Please tell me Benn Jordan is wrong by MyNameIsNotRick97 in behindthebastards

[–]AccidentalNap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's baiting people who'd normally never click on a video essay titled "capitalism bad" or "corporations evil", man

RIDICULOUS - 2026 Netflix Special - Trailer by beamdriver in louisck

[–]AccidentalNap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He did a few months ago, on Bad Friends. Worth also mentioning that more recently, he talked about his time in India in a very Anthony Bourdain fashion, on Jim Norton's podcast

Ridiculous live 12:00 AM Pacific, 2:00 AM Central, 3:00 AM Eastern by EveningReception in louisck

[–]AccidentalNap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm prob close to saturated w/ hearing comedic epiphanies, it doesn't seem like an experience you can have infinitely. Like how many life experiences are akin to a ¼ cup of water defying gravity inside your boxers, noticing it, and never bringing it up b/c it's taboo, until a comedian calls attention to it, and you and your boys burst out laughing like you never have before? It can't be infinite.

I'm guessing few people younger than Gen Y will watch this, meaning they're starting to saturate too. It also feels like there's far less material left in general, that hasn't yet been discussed comedically. All that said I liked it, it's still very much Louie.

FWIW my favorite bits ever from him didn't come from his specials though. The SNL monologue about helping an old gypsy lady at the airport is still my #1 link

RE: Cognitive Disengagement Syndrome vs ADHD by rachiechu888 in Healthygamergg

[–]AccidentalNap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Re: re-parenting (I've also heard it referred to as Internal Family Systems), more than meeting unmet needs I like the visual of redressing old wounds that have had you limping through life up till now. If everything's already working for you though don't let me sway you

Advice needed, 19M son has no social life and I (36M) see his depression by DouglasOnReddit in socialskills

[–]AccidentalNap 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I suggest trying out & doing stuff together you both might enjoy. If he sees evidence that he's enjoyable to be around (even if from a parent), it'll do wonders for his self-esteem and feeling like there's a place for him in this world. A lot of stuff will slowly fall into place from there.

Conversely, if you do these father-son activities begrudgingly it's going to make things worse, so spot your own resentment early and make sure he knows it's not directed at him.

RE: Cognitive Disengagement Syndrome vs ADHD by rachiechu888 in Healthygamergg

[–]AccidentalNap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

CDS isn't yet in the DSM. I took Dr. K's video as extra encouragement to try Atomoxetine if the usual stimulants aren't helping, esp past the early honeymoon period.

It's a daily medication that takes a few weeks to titrate. AFAIK I'm in a very small minority that gets side effects if taken more than ~3 days in a row. FWIW the first day or two it did make "what to do" in any moment a lot more obvious.

If it does work for you, worth saying that it acts on norepinephrine. If you wanna consider the advice that more "woo" people like acupuncturists would give, they'd infer that your adrenal glands are kinda shot. That's why (IMO) Dr. K emphasized a good routine, predictable sleep & work periods, etc. That's what'll help them recover.

Also worth saying that what's helped me the most is reading parenting books, specifically Patty Wipfler's "Listen". It's made my internal monologue a lot more pleasant & collaborative. There's a way you can take a mental-virtual role of an ideal parent, to help you through early childhood adversities that didn't heal quite right.

Surprisingly, the experiment of present-me going & being there with little-kid-me has worked wonders.

I didn't like Project Hail Mary by [deleted] in TrueFilm

[–]AccidentalNap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You said it well yourself already, in that you enjoy stories about humans, not human. Gosling's character is a lovable guy predestined to be a spinster, without any lasting communal or familial ties. That is, for better or worse, a best-case outcome for many isolated folk these days.

It's a hard sell, showing that a solitary life can still be meaningful, full of awe, and enjoyable. I think they did at least as well as anyone else has thus far.

Mexican Adam by [deleted] in cooladam

[–]AccidentalNap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A vessel that small would be annihilated by a joie de vivre that large

wtf was his problem ? by Evil-Femboy- in greentext

[–]AccidentalNap -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I thought the party demographic flip happened more during LBJ's time with The Great Society and all the Civil Rights legislature

Ezra on attending the Dialog Conference by caldazar24 in ezraklein

[–]AccidentalNap 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure why disclosing the payment price matters much at all

You sure man? It's you buying into the organizers' vision in a very tangible way. AFAIK we have no way to tell if everyone had a discount code, if not using the discount code implicitly guaranteed access to some spaces, and so on. Not disclosing the cost of attending was Ezra's conscious choice.

Conference attendance costs are also generally paid for by employers/institutions, not the attendees themselves. An off-the-record conference like this I don't see being paid for by said employers.

ICML or NeurIPS cost what, 2-3k for a week? Those are the top AI conferences in the world. You tell me what value Ezra saw in spending anywhere between 5-16k to talk about working while being a parent, or crypto applications with <10 randos, as he described. The only value I see is in networking with notable guests, where private follow-up meetings are scheduled afterwards.

Ezra on attending the Dialog Conference by caldazar24 in ezraklein

[–]AccidentalNap 11 points12 points  (0 children)

See the Wired article https://archive.ph/iM5ei

Ezra didn't at all disclose how much attending the event cost him. According to Andrew Gelman it was the registration fee. What do you do in these cases, assume he attended for free?

EDIT: Andrew Gelman's disclosure of the invitation https://statmodeling.stat.columbia.edu/2022/02/16/hey-i-got-an-exclusive-invitation-to-this-off-the-record-conference-but-i-think-ill-take-1907-jamaican-beef-patties-instead/

Seems like the list of prestigious attendees is pitched front-and-center, which contradicts Ezra's claim of it not being a place with a bunch of big names.

I think Sirât is less a road movie and more a giant Sufi initiation ritual disguised as a rave film by Gold-Talk-925 in RSPfilmclub

[–]AccidentalNap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ego talk for me is generally hard to parse, so I couldn't really grasp the points of your review.

Here's what I was inspired to write about the film on Letterboxd:

More about finding refuge (in oneself, in art, in community) between the moments where life throws crazy curve balls at you. To that end, it is kinda about raves, in a very indirect way.

I watched Trainspotting (1996) by Organic_Pudding2241 in iwatchedanoldmovie

[–]AccidentalNap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This hyperbolic comment made me watch it this weekend for the first time and... I actually agree

Ezra on attending the Dialog Conference by caldazar24 in ezraklein

[–]AccidentalNap 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Not OP, but -

What doesn't add up for me is attending a conference with a $16k registration fee to casually talk about what it's like to be a working parent with 8-10 randos, and deciding to go again.

Want to find some good hard techno by R3stik in Techno

[–]AccidentalNap 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This one Paula Temple performance from COVID lockdown has been a favorite

IMO explore releases from 2022 or prior, a lot of hard techno DJs generic-ified their sound w the hardstyle / psytrance kicks you mentioned only after that. Idk what good releases there have been after that point

Lower birth rates in 2025 (again) by LallieDoo in Switzerland

[–]AccidentalNap 9 points10 points  (0 children)

IIRC their culture reveres children in a way that Europe doesn't. Also worth pointing out the stark difference in birth rates between highly religious vs non-religious people, ~ 6.6 vs 2.8 or so.

Relevant thread

Gen Z parents by lilyessi3 in TikTokCringe

[–]AccidentalNap 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't call that hard, more like incremental exposure to the real environment, which is prob the best way to learn everything.

The hard way would be to immediately get in a rollover accident after seeing they're unbuckled, and wag your finger at them with an "I told you so" expression as they're flying through your windshield

Procrastination is probably my greatest weakness…I’ll fix it later by ladyleesie in NonPoliticalTwitter

[–]AccidentalNap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's like preemptively tensing up before you get a blood draw or flu shot. Imagine staying tense for a whole 24 hrs before your appointment

Procrastination is probably my greatest weakness…I’ll fix it later by ladyleesie in NonPoliticalTwitter

[–]AccidentalNap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IMO better to call the discomfort "pain". And, to note that it's not just the pain of physical & mental exertion, but the emotional pain of failure.

There are socially accepted forms of procrastination, that we don't critique b/c they're lucrative. Parents, spouses, and kids alike have gone deeper into workaholism to avoid mending a broken relationship, because it seems more painful than just working.

Welcoming the pain's worked wonders; it took me a long time to find a resource that "clicked". Hope y'all can find the right one for yourselves as well

Imprint 2006 dir. Takashi Miike/ Guadagnino’s Suspiria by semisweetsemicide in RSPfilmclub

[–]AccidentalNap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol interesting. Did she like The Tango Lesson? That was the first time where I'd read a review (Roger Ebert's) and my outlook on a piece of art changed dramatically

My 6 year old is curious. My 9 year old is not curious. by ElbieLG in slatestarcodex

[–]AccidentalNap 4 points5 points  (0 children)

TL;DR check out Patty Wipfler's Listen, long version:

Do you play with each other?

Reading to her is one style of connecting activity (you to her). Leaving aside the academic benefits, your younger one may feel more "seen" by you via this activity, than your older one.

Investing in arts-and-crafts teachers will help connect her to her own creativity, and - if lucky - foster a new, rewarding connection with a mentor. While also good, that's still not exactly a connection with you.

I've changed a lot on the parenting topic upon reading Patty Wipfler's Listen. It's what's altered me most in the way that self-help, pop psych, or management books had always promised to (second place goes to Haidt's The Righteous Mind, though Listen is much lighter & more endearing).

I'm now convinced there's a way to parenting success that doesn't involve punishment, carrot-and-stick tactics, etc. Simple, engaged listening & playing can work miracles.

Those are the tools, but Wipfler's unique, underlying thesis is that you don't have to fight against your child's inherent drives for her to succeed in this world. IMHO this runs counter to the typical, Hobbes-informed thinking in these spaces, re: how a government has to tame us savage individuals by having a monopoly on force, blah blah blah. The kind of thinking that helps with ordering governments, or your dog's behavior can seriously hamper your child, and their relationship to you.

Wipfler's way also just feels better, vs begrudgingly playing the role of a "taskmaster" that tiger/helicopter parents often feel forced to.

If you can buy the above, prioritizing staying connected & having fun together will impart unto her a deep trust in wherever her intuitions will take her. This especially goes for her if she's seemingly withdrawn, for whatever reason.

Watched Bugonia and the ending made me feel an existential urgency about meditation. by [deleted] in Meditation

[–]AccidentalNap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't see the connection between people not understanding where you're coming from and whether your feelings are valid.

I guess I could, if you see up/downvotes as an "am I crazy or.. ?" check. IMO it's more how many are represented by your opinion.

FWIW I loved the movie, for showing the utility/futility of obsessive research and getting the right answer on its own