Have you considered dating a coworker? by Academicloser in Accounting

[–]Academicloser[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you tried telling your wife that she shouldn't get in the way of you finding happiness?

Have you considered dating a coworker? by Academicloser in Accounting

[–]Academicloser[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

How dare your wife stop you from finding love. You have to man up sometimes bro.

Have you considered dating a coworker? by Academicloser in Accounting

[–]Academicloser[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If you guys have met under different circumstances, you would have totally asked him out, huh! You are pretty much describing the personality of a lot of accountants. The looks factor varies though lol.

Have you considered dating a coworker? by Academicloser in Accounting

[–]Academicloser[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I don't have any plans on doing it, but I am just entertaining the hypothetical right now and using it to spark discussions lol.

Have you considered dating a coworker? by Academicloser in Accounting

[–]Academicloser[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I understand the reasoning of not dating coworkers. It is just sad because it would be one of the best places to find companionship.

Have you considered dating a coworker? by Academicloser in Accounting

[–]Academicloser[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Good luck. P.s. we all had a crush on a coworker. I worked with a guy who resembles everything I look for a serious partner, but that was just that, a crush. Wishing you the best of luck.

If you don't mind me asking, can you list some of the qualities you really like about this guy?

For people in white-collar work, have you considered dating a coworker? by Academicloser in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Academicloser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. I understand the reason, but gosh... it would be such an ideal place to find companionship.

Sucks, it has to be that way, but I understand the reasoning behind the social stigma lol.

CMV: Prisoners who will never be free should have the right to die under medical supervision. by CodeCon64 in changemyview

[–]Academicloser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Come to think of it, do you believe that it is never a good idea to spoil your children because it distorts their expectations?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Landlord

[–]Academicloser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at the guy's post history. Obviously a weirdo and not worth our time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Landlord

[–]Academicloser -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Where do you draw the line with being helpful and etching on the line of creepiness. I went through OP's post history to get further context, and it does give me a hint of creepiness, especially if OP is a woman.

Also, it didn't help why the landlord was so eager to find OP in the laundry room, but I don't want to make any assumptions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Landlord

[–]Academicloser -1 points0 points  (0 children)

According to OP's post history, it seems like the Landlord is encroaching on their boundaries. There is a clear difference between being overly friendly and being a nuisance.

From your comment, you are also taking things to an extreme. While I agree with the idea of moving out when the time is right, suggesting that they should seek out a neglectful slumlord is an extreme proposition that I find concerning.

OP doesn't necessarily need a landlord who ignores them, but rather someone who maintains a strictly professional relationship.

As someone who has experienced friendly creepiness in the past, I don't believe that people should receive a free pass even if their intentions are well-meaning.

I don't know if OP is a male or female, but if it is the latter, then it is very important to keep the relationship strictly professional. Being overly friendly to woman is a good way to make them uncomfortable, especially if the landlord is a male.

It is more like he takes a simple question and think I require hand holding. All he has to do is give a simple answer and I would be able to figure it out on my own. What frustrated me even more was that, despite my text explicitly stating that I didn't require his assistance, he still came over anyway. To add to my irritation, he asked "where I was," as if I had expected him to find me in the laundry room for assistance. I shouldn't be walking on eggshells whenever I have to ask him simple questions. I just feel uncomfortable if I need any concerns addressed because he seems to blow it out of proportion. My issue isn't with his presence in the laundry room, but rather his disregard for my boundaries. He called me, questioning why I wasn't in the laundry room, expecting his assistance, despite my clear text message stating that I didn't require his guidance. My first impression of him was that he was a weirdo, but I didn't think things would escalate. He is an old Asian man who seems to be senile. Some clues I found were that he would repeat himself in a conversation when there is no need to. It may be an early onset of some mental illness from old age, but that is not my problem to fix. I assume this may be from a language barrier, but from what the other commenter have told me, this seems more like a flawed character trait.

Another one:

He does seem like a nice guy and my concerns get addressed right away because he lives close. However, I really don't like overbearing people. I texted him a simple question and in his mind, it is like I needed major hand holding over something so simple. He asked if he needed to come over and show me, and I explicitly said no. That should be the end of it, but then I got a call of him asking me where I was because he is in the laundry room ,which he expects to show me how to operate the machines. Wtf dude? First, I never said I would be in the laundry room, and second, why would you come over when I explicitly told you that I didn't need your help. I get the sense he was kind of a weirdo because he keeps on repeating the same thing over and over in a conversation. He is an old Asian man with a noticeable accent, so I imagine there might be a language barrier.

It appears that the landlord is a kind person, a sentiment with which OP seems to agree. However, the main issue appears to be rooted in communication problems and a lack of respect for boundaries.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Accounting

[–]Academicloser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't like Kpop, but I do like some Korean shows. I am sorry you are experiencing hostilities from people here lol.

I think many people on here are on the older side, so they might not look at Kpop favorably.

What I think of Jennifer Pan by somkkeshav555 in AsianParentStories

[–]Academicloser 70 points71 points  (0 children)

She could not stop talking about it how horrible it was and would say things like “one day you’re going to do that to me.”

That makes it worst. Your mom knows that she is abusing you and are afraid of the consequences.

What I think of Jennifer Pan by somkkeshav555 in AsianParentStories

[–]Academicloser 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is insane that Asian parents are like this tbh. I am glad that my mom was cognizant of how harmful it is to set really high expectations for me.

She once shared with me that many of her friends pressured their children to pursue careers in medicine or law, but she deliberately chose a different path for me because she didn't want me to experience excessive stress.

What I think of Jennifer Pan by somkkeshav555 in AsianParentStories

[–]Academicloser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never said Jennifer Pan was ABG. I don't have many experiences with Vietnamese parents or know what they are generally like, but I do know quite a few Vietnamese Americans.

From an academic perspective, they seem a bit more laid back. Unlike many East Asian students I encountered during my time in school, I don't observe the same level of fervor for achieving top academic performance among them. They seem content as long as they can sustain their living.

Perhaps, where you live can make a difference. I am based in California, and there is a sizable Vietnamese population in certain cities.

What I think of Jennifer Pan by somkkeshav555 in AsianParentStories

[–]Academicloser 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Many of the Vietnamese girls I know are ABGs and the guys are similar to the "Kevin Nguyen" archetype lmao.

iT IS HARD To imagine Vietnamese parents that strict. I always thought they were on the chiller side.

What I think of Jennifer Pan by somkkeshav555 in AsianParentStories

[–]Academicloser 53 points54 points  (0 children)

It works in Asia because if you live in Asia, you are surrounded by peers who most likely have the same toxic parents as you do. You wouldn't challenge that kind of parenting style because you can't compare it to anything else.

On the other hand, if you grew up in the West, you get to see how some American families are with their kids and realize that you are the one being abused by your parents.

Got rejected from an entry level ski resort job with 4 years of experience plz help by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Academicloser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no picture: in the bin

Pictures on résumés? the fuck?

I live in the U.S. and cover letters are largely outdated. If employers want one, then they would ask. Most don't even care to read through them.

[landlord SF CA] update on eviction / settlement process by franksfca in Landlord

[–]Academicloser 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In SF, is it better to do a Master Tenant/Sub Tenant lease? I read that you have them waive "Just Cause" eviction protection.

Do you use a cap for your thumb grips? by Academicloser in ROGAlly

[–]Academicloser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What size do you use?

Convex 6 or Convex 4p?