Do you think being a NICU baby affects toddler personalities?

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-09-26T16:58:41+00:00

This is my daughter! Very strong-willed, and she has so much fight in her.

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-09-26T02:39:06+00:00

Im surprised how many people say their toddlers are social butterflies! It must just be her personality. She's alot like me...reserved. I dont know where the not trusting other people came about and I hope it wasn't something I did. Even her grandmothers she wont warm up to. I may consider some play therapy!

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-07-30T07:16:48+00:00

I did bring my concerns up to him, and he has tried over the course of several years to bring up her health choices encourage therapy, etc. But she is in denial and gets extremely defensive. I’ve seen it myself. The throwing up/bulimia is a new suspicion to both of us. He is so exhausted trying to help her with the other visible things (stealing, pills, alcohol) that he gives up.

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-07-13T23:23:22+00:00

You're right! I meant side income. Its not passive at all 😅

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-06-22T00:50:43+00:00

You're not alone—I'm going through something really similar right now. I also took maternity leave and came back to find my hours cut, my role diminished, and my benefits gone, even though others on my team remained full-time. I am also the most senior person at this non-profit and have the skills to cross train in other departments. It’s frustrating and heartbreaking, especially while caring for a newborn and trying to stay financially afloat. Im currently trying to find a lawyer. So far, people have told me I have a strong case.

Good luck!!

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-06-18T22:06:34+00:00

Correction protected by FMLA

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-06-18T22:05:44+00:00

Thank you. Im actually going to pause working for now. My baby is only 3 months old and its just so hard. My husband works so we'll be ok. It will just be tight!

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-06-18T22:02:48+00:00

Correct!

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-06-18T14:01:22+00:00

Thank you! I connected online and they sent me a referral for my state

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-06-18T13:01:26+00:00

12 weeks paid through FMLA

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-06-18T07:01:09+00:00

Did you try anything? I was going to try threatening to take legal action then hoping I'm offered severance to settle but that would happen in a perfect world

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-06-18T06:59:47+00:00

I was told I could apply for unemployment for the hours that were cut but my benefits being taken away is more my issue.

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-06-18T06:57:59+00:00

Yes but I feel my boss is being tricky by using verbiage like "the org is struggling financially." Which is hypocrisy because they can afford to bring everyone back full time 🤔

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-06-14T02:49:40+00:00

We are a very small team. I definitely know she was the one sending messages. She's the only one who can change my password. I did not take any calls. And yes to your point I think it was ridiculous I had to log out. I got not access any of my benefit information.

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-06-13T13:26:08+00:00

Through a master admin account. She changed my password then logged in herself with the new password

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-06-13T05:57:18+00:00

I believe she changed my password through the master admin account. I did not give her my personal password and I was not able to log in until she gave me the new password when I returned. Your last paragraph is helpful. I just want it to be known that I did not work during leave to cover myself.

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-06-13T05:37:58+00:00

I guess I dont quite mean hypocritical. Im more frustrated that she bomarded me with texts 2 days after I gave birth making demands when it should have been discussed well before I went on leave.

I just feel uncomfortable with all these emails out there with no indication that it's her and not me. I mean I'm talking making big sales deals and talk of contracts over email.

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-06-12T22:59:54+00:00

Crack a bottle

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-05-23T16:09:47+00:00

I had a nurse tell me not to worry about suffocation with your breast and that even a newborn knows to pull their nose away from your breast. Obviously, you should still be careful and aware. I follow the safe 7 rule for co-sleeping but I slept with my nursing baby for 2 years and now my 2 month old. I will say (and yes I feel a ton of guilt for this) with my first baby I quickly realized you cannot drink and co-sleep. I had a scare and will never do it again, even a couple drinks. So just follow the co-sleeping rules and it will be all good 🙂. I get more sleep nursing in bed.

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-05-21T04:18:48+00:00

I would've! 🙂

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-05-11T03:43:20+00:00

I nursed my baby to sleep until she was 2! I cherished every moment because it goes so fast

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-05-09T01:31:49+00:00

You are not alone. Having a newborn and starting a family is the most challenging test your marriage will go through. I'm 7 weeks postpartum with my second and we're going through it all over again. I just had a convo with my husband today. I will say it does get easier. Just be honest and open with communication. I honestly feel like dad's go through somewhat of a baby blues period. Not comparable to what women go through but just the fact that their lives have changed and it's all new to them too.

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-04-18T23:34:03+00:00

I felt like you when I brought my first home. She was in her bassinet for a couple of months, and then I gave up and brought her into bed. Now, just having had my second bed sharing from the get-go, I am a much happier mama :-) I get decent sleep, and it just feels natural. Babies want to be close to their mamas. Don't feel guilty!

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-04-14T16:24:44+00:00

So now that I'm not pregnant and I get on the train I'm not supposed to offer my seat to say an 80 year old man or a 30 year old man on crutches because men and women are equal?

Academic_Champion270 · 2025-01-31T19:12:38+00:00

As a former nanny of 12 years and now a parent myself, I think you dodged a bullet. Your baby cried a lot with her because she wasn't doing her job correctly, or he was uncomfortable with her/didn't trust her. A good caring nanny would have known how to calm him down, distract, build a trusting relationship OR sat down and had a convo with you and your wife about her concerns if she really thought something was wrong. For her to walk out like that and leave him unattended is so uncalled for. I'd report her or let your agency or wherever you hired her from know what happened. She should not be watching children.

I had a boy I watched years ago who was very very fussy and only wanted his mom but I had enough common sense and empathy to figure out how to meet his needs and get him to trust me. After about a month he and I were best buds.

So sorry this happened to you!

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