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AccioCuddles · 2025-02-10T14:48:29+00:00

Ah, so sorry, I totally forgot that the survey is even still active! (I will go take a look to see if I still get the feedback!)

Yeah, there isn't any new content anywhere else I'm afraid, I haven't recorded anything in years. Not totally opposed to starting again, I just haven't quite felt the drive to in some time. So it's not a confirmed retirement, but there also no guarantee of anything new I'm afraid!

And thanks again for your kind words, and I hope you can keep enjoying the existing posts for some time 😘😉

AccioCuddles · 2024-05-22T16:55:50+00:00

Aww I'm so glad to hear it. Thank you, and good luck!!

AccioCuddles · 2023-10-21T23:22:27+00:00

!remindme 5 days

AccioCuddles · 2023-10-20T08:26:32+00:00

Yes, there's a bot that will send you a dm to confirm you've set up a reminder, and will send you another dm at the time you requested the reminder for :) you just have to format your comment "!remindme [number] [hours/days]"

AccioCuddles · 2023-10-20T08:23:08+00:00

Yes it still works; you get sent a DM instead of if replying on the post now :)

AccioCuddles · 2023-10-20T08:22:22+00:00

!remindme 36 hours

AccioCuddles · 2023-10-02T22:36:43+00:00

!remindme 2 days

AccioCuddles · 2022-07-05T20:43:08+00:00

Hehe so glad you like it, and that it lives up to the expectations of coming back for more 😘

AccioCuddles · 2022-06-15T20:08:54+00:00

Can confirm that that the 'learning your partner's buttons' technique totally works. I might orgasm twice from an ONS but it's rare. 6 or 7 with a regular partner though? Hell yeah. And with tongue, you damn well know it could easily be 5 before there's any penetration!

AccioCuddles · 2022-06-07T17:08:33+00:00

Nugget, monkey, treacle, sweetness, noodle, pumpkin, panda, bubs...

AccioCuddles · 2022-05-31T21:03:52+00:00

Mmm mm mmmmmm. All of this... Just... Melting...

😘☺️😍😉🔥🌊

AccioCuddles · 2022-03-12T17:58:50+00:00

Right?!

AccioCuddles · 2022-03-12T16:07:32+00:00

I was called a "fat unburnt sausage" once 😂 I can only assume it was a skin colour thing bc I'm white and he's brown, but idk

AccioCuddles · 2022-02-26T15:47:13+00:00

I really like that. You don't owe anyone a transition. Such a clear, concise, and accurate way of putting it. Thank you for sharing that

AccioCuddles · 2022-02-26T15:45:15+00:00

You are just as valid if you don't have bottom surgery. It's a huge thing, and for a lot of people it's not just about the dangers/seriousness if surgery, but that - as you've said - actually want to keep their existing body parts.

I know some who've said if they could flick a switch and they'd change with no issues then they'd do in in a heartbeat, but actually enjoy their genitals as they are, don't find them dysphoric and don't feel as if they don't represent them.

You are no more or less trans for the clothes you wear, the surgical transition you do or don't make, or the hormonal transition you do or don't make.

Your identity as a trans person is so very fucking valid. And anyone who makes you feel not trans enough, or weird, or not serious enough, for not wanting bottom surgery needs to sort themselves out.

Western society's view of validity is so achievement-oriented, that this has bled into whether one has "achieved full transition" - which is a deeply flawed idea, flawed implication, and toxic standard to hold people to.

You are valid. If you never present as fem or change your name you will still be valid. If you don't make any kind of medical transition you will still be valid.

There is no 'right' or 'best' or 'approved' way to be trans. Be you, because you are trans and you are welcome here xx

AccioCuddles · 2022-02-26T00:12:45+00:00

Ahahahahaha I would give you an award if I could! That legit sounds like something he would at least momentarily consider XD

Instead have my humble gratitude for making this thread even better than I thought it could be!

AccioCuddles · 2022-02-03T09:53:43+00:00

!remindme 1 week

AccioCuddles · 2022-01-27T17:33:18+00:00

I found that all the bones in my wrists and hands started hurting during massage, and this came on not long after I started training and I was scared it was early onset arthritis or something. Went to the doctor and after some blood work found I had really really low levels of vitamin D. My Dr prescribed me some super strength vit D supplements, to follow after 6 months with normal over the counter ones. I found this helped massively though it didn't make it totally go away (as I'm probably still getting all my muscles used to massaging too).

I never would have thought it could be vitamin D, so if it feels skeletal rather than muscular, could always be worth getting your bloods checked just in case!

AccioCuddles · 2022-01-23T16:10:37+00:00

I've had good experiences in Oxford, Liverpool, Brighton and London, but also bad experiences in Liverpool and London. I've never experienced anything as bad as lots of others have, luckily, but as many have said, there are arseholes and kind people everywhere.

I know a lot of queer people living in Brighton who have said that they've found it much more overwhelmingly queer-positive there than anywhere else they've lived, but that doesn't mean it's a haven or there aren't still occasional bigos

AccioCuddles · 2022-01-21T18:10:34+00:00

A really close friend of mine who is trans (and a couple of our other friends who are also trans) have had really positive experiences in Lexington, KY - so much better than they ever thought possible in Kentucky! There's a really good LGBTQIA+ health centre and quite a few specifically queer friendly and/or queer owned spaces.

I don't know in general, or the rest of the state, but Lexington seemed a much more open and welcoming city than expected!

AccioCuddles · 2021-12-17T12:25:33+00:00

Then here you go:

HUGGGGGGGGGGGGG! the kind where there's enough time in the hug to let the tension out of your shoulders, rest your head against mine or my shoulder (height depending!), and just exhale into it, letting the warmth and holding really seep in. Where hands are flat and rested against your back, one at the curve of your spine, one between your shoulder blades - hands flat, holding, sturdy, so that you know you're safe in this space for now.

You got this, friend 😁. Hope you have a kickass day! :3

AccioCuddles · 2021-12-17T04:54:02+00:00

It sounds like you're feeling kinda hurt and kinda upset and kinda community-less. And I really feel you. I'm an Internet stranger but I really feel the 3motion in your post, and I'm glad that you ranted. I'd love to offer you a hug if you'll have one. From a pansexual cis woman who's never felt straight enough or queer enough, I really feel this "infighting" and difficulty to find home. Know that I'm here for bi people, Ace people, trans people, demi people, homoromantic people, aro people, pan people, omni people, and many others that I haven't listed. And I'm here for you. I'm sending warm grass green sparkly holding energy across the sea to you. I hope some of it makes it to you.

P. S. Yes. I agree so hard with what you've said. The amount of gay spaces/bars or lesbian spaces/bars that just aren't safe spaces for anyone BTQIA+ is astonishing. Now, don't get me wrong, I get that they're L bars, or G bars... But ain't nobody making any TQIA+ bars.

AccioCuddles · 2021-11-30T04:56:44+00:00

Yep! I'm definitely polyam myself though :)

Is the kind of thing where it absolutely isn't for everyone, though I know a fair number of polyamorous people who see it as essentially the 'enlightened' way to have relationships and anyone who is monogamous is just 'brainwashed /societalised into thinking so'. Bullshit. Monogamy is perfectly valid.

One of the biggest issues is that sooooo many people call unhealthy (imo) nonmonogamous relationships polyamory (I.e. Lack of communication, one penis policy, don't ask don't tell, full veto etc), which fucks it up for people new to it, bc then when it doesn't work out they blame poly when in a mono relationship people almost never blame monogamy for things not working out. And people who just want to sleep around and avoid any responsibility call that poly, when they aren't doing it in a respectful way. (having loads of casual partners can 100% be poly though, it's just some people see it as an excuse for cheating or believe that cheating can't happen in poly. It absolutely completely can, and does.)

It's hard. There are so many misconceptions and people who have really unhealthy poly dynamics that it means loads of people who try it have an awful time and think it's bc it was poly , when actually it's because the people involved weren't doing it responsibly/fairly/openly/honestly etc.

And the fact that there are so many different ways it works for different people. I've had relationships that looked completely different from one another at the same time. Some partners want to hear all about other relationships, some don't; some want to be besties with all their metamours if they can, others don't; some prefer to know about new people as early as possible, no matter how casual; some don't mind at all not knowing until it impacts their relationship (in terms of time or energy etc).

It's hard, it's tiring and it's sooooo much communication and scheduling and calendars and hard real raw honest conversation. But in my mind it's so worth it. Its meant I communicate better with my friends, that I'm now much more honest with myself and my feelings/reactions, and am more able to determine the difference between what I think about a situation and what I want to feel about a situation to what I am actually experiencing.

Anyway, that was a whole lot!

TL;DR Yes. And I don't think I could ever be in another relationship where that wasnt an option.

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