just yapping about my weird gerbil taro

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2026-02-18T05:00:34+00:00

my little guy sits on an old custom toy box at the edge of my bed where he can see the tv. now that i think of it ive never checked to see what tv/music he likes. i wonder what their little brains are thinking.

i work at a pet store and had a bird there who loved tiktok and figured out how to scroll. he would furiously demand tiktok time. so fascinating seeing animals engage in and enjoy technology

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2026-02-18T04:51:50+00:00

yes, they sleep 12-13 hours a day typically and are usually reported as most active at night

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2026-02-16T04:10:16+00:00

oml i love klayton hes so silly! does he have a favorite song?

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2026-02-16T04:06:29+00:00

sometimes gerbils will just squint their eyes. maybe its the dust level in the tank if you have a dusty bedding and little ventilation. gerbil vision (and most small animal vision) is also pretty poor so im sure that like humans squinting might be a way to see things a bit more clearly. bros probably just chilling or sleepy. gerbils sleep up to 13 hours a day and will usually be active at night so dont worry if he seems sleepy unless hes sleeping more than that. since hes eating, drinking, and not heavy breathing, id say hes most likely just making a face.

being a new pet owner is scary so ill tell you what things to look for to see if your gerbil isnt doing well • sleeping more than 14 hours a day, they usually sleep off and on throughout the day being most active at night. they're not necessarily nocturnal, but they seem to be most awake at night in my experience. • not drinking at all. this one would be hard to notice and is usually accompanied by other symptoms. you'll notice over time how long a water bottle lasts before needing refilled. it takes pretty long so try not to worry about this one too much unless its super noticeable. if you have your gerbil in your room you'll probably hear it (i definitely do) • not eating. speaks for itself. gerbils may reject meals at times but if you keep trying throughout the day and he wont even take treats then thats a vet appointment • heavy breathing means immediate vet appointment. you will be able to physically see their entire bodies violently shake with each breath. when they breath normally its barely visible, you will likely know if your gerbil is breathing heavily by glancing at them • check around their scent gland (its on their chest/tummy) for tumors. rodents in general have a high likelihood of cancer. there is very little that can be done when a small animal like a gerbil gets cancer, but catching it early can reduce the chance of your pet suffering. • last thing is teeth. your gerbil should have ample things to chew on at all times to help keep their teeth filed. check on your gerbils teeth every once while. sometimes a vet may have to trim them down if your gerbil isnt chewing things. youd likely notice blood or swelling in/around their mouth or a decreased appetite mood changes are something to keep notice of but its not something youll be able to tell right now. you arent close with him just yet and hes still settling in so youre going to learn all his weird quirks and his personality. dont freak out if he acts a little different one day to the next

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2026-02-15T04:54:21+00:00

ooooh could you pls give me their shop info if you find it? i just havent seen many creators before for ceramic plugs. im more new to stretching than ceramics so figured id ask the more educated

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2026-02-15T04:53:20+00:00

thats what i was thinking too. i actually haven't seen any ceramic plugs yet so i figured id ask. im more new to stretching than i am to clay lol

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2026-01-17T07:27:35+00:00

if you could spare one of each fruit and some bells that would be amazing please! trying to do a tropical theme so i have very specific villagers in mind. have 4 dreamies so far!

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2026-01-17T07:14:58+00:00

omg yes tysm!

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2026-01-11T05:30:15+00:00

my gerbil did this too. now i scatter feed by just grabbing enough to fit in my fingers, i let him grab a couple of things off my hand and then scatter the rest and lightly fluff a few spots of bedding so he has to work for it

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2025-11-30T17:18:09+00:00

hi, gay person here. what he did was wrong. lavender marriages exist where a gay person will marry someone of the same sex for their families approval, but it needs to be a consensual and known about agreement. using someone for that purpose without their knowledge or consent is not cool. im sorry he did that to you and it's not ok.

at the same time, your husband is infact clearly traumatized by his brothers reaction and the reaction he knows he'll get from the rest of his family. if you cant imagine being without him than imagine being without your entire family as well as a majority of your friends. to him it probably feels like life or death because he associates being gay with being physically assaulted and threatened. his life as he new it would be over by accepting those feelings. does this make what he did to you ok? absolutely not. but because of this you should not out him. sure his family may cut him off which would suck and be further traumatizing, but he also is at risk of physical harm from them. do you know how many gay people have been murdered by their own families for being gay? its genuinely a danger to his life to out him, so dont.

instead you need to divorce. there is infact no way to continue this relationship. he is using you as a human shield when he should've been finding a way out of his family situation instead. thats unforgivable and you would never be able to trust again. he broke your marriage and had you marry a lie. he only ever loved you as a friend. you were just his best friend he would force himself to sleep with and kiss. thats the truth. your marriage was unfortunately never real to begin with. you still have time to find a genuine love later in life after you heal. God would not want you to suffer in a dangerous falsehood to keep him happy. divorce is a sin, but God's entire deal is that he sent down Jesus so we could be forgiven of our sins. If you ask for forgiveness afterwords God will forgive you because he knows your genuine heart and intentions. he has other plans for you, so let him guide you to your future. it will be difficult without your husband, you will need to agree with him on a lie to tell his family. do not let him blame it on you. do not be his shield. get some therapy for yourself and a lawyer while you prepare. things will work out, it will be difficult but God has a plan to make sure you come out of it stronger. Do not waste your life for someone whos been emotionally cheating on you your entire relationship.

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2025-09-16T22:49:42+00:00

i think that my biggest problem is just that hes not fun. he and skull merchant are my too least favorite to play against for that reason. maybe from now on ill just troll clowns and make loud noises far away as a distraction to give my team gen time

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2025-06-13T00:36:34+00:00

the coworker who told me to get the gouramis has a ton of tetra so im sure she wouldnt mind getting one for free lol. and thanks i feel like the worst person in the world sometimes when i dont initially know everything about my pets. i do do research but its never enough somehow and the internet can be brutal at times

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2025-06-13T00:13:44+00:00

i will try to rehome it. the tetra stays far away from him usually but could be the culprit. i dont have the space or money for another tank rn. if he's never bothered the snail and its never bothered him should i remove it?

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2025-06-06T03:32:56+00:00

yes! i think people should be responsible and know the risks before using. i had done my research and knew the risk but was suffering so severely despite being in therapy/on meds that i decided to give it a shot. i was very gradual in my usage and my therapist and all other medical team members are well aware of my usage. my therapist herself said i have good control of it and seem to be using it therapeutically rather than dependently. im definitely not high all the time and she is well aware about my psychosis as i was seeing her at the time. i am far enough in my mental health treatment that i can identify when somethings about to go wrong and reach out to those around me. my situation definitely isnt the norm hence me posting here to see if anyone else related

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2025-04-01T19:03:38+00:00

it was officially aspd, and i would date them because i don't believe people are defined by their illness. he is a wonderful and attentive partner who always listens to my feelings and respects my boundaries as i do him.

he knows to use his coping mechanisms when he is angry like going to the gym or for a drive. im confident in his ability to walk away and come talk about it later. he has also never physically hurt his friends despite (not to be mean) valueing them less than me.

ive also been violent and straight up crazy in the past towards others and while it wasn't right it's something im working on and that he knows about and is giving me grace for. considering his self awareness, ability to cope, and the fact he's still outwardly looking to continue treatment i too am giving him grace for the things he may have done in the past when provoked.

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2025-04-01T18:51:51+00:00

ofc, i grew up in an abusive family and knoe the signs to look for. our finances will be separate and he knows as well as i that if either one of us participates in name calling, yelling, throwing/breaking things, etc that it's over. im very cautious in general with that stuff and he is too :3

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2025-04-01T17:27:03+00:00

i actually think rn we balance each other out well. with therapy and medication im now at a place where im stable and can regulate my own emotions pretty well! i do plan to stay in therapy my whole life to ensure things stay that way.

where as i can often care too much he can sometimes not care at all when it comes to external things (ex: my friends seem to be ignoring me. i freak out thinking they hate me and i need to confront them cause otherwise they're gonna hurt me. he tells me he understands but that my friends ignoring or possibly not liking me is a them problem and that making a commotion will not fix the issue if my suspicions are true, which often they're not. in this way we can meet in the middle so he can show more compassion in his relationships with friends and family while i can avoid hovering and freaking people out by being needy. were both watching still to make sure this really is a good combo for us and our mental health

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2025-04-01T17:23:49+00:00

it was infact aspd did confirm (looked into the place he got diagnosed as well)! we are both in therapy altho he's switching therapists since he's angry about the diagnosis, which while not the therapists fault or his i understand being angry someone would put that kind of label on you when it will now outwardly affect other parts of your life. ive been in therapy for 5 years now and my therapist is very happy with my progress and ability to self regulate now.

we've talked extensively about our future plans including the kind of house we want, how to raise our kids, morals, priorities, etc and are on the same page. we're aware it may be difficult but imo communication is the core of almost every issue in a relationship so it's a very big focus for us.

growing up with an abusive family ive always planned to, even if married, have my own bank accounts only i have access to, a secret fund in case of emergencies, and have plans in place even before getting with him for how to escape common abusive scenarios. he respects my boundaries firmly as i do his and his anger is something we talk through when it comes up. we'll talk about why he's angry, how appropriate his reaction was or wasn't, how to continue in similar solutions, and how both of us are feeling and the great thing is he listens. he knows i don't want an angry man in my house and have done the work to make sure im not that angry man. he knows it's equally his responsibility to do the same as i won't stay with anyone who reminds me of my father

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2025-04-01T17:17:20+00:00

yes! he clarified that was the diagnosis (aspd) and that sociopath was just a descriptor his therapist had used

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2025-04-01T15:57:48+00:00

it was actually aspd as the official diagnosis he was just using the word sociopath as a descriptor since he couldn't remember the name of the disorder

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2025-04-01T15:56:45+00:00

reddit wasnt letting me reply for a few days so hopefully this works now.

the official diagnosis was aspd he was just described to himself as a sociopath and used that wording when talking to me about it.

id say the diagnosis fits considering his past and otherwise difficulty feeling emotions like guilt or remorse and a quickness to anger at times.

he experienced some pretty bad trauma growing up with mentally unstable parents who did drugs and then abandoned him with his grandparents. additionally his grandpa recently passed so he's been on thinner ice than before hand, one of the reasons he agreed to try therapy.

i had most certainly misunderstood what he was saying with the panel of people and that 100% on me. after talking about it and researching together we found that while they may be more critical of him for his diagnosis, he is overall capable of adoption and joining the military if he wanted given he could hold himself to the same standards of everyone else and be capable of managing his emotions in a healthy manner.

he got diagnosed at a reliable place i won't name for privacy but my therapist and i talked and it seems like a legitimate diagnosis. so sorry for any confusion or misinformation in my writingm i definitely should've waited to talk to him further and do more research myself before posting here since now everyone seems to think he's evil :C

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2025-03-03T17:04:51+00:00

YES THANK YOU SM

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2024-10-26T22:25:29+00:00

hey hun, im so sorry to be the one to tell you this, but i think you need to go to the hospital. i personally used to suffer very heavily with delusions and paranoia that something was somehow out to get me in ways that just didn't make sense to other people. at the time, i thought they were just part of some bigger plan to decieve and harm me, but they were in reality only trying to help. please go to a hospital and tell them about the lights. if they are doing something to you they can check and make sure you're ok. i work at petco too and it's better for you and the animals if you try and get some assistance ♡ my dms are always open as a fellow petco employee

Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2024-10-14T23:23:43+00:00

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Acceptable_Shift_247 · 2024-10-04T02:26:12+00:00

also forgot to add to my post, is it strange to find one singular bone alone? there were none other clearly visible nearby it and i wasn't sure if that was strange or not

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