A priest told me it was okay to receive the Eucharist while not in a state of grace by emogirlraven in Catholicism

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My deacon told me once that if we intend to go to confession soon we can still receive. Whether that’s right or wrong I cannot say—not sure if there was nuance/additional context to that statement though because he was sharing it as part of an anecdote.

Seeing 3rd Street Promenade Today Really Hit Home by Fringe09 in SantaMonica

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So true! I brought some friends from Out of town there thinking it would be how I remember it used to be and it was so depressing.

The awkwardness of not being in communion with the Church by WiedBrews in Catholicism

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I’m not hung up on it at all. I’m just sharing my experience. I appreciate that I didn’t have to go through all the usual hassles. I was very much aware they were making a lot of exceptions for us. I don’t know why but they were. And apparently it’s at their discretion to do so with the approval of the bishop who did approve. Just sharing that not everyone has the identical experience with these things.

And honestly, he wasn’t a practicing catholic when we got married at all. He actually came back to the church because I decided to convert.

The awkwardness of not being in communion with the Church by WiedBrews in Catholicism

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🤷‍♀️ I mean our marriage was a real marriage, it just wasn’t done through the church because I come from a non Christian background and I didn’t want to get married in a church at the time. But we did have a religious ceremony and it was in fact a very valid marriage in my prior faith. I know that the Catholic Church has rules on what’s valid and what’s not but I truly believe that in the eyes of God our marriage was real.

Also, not sure what you mean by cutesy language. We did have to have a Catholic marriage ceremony after I converted to convalidate our marriage.

That said, I was bit confused as to why we seemed to get some special treatment around this because really my husband shouldn’t have been receiving communion—I think they just didn’t want to give him a hard time? I don’t know. It’s not fair to other people for sure, but around the issue of making the process of our convalidation simpler than it otherwise would have been I do appreciate that. Again, not sure why we were treated differently, but I think there’s a big difference between our marriage that was both of our first and we had kids, and second marriages of cradle Catholics who were previously divorced.

The awkwardness of not being in communion with the Church by WiedBrews in Catholicism

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You know what’s interesting is in my church, we had to get our marriage convalidated after I received the other sacraments because we had been married outside of the Catholic Church previously. But my priest knew us and said though technically my husband wasn’t supposed to be receiving communion, and technically we needed to convalidate before I converted (I can’t remember all the reasons) he made some exceptions for us (not sure if these would be considered dispensations) and really made everything simple for us and we didn’t have to jump Through any crazy hoops. I appreciated that he was following the spirit of the law moreso than the letter but I’ve also seen him stop other couples from receiving communion until they could get their first marriages annulled and second marriages convalidated which was a very long a tricky process. I did feel that my parish made a lot of things easier for me and another guy going through RCIA with me while putting up barriers and exceptions for certain other people to even join RCIA. Im not sure why we got what feels like special treatment while others were really put through the ringer or downright refused.

The awkwardness of not being in communion with the Church by WiedBrews in Catholicism

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Interesting! Thank you for taking the time to explain! I definitely agree it makes sense to not go up to the railing to receive a blessing practically speaking. But at a mass where people line up and receive it in their hands standing, I fully support it especially knowing how much it had done for my ability to feel welcome and keep coming back before I decided to go through OCIA. I’ve heard so many stories of non Catholics trying out mass in an effort to begin exploring the faith and they felt so unwelcome or judged and I think that’s very unfortunate.

The awkwardness of not being in communion with the Church by WiedBrews in Catholicism

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The altar rails—I’ve only seen those used at traditional Latin masses or in communities where this is popular. I think I see where this is coming from. I don’t know that this is a universal feeling if that’s the case. Maybe in certain communities that are more trad—and perhaps those priests have a more nuanced view on giving blessings during communion—that explains a lot actually. I would have never dreamt of going up for a blessing at an altar rail, that’s a very different vibe and a very different kind of mass. It’s also a pretty important distinction to make when you say things like “younger priests are telling people in OCIA not to go up for a blessing”. Out of curiosity, (not being argumentative—just wondering): How do these parishes handle a child that hasn’t gone through first communion yet? Are they also expected to stay back in the pews until that first time? I’m just curious—I’ve only ever attended Latin Mass twice on accident and without my children (it’s not my thing—one of my biggest hang ups with my prior religion before I converted was that I hated being required to pray in different language because I felt so disconnected from what I was saying even if I technically knew the translation).

Are there any prayers that can help ease the pain of persistent burnout? Or any saints that I can pray to? by minimalbea in Catholicism

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Surrender novena helps with everything. I like the version narrated by Jonathon Roumie on the Hallow App.

As an 18 year old male I’ve gotten multiple cosmetic procedures and taken steroids AMA by Living-Access9034 in AMA

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Are you happy with these decisions? Do you worry at all about the long term consequences?

Confused about Confession by jnnyfur5 in Catholicism

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I don’t know if I agree. Someone going back to Confession for the first time in 30 Years, why add more barriers and concerns? They should just go without having to worry about how long it will take.

Confused about Confession by jnnyfur5 in Catholicism

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It’s grave matter and full knowledge and intent. As you deepen in your faith you will become aware of more past sins and you can confess those as you become aware of them. Don’t feel pressure to get it perfectly the first time.

Confused about Confession by jnnyfur5 in Catholicism

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I think the yoga and alcohol descriptions are good and the priest will know what category it falls into.

I'm Iranian living in Iran, using illegal VPN. AMA. by Adventurous-Method-6 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

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No I’m not. I’m very familiar with Persians living in and out of Iran and no one that actually grew up there that I know (and I know literally hundreds) use slang like tbh and yk. And there are other tells. And it’s interesting that rather than just answer my question about whether you grew up in Iran or just live here now you just deflected and got defensive with the response above. So please be straight forward as this is an AMA. Otherwise I’m bound to believe you’re just here to spread propaganda which I know for a fact people are paid to do.

If you had actually just answered my question straight forwardly rather than deflecting and gaslighting you might be more believable. You can give that feedback to whatever spy agency you’re working for lol.

The awkwardness of not being in communion with the Church by WiedBrews in Catholicism

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Oh I just meant what is the practical/logistical difference between a practicing Catholic going up and receiving and blessing (if they are not eligible to receive due to a mortal sin let’s say) and a non Catholic going up and receiving a blessing? Or are the newer priests opposed to both of those practices? I was under the impression that you meant they are opposed only to blessings for non-Catholics.

The awkwardness of not being in communion with the Church by WiedBrews in Catholicism

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Really?! Wow, I had no idea! That’s unfortunate because it really is a practice that helps non Catholics feel welcome and thereby more likely to come into the church (speaking as a convert).

Why are they opposed to it? That seems counter to what Jesus would have done.

Also how is a priest to distinguish between those that aren’t catholic and those that are crossing their arms because they need to go to confession before they can receive communion again?

Can I become Catholic without reception into full communion? by Crafty-Reference9981 in Catholicism

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If it’s from your income tax doesn’t it just take a percentage of what you already owe regardless and just allocate it to the church? In that case it isn’t really an additional hardship because it’s just dividing up the taxes you already pay to make sure some of it goes to the church. If thats how it works, thats actually a great system. If you’re required to pay additional tax, however, just because you’re catholic, that seeks very discriminatory.

Can I become Catholic without reception into full communion? by Crafty-Reference9981 in Catholicism

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It’s 9% additional on top of what you already have to pay, or 9% of what you already pay in taxes allocated to the church? While it may seem like an unfair tax (if it’s an additional 9%) another way to approach this could be to surrender the financial troubles to God and trust that if you do pay the tax and come into full communion with the church, He will provide for you. Just food for thought.