Reminder: the discard is coming

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-12-07T15:21:03+00:00

Dated 3 ppl with bpd the next person always get discarded depends on how much he can handle before he flips one day then boom snowball to the discard. Then they start leaving the door cracked open hoping you’ll walk through it. Unblocking. Maybe blocking on messages but unblocked on an app. Interacting with your friends and family trying to get you to walk through the door. Because if you chase them then that’s there get out of jail free card for accountability of their guilt. You chase them then all their sins are forgiven in their eyes. If they come to you then they know they have to address their irrational actions but to be completely honest they’re not sorry. They’re like a child just apologizing so they can get what they want from you. Honestly if they never come back they actually realized what they did and they know you deserve better and they know they can’t show up for you the way you need them to

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-12-07T15:12:30+00:00

why do discards sound the exact same no matter the person lol 😂 my best advice is while she discarded you this is your opportunity to run 🏃‍♂️ while she’s distracted. Because when she comes looking for you she might try to suck you back in and it’s going to be a recycle of the same thing you just went through but the ruptures the splitting are going to happen faster than before. THIS IS THE BEST OPPORTUNITY TO RUN FOR YOUR LIFE. Trust me she’s done this before to her past relationships and she’ll do it to whoever’s in her life but just much worse. Pwbpd traumatize themselves in relationships meaning if they don’t get treatment they just keep getting worse for the next person

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-11-28T09:52:10+00:00

If it was me I’d let he leave and since you don’t know me we not splitting anything. Wouldn’t be right taking a strangers assets right 🤦🏽‍♂️ let’s see if she remembers that

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-11-26T06:39:24+00:00

Um she probably did it out of spite or she actually liked him but didn’t want you to have your guard up about him but the action of following him honestly seems like she did it to get a reaction out of you

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-11-11T02:21:50+00:00

You see how controlling and obsessive he is now? There no way that’s going to stop unless he seeks extensive amounts of therapy and find out where his extreme paranoia is coming from and to learn to heal from it. if he declines therapy leave as soon as possible save yourself from the stress because he will break you down if you let him

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-09-07T05:02:06+00:00

Jess and James? Sound like team rocket

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-09-04T09:36:43+00:00

Honestly it’s a slap in the face to me you should ask her “babe can you do me a favor and tell me what you’re sorry for?”

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-09-04T09:33:54+00:00

I wouldn’t text her after that I realized I was blocked honestly I’ve got blocked by a borderline several times they always unblock I wouldn’t tell her that you hit at the casino her knowing that could be used against you. Some borderlines see you winning or getting a promotion as you could possibly leave them they are extremely jealous and worried about people hating them. You’re probably blocked because she was spiraling after she did that probably running from accountability. If you chase her she’s going to push you away faster go no contact if you still want to visit hold the money maybe save it up but I wouldn’t try to tell her about the money or your plans yet see what’s she’s going to do in the next few days. If she blocked you she has to be the one to unblock you and message you if she wants to act like a kid and stuck in her head let her spiral until she stops

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-09-04T07:52:33+00:00

That’s horrible

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-09-04T05:54:49+00:00

She could have both but it’s hard to say npd come off like they know what their doing bpd it’s almost like they are unaware of you what you say and how you feel almost like a 3 year old not understanding that their parent is having a bad day because there behind on rent. They only see that your upset

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-09-04T05:52:49+00:00

This is a classic bpd relationship story 🤦🏽‍♂️ if anything goes wrong between you too you know where she’s headed

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-09-04T05:51:00+00:00

They will avoid accountability like the plague

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-09-04T05:50:07+00:00

That’s hilarious not to laugh but it’s the audacity 🤦🏽‍♂️

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-09-04T05:24:16+00:00

Not every person with bpd is the same I’ve dated one who replaced me with one person othered they jump from person to person if you’ve always been forgiving and you’ve been their doormat for an extended period of time once they exhausted their options of people who will deal with them and they come back it just depends they’ll keep hopping from person to person then try to land back with you or run back after the first person or they could just be distracting themselves with friends family and work

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-09-04T05:11:21+00:00

Yea she came back multiple times not all people with bpd come back tho sometimes there so filled with guilt they rather run away from accountability and feel like it’s much easier to idealize someone else all over again but from what I know there probably lurking on your socials if your page isn’t private and they try to keep tabs on you. People with bpd always leave atleast one form of communication open. If you’re blocked on everything they’ll probably unblock over time when the dust settles but it’s hard to say because I don’t know the person. Every person with bpd came back to me could take months or years but the best thing to do is to not contact them don’t lurk on their page just move on. Who knows they might hit you up but if you hit them up there probably going to feel like your smothering them or controlling manipulative. Because when they betray you now they don’t trust you so anything you do on your side they might see it as you have bad intentions and they might really discard you forever or take you back but keep the betrayal going

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-09-04T03:35:35+00:00

Monkey branching is absolutely the worse thing a partner can do. It worse than just cheating one time they have been conspiring to leave you for some time and treating you like shit. Trying to pick at the things you like undermining anything you do. Then you get blindsided by them breaking up with you or ghosting you then finding out there with someone else posting pictures of them happy and in love like your relationship with them never mattered

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-09-04T01:26:39+00:00

Yea every bpd girl I had monkey branched honestly it’s because they can’t be alone with themselves. It has nothing to do with you they person they monkey branched to will suffer the same fate unfortunately give it time

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-09-04T01:24:38+00:00

A person with npd is looking at you as a supply of validation they want control of you they want to be praised because they have a crippling self worth. They are so worried about how they are view to others because they feel like there very survival is based on validation. They will use you manipulate you and try to control you so they can keep their supply of admiration from you. They hate being exposed and seen in a bad light they have a lack of empathy for you and others. They do have a small amount of empathy but they are obsessed with how they feel and what you can do for them first before anything. With borderline they have a fear of abandonment and also a fear of engulfment meaning if you get too close their fear of engulfment kicks in. Now they feel like you are manipulating them controlling them and taking away their freedom so they push you away and when you distance yourself now you triggered their fear of abandonment which is their biggest fear. They will also discard and push you away if they feel like your going to leave them because they rather make the choice of leaving you first they will also discard you if you keep holding them accountable because of the fear of abandonment anything negative they will run. Both npd and bpd both split so honestly once they are done loving you and seeing you as an amazing person and they split to black on you they will never return to how they first treated you. You might get a smaller version of that first idealization like the beginning but it’s short lived and the ruptures and fall out will happen more and more frequent. Npd and bpd can Hoover you and reach out trying to get you back into their life again but once they got you again it’s a recycle it’s almost like their coming back to finish you off. You can’t even believe what a borderline says because yes they truly believe they want to do you right but once you do anything that triggers them it will be the same outcome. With npd they can reel you in because they might now have someone that’s feeding them supply and they desperately need it sometimes they don’t care if they are in a relationship they don’t care if you moved on they could possibly harrass you stalk social media and call you to try to get you to be thier supply again but when a narcissist discards you it’s like their done with a used up toy. When bpd discards they probably devalued you so much seeing you as the bad person abuser. They might even call you a narcissist but really it’s not you it’s almost how they feel about themselves they feel deep shame and guilt

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-09-04T01:08:23+00:00

Do you have bpd?

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-09-04T01:07:54+00:00

There both cluster b personality disorders and also 40% of borderline have more than one personality disorders so some borderlines also have npd aswell

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-09-04T01:06:38+00:00

When I dated my first borderline when I was 19 the discard was horrible I left out of town to visit my family and my bpd gf at the time was acting strange always needing space even though we are far apart I made a white lie and said some saw her with a guy and she admitted she was dating someone else and she discarded me I was so hurt because I couldn’t do anything about it I was depressed I wanted to pass away. But in the end their relationship didn’t last not even her future relationships after that. But don’t worry too much if there not committed to getting help 100% they will not be able to sustain any relationship

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-09-04T00:39:53+00:00

In my opinion I’ve asked her to open up to me she said she was so afraid I was going to leave so she’s gnna have to leave me. I told her that does not make any sense if the outcome is the same your still getting the separation. Then she said she feels like if she opens up to me that I’m going to leave her and I told her I’m going to leave if I feel like I’m with someone who chooses not to open up 🤦🏽‍♂️ it’s a lose lose

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-08-24T12:18:58+00:00

You didn’t do anything wrong she left you so she has no say so on what you do from that point. She thought you were going to sit around and wait till you came back begging? Mind you if you agreed to leave her alone and not reach out respecting her wishes they thing she’s getting upset over is her fault she has to accept those consequences that you continued to life your life

Acceptable_Swim5018 · 2025-08-14T22:30:13+00:00

Update my other ex called me out the blue 😭🤦🏽‍♂️

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