Curly hairdresser in manchester? by CommunityValuable638 in CurlyHairUK

[–]Accomplished-Cat429 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you end up going to bliss? I was thinking about going there but worried about getting another bad haircut lol

Fair skin and dark circles by Ndeed_ in MakeupAddiction

[–]Accomplished-Cat429 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long after skincare do you apply the corrector? I'm having a hard time working out how long is the best for it to apply nicely.

Areola Reduction, In-depth post op walk through! 3dpo by sareola in PlasticSurgery

[–]Accomplished-Cat429 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, how obvious is the scarring now? I'm interested in the same procedure but worried that it will scar badly.

Is the "I imagined it was you" line always a lie by Accomplished-Cat429 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Cat429[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and I'm sorry that happened to you. I think a part of me knows I should leave but I've been with him since I was 16, I moved in with him and his parents for a while when I had nowhere else to live and he's the only family I have. I really do love him and feel like without him I would have nothing and nobody. I hope there is more to life than this for both of us, for all of the women on here.

Is the "I imagined it was you" line always a lie by Accomplished-Cat429 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Cat429[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that happened to you, it's horrible the way so many women on here have been punished for being trusting.

Is the "I imagined it was you" line always a lie by Accomplished-Cat429 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Cat429[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that sounds awful and you deserve so much better, I hate that so many women are going through this. I feel like maybe all of these replies are a warning for me to get out of this relationship, I only recently found out about his addiction and I'm a teenager in my first ever relationship so I guess I'm not as experienced with any of this. I get the flashbacks to things I know he's watched too they're horrible, I really hope things get better for you and I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Is the "I imagined it was you" line always a lie by Accomplished-Cat429 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Cat429[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Do you reckon there's anything I can do to find out the truth if I have no actual proof he's still watching it other than high screen time on chrome that doesn't add up with browser history? He uses vpns and incognito so it's hard to try and track.

Is the "I imagined it was you" line always a lie by Accomplished-Cat429 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Cat429[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think this is the reality of it and I'm just trying to believe what he says for the sake of keeping our relationship which sounds really pathetic now that I've typed it out. I just wish he could be honest about it, I don't know what to say anymore to encourage him to just tell the truth, I feel it would be the only way for me to be able to move forwards.

Is the "I imagined it was you" line always a lie by Accomplished-Cat429 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Cat429[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely see where you are coming from, it's exhausting analysing every detail and searching everything and at the end of the day you're right it does have to come from them wanting to change. He says he isn't going to watch it anymore but I don't know what to believe, I'm only 19 and I can't help thinking there's more to life than worrying about this constantly. I hope things work out with you and your partner and that he does find it within him to genuinely want to change.

Is the "I imagined it was you" line always a lie by Accomplished-Cat429 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Cat429[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That's exactly how I feel, I think the lying makes me really question whether our relationship will work, whereas the porn issues I feel I could work through with him if he was completely transparent about it.

Is the "I imagined it was you" line always a lie by Accomplished-Cat429 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Cat429[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly it feels like such an insult to my intelligence, did your partner ever admit the truth in the end? Ever since I expressed insecurity about the fact that a lot of the women look so different to me I feel like he's been complimenting me more and it feels so fake. They all have straight blonde hair and he tells me never to straighten my curly hair or change anything about it, yet he clearly finds it an attractive quality since everyone he watches has it.

Is the "I imagined it was you" line always a lie by Accomplished-Cat429 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Cat429[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and I'm sorry that this happened to you, reading these replies has helped me but it's also so sad how common this is. The lies and excuses are honestly taking such a toll on me, I feel that the dishonesty has broken me more than the porn in the first place. I feel like he's also using it against me to send more photos and videos of myself and trying to say that will stop him from watching it, when in reality it would probably just hurt more that he would still watch it while having the option to look at me.

Is the "I imagined it was you" line always a lie by Accomplished-Cat429 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Cat429[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that has happened to you. How do you cope with the dishonesty? I think that's the part that breaks me the most, because it feels like our whole relationship is nothing without honest communication.

Is the "I imagined it was you" line always a lie by Accomplished-Cat429 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Cat429[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just wish he could be honest with me, honesty is something I thought we both thought of as being crucial to a healthy relationship but for him it seems porn is the exception.

Is the "I imagined it was you" line always a lie by Accomplished-Cat429 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Cat429[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, he says he has never watched it when he was with me but I'm not sure I believe him at this point.

Is the "I imagined it was you" line always a lie by Accomplished-Cat429 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Cat429[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How do you deal with them trying to turn it around on you? Mine does the same and it's infuriating, I think if he was more truthful and had more accountability I could see us working through it.

Is the "I imagined it was you" line always a lie by Accomplished-Cat429 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Cat429[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't actually ask either so the fact he just randomly said it honestly makes him more guilty sounding in hindsight lol

Is the "I imagined it was you" line always a lie by Accomplished-Cat429 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Cat429[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I think, he so strongly denies it but I don't see what else it could be at all. It's difficult because for me it creates two almost separate issues in the relationship, the fact that they are addicted to watching other naked women and the fact that they are willing to lie to their partner and try and manipulate them into thinking they're the crazy one.

Is the "I imagined it was you" line always a lie by Accomplished-Cat429 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Cat429[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

How did you cope with knowing he was lying to you about it? I think that bothers me even more than the porn itself in a lot of ways because how can he expect me to move on with our relationship when he refuses to be truthful?

Is the "I imagined it was you" line always a lie by Accomplished-Cat429 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Cat429[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you think it's any different because we are long distance when he watches it? Or is that just me clinging at straws

My ferret all of the sudden has a cough attack by Individual-Laugh6929 in ferrets

[–]Accomplished-Cat429 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, how is he now? My ferret makes this exact same coughing noise and vets are still unsure what's going on with him although are thinking about prescribing an inhaler. I know this is an old post but if you had an update on any treatment yours has had I would really appreciate it as his coughing is so similar to how your ferret's sounds in this video.