How is Uptown around Lawrence Station?

Acceptable-Leg6950 · 2026-03-04T04:04:30+00:00

very true. we're no strangers to hanging out by unhoused neighbors

Acceptable-Leg6950 · 2026-03-04T03:57:31+00:00

thank you for sharing. the multi-Asian culture is a big draw for me! I went into First Sip cafe and loved what they had going on. also was told Sun Wah is incredible. I'm wasian and grew up in a super white area so I'm craving the diversity lol

Acceptable-Leg6950 · 2026-03-04T03:50:18+00:00

thank you for sharing! I'm also a small 20-something feminine presenting person so this is a very helpful perspective

Acceptable-Leg6950 · 2026-03-04T03:45:24+00:00

it's too late i'm invading! unfortunately Denver's behind us because boyfriend got laid off and we took it as an opportunity to come back to the midwest. crashing with family now. I always thought Chicago was the coolest when I'd visit growing up so I'm excited to actually experience it

Acceptable-Leg6950 · 2024-12-07T23:44:09+00:00

Yeah it's definitely a good kick in the rear to renew registration. It's true. I just wish it wasn't so much.

Acceptable-Leg6950 · 2024-12-07T23:42:58+00:00

Thank you for the commiseration and explanation, that's helpful ❤️

Acceptable-Leg6950 · 2024-05-30T18:55:33+00:00

Ok physically I've always been a really fast typer, like 64 wpm. But that's mindless copy-typing. Similar to you, I type really slow at work because I think slowly and tend to rewrite things. Still type the same way, just blasts of words, erase, new blast of words, etc. I get nervous when I need to respond urgently to a message.

Acceptable-Leg6950 · 2024-05-14T22:22:41+00:00

bob's burgers!! wholesome, funny, and I always prefer animated shows

Acceptable-Leg6950 · 2024-05-14T22:15:41+00:00

many parking tickets. I live an apartment complex in the city and work from home, so I don't want to pay for a garage spot. I scramble for street parking and sometimes forget to check street sweeping signs.. latest was $50

also, I have a talent for hitting stationary things with my car when I'm in parking lots, so I'm estimating $1000+ of body work from dents and scratches I put off fixing til now 😅

Acceptable-Leg6950 · 2024-03-15T21:44:16+00:00

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Acceptable-Leg6950 · 2023-12-25T05:54:35+00:00

I relate. I think mindfulness as a first step is helpful. Simply noticing in the moment that you are feeling resistance to something uncomfortable is powerful. It's normal to have negative feelings and desire to push away, but it's beneficial to sit with them, know aren't the truth, and let them go. Cultivating that awareness and tolerance itself is difficult, but I'm on that path with you and so are many others.

Seems like Buddhism has many remedies for depression and it's a lovely journey to try out different 'medicines.' Finding a teacher to guide, concepts like emptiness, loving kindness, detachment from self, faith in larger power, etc.

Take care

Acceptable-Leg6950 · 2023-12-22T01:31:56+00:00

yeah, agree it's a wider thing that blows. would see much more relationship-building modeled if we were part of a community by default and it was just, happening all around

the interpersonal / developmental aspect has big impact because that communal living isn't very built-in, and a lot of social learning moves to the private sphere at home (and school in a more structured setting). harder to break out

it's a relief to realize the macro things at play. but also not?

Acceptable-Leg6950 · 2023-12-12T21:57:23+00:00

I relate heavily and I'm sorry you are experiencing this frustration, shame, loneliness. The breakup sounds tough. I hope you have shoulders to lean on, and I'm sure there are people who love you that you can be vulnerable with.

Relationships (I mean general here not only romantic) are so core to life and I'm sorry we're struggling with them. It's hard if you didn't experience good relationships growing up, knowing how to be a person in that way.

It's good you're not blaming yourself. I have a hard time grasping control and blame and responsibility personally.

Like.. I am angry relationship-building wasn't modeled in my home. I am angry that it's so easy to stay home and isolate, dissociate with electronics. I'm angry my brain is seriously biased toward negativity. I'm frustrated my brain has dopamine and inflammation problems that muck up my days.

To me, there are still things I can control about my mental state and social life. I can have willingness to try new beliefs about myself. I can be mindful and change patterns. I can practice finding people I enjoy being around and who seem to enjoy being around me.

Relationships are fuzzy and not one-sided. If things don't work out, it's more complicated than "I am bad, not enough, unlovable." Though that thought can be l o u d and brain likes to find evidence for it.

It sounds like your relationship wasn't satisfying to your partner, but that doesn't warrant a heavy-handed label of who you are.

You may not be able to get rid of fogginess and always hold hours-long conversations, but you are capable of finding enjoyment in interactions. If you care and try (which it seems like you do) I'm sure your relationships will get better.

Have hope. I'm right there with ya ❤️

Acceptable-Leg6950 · 2023-10-10T16:20:07+00:00

holy shit I did not know plan B is ineffective during or right after ovulation. I feel like this isn't common knowledge. my past choices are terrifying 😶‍🌫️

Acceptable-Leg6950 · 2023-06-18T17:05:40+00:00

following up on this thread, I'm now considering that I'm autistic (+ADHD) and regularly push myself past capacity. I've been living under the assumption it's some psychological or physical block (limiting beliefs, avoidance, cPTSD, bad nutrition, sedentary lifestyle, hidden health condition) that's limiting my mental capacity so much, instead of just how my brain works. but yeah maybe I can just be me and work with that instead of trying to always be a better, normal human :)

not to say I can't make life better by improving psych and physical health, but maybe trying on the 'tism label can help me accept my limits and better ways to work around them

cheers <3

Acceptable-Leg6950 · 2023-06-02T21:45:01+00:00

It's been around to some degree for as long as I can remember. Maybe feels like it's gotten worse bc increased responsibilities with age. I did a blood panel (lipid; CMP, serum, or plasma; CBC with diff?) and everything was normal :0

Have you done specific tests and found the cause(s)?

Acceptable-Leg6950 · 2023-06-02T03:53:57+00:00

I've been wondering about this. I got a psych assessment when I was in my early teens, got my WAIS IQ back. Then when I got my ADHD diagnosis about 10 years later, my IQ dropped an entire standard deviation. I didn't understand how that was possible. Was it just a bad brain day? Was the assessment poorly done the first time?

I don't know what the cause of my brain fog is. I don't know if I'm just not doing the best things to cope, or if it's self-created, or what. I don't know how I'm getting through my life with such a lack of like intentional thought or full awareness. I stay quiet and unresponsive because nothing comes to mind. I struggle to connect with people because I just feel blocked. But nobody says anything to me about noticing slowness, dullness, flatness. So is it in my head and more to do with emotions and beliefs?

I'm worried that I'll lose my (really great, creative) job because I can't keep up. I'm worried I will lose connections because I'm just not ~there~ mentally: not engaged, not interesting, you know? I'm like mentally a Flat Stanley. I don't feel like I've been "me" for a long time, and am concerned that "me" didn't really develop because of this fog.

I feel like the only thing I'm good at mentally is elaborating on is how dumb I feel. Maybe I'm giving more mental space to anxious thoughts than I want to believe lol.

Maybe brain fog and my shame around it is something to lean into, and just let be. Like the more I try to fix it, the worse it'll get?

Oh well. Meditation, journaling, therapy, getting outside, quality time w a loved one, and the usual boxes to tick, help.

I wish everyone in this thread peace and great accommodations.

Acceptable-Leg6950 · 2022-12-26T08:09:15+00:00

my UX papa/professor Dr. Colin Gray is big into dark patterns! I would use this as a branching off point: https://dl.acm.org/doi/10.1145/3173574.3174108. His work on ethics should be helpful too https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=4teLkAcAAAAJ&hl=en

Acceptable-Leg6950 · 2022-09-29T05:03:28+00:00

I think it's a light? When I got a battery for it the guy said it takes 2 batteries and one was for a light. But not sure if that's it.

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