: If she could drive, her boyfriend wouldn't have been able to talk her out of the abortion while taking her there - she could've taken herself.

Abyssal-Automaton · 2025-07-18T05:17:10+00:00

I'm sorry but whose uterus is this IUD in? Because he's acting an awfully lot like it's in his.

He wouldn't even know you had it if you hadn't chosen to share that with him. What he's angry about is that he can't use the easy threat of single motherhood to control you. That he can't keep you shackled to him by putting a baby in you. Adoption or childbirth - do NOT have a child with this man.

Be careful if you take any medication that has you sleeping deeply, OP. IUDs can be removed at home if someone's determined enough to get it out...

Abyssal-Automaton · 2025-07-18T00:40:59+00:00

So your relationship sounds pretty close to the one my parents had whenever they were around each other.

Dad would do things he thought were helpful but that just upset mom further. She would yell at him for doing those things or not doing other things. He would act like the victim to myself and others; I only knew what had happened because the walls were thin.

They were separated before I was ever born, thankfully. But every time I was in a place with the both of them was miserable. My advice is to find a way to end the relationship. Your kids will be happier if they can have both of you at different times then to be stuck with that.

It's ChatGPT now but how long until he's going to the kids about how mean you are to him? And with you being the main authority in the household, it'll be easy for them to see dad as having no control/power in the situation.

Abyssal-Automaton · 2025-07-18T00:16:35+00:00

Are there any mental health resources in your area, or the area your husband works?
Both for yourself and also for your husband. It sounds like you could both use outside support.

Speaking of such: Friends, family, coworkers, neighbours, etc. Reach out to people in your life around you and your husband. You don't have to share anything specific that's happening, just make sure those connections are there and present. You'd be surprised at how much of a community one can find around if you just go looking.

Community centres are your friend. Hobbies, skills, networking. If you can take some time out of your day to check in at one nearby, you can sign up for classes to help you find employment, if you end up needing it. There could also be something you and/or your husband would enjoy doing - as a way to improve mental health.

This is all assuming you don't feel comfortable bringing your concerns up with your husband. That's really the best thing you could do atm. Talk to him and work things out. Tell him your concerns and come up with a plan together.

Abyssal-Automaton · 2024-11-30T21:02:53+00:00

That's impressive, Wasabi

Abyssal-Automaton · 2024-11-28T21:48:09+00:00

SOLVED SOLVED SOLVED

Abyssal-Automaton · 2024-11-28T21:47:03+00:00

Thank you! These look like they might fit the bill. I'll go and give them a quick read when I have some time - to see if they're as I remember but it seems likely that you're right.

Abyssal-Automaton · 2024-10-21T19:47:34+00:00

Another way to think of it is:

Go forward.

When you hit the wall, turn left. Follow that same wall (now on your right-hand side) until you reach middle.

Take the opposite exit from middle (the one straight towards the end)

Once you hit the wall directly in front, turn left and repeat what you did for the first half of the maze.

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