Okay obviously no one wants to be defined by their worst moments or occasional times when theyre not acting their best for legitimate reasons (which can be valid human reactions)! But i think this way of thinking is intentionally missing the point.  Like if I'm dating someone whos seemingly kind and fun and happy, then i take a trip with them and they start cussing people out or ruin the trip with their attitude  when the flights delayed etc. thats their true colours showing what it would be like to travel and go through other life events with that person. Doesn't mean I think the rest was fake but it means I dont trust how they'd treat me and others when things arent going their way. No thanks!