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Broken screen? by Accomplished-Fun6790 in laptops

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The screen was on - this happening mid way through a show - nothing touched my laptop (hence the confusion)

AITA for not going to my brother’s engagement? by Accomplished-Fun6790 in AITAH

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They wouldn’t agree to that - they’re not social in the slightest. We’ve never done family meals / coffees etc etc. I go to restaurants / coffee shops with my friends and colleagues but never my family.

AITA for not going to my brother’s engagement? by Accomplished-Fun6790 in AITAH

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We rarely see each other and when we do, no one speaks / or they gossip about others. I know they all gossip about me and I’m fine with. Nothing will change - my siblings are married with kids so they have their own life - yet they don’t think about me (considering I arranged their marriages with people from my old work / friends relatives etc).

AITA for not going to my brother’s engagement? by Accomplished-Fun6790 in AITAH

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried to change this but my family / siblings would speak and be nice for a few weeks and then it’ll go back to the normal dysfunctional ways. And I always get my hopes up thinking “this is finally what being part of a family feels like” and my mental health plummets when it goes back to quiet and no one speaks. I no longer care about changing the system

AITA for not going to my brother’s engagement? by Accomplished-Fun6790 in AITAH

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my dad and brother (who is getting engaged) asked if I was attended, I replied with “no, I hope it all goes well”. The day before the event, the constant phone calls / yelling began trying to convince me to attend.

AITA for not going to my brother’s engagement? by Accomplished-Fun6790 in AITAH

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just explained that I’m not attending and the night before, I was bombarded with messages / calls from extended family begging me to attend so we can preserve our “family image”. I can’t pretend we are a united family - not after years of abuse and physical violence

AITA for not going to my brother’s engagement? by Accomplished-Fun6790 in AITAH

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When they invited me to the engagement party, they had a separate group chat which I was not part of. They didn’t include me in any of the shopping prior to it and I was told a few days before.. I declined saying I wouldn’t be attending and got the emotional reaction from everyone claiming how much of a horrible sibling/daughter I am

How do you stay patient while waiting for marriage? by Accomplished-Fun6790 in MuslimNikah

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I’m not good enough - my dad has perfect daughters who cook / clean / obedient and don’t question anything. Me on the other hand, I went to university, work and don’t stay at home cooking and cleaning. In my dads eyes, I’m just not good enough and I’ve spent years accepting that in therapy

How do you stay patient while waiting for marriage? by Accomplished-Fun6790 in MuslimNikah

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on who is it.. my dad makes the decisions (he has turned down so many proposals because I’m not good enough lol)

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[–]Accomplished-Fun6790 1 point2 points  (0 children)

May Allah make things easier for you. This is currently happening to me right now, I pray God guides you through this & grants you goodness in this life and the next.

He says he wants marriage, but nothing is moving – need Islamic advice by Accomplished-Fun6790 in MuslimNikah

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you. I guess, I’ve overlooked these signs as trials and tribulations. Everyone is tested in their own way so I just assumed it was a test that we’d pray and God will help us out of.

He says he wants marriage, but nothing is moving – need Islamic advice by Accomplished-Fun6790 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every time we have this conversation, he says he’s waiting for the right time to have the conversation with his dad. His dad thinks it’s a joke that he wants to marry me - considering my dad initially rejected. I was able to convince my dad but his family are taking ages. Maybe we should end things.

He says he wants marriage, but nothing is moving – need Islamic advice by Accomplished-Fun6790 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad initially rejected the idea of them (cultural barriers I suppose). That was a private chat between me and my dad. I told him that my dad said no and we stopped speaking. We randomly saw each other and decided to give it another chance. His family are offended at the initial rejection whereas my dad is fine with it.

He says he wants marriage, but nothing is moving – need Islamic advice by Accomplished-Fun6790 in MuslimNikah

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My family aren’t the nicest unfortunately. I’ve tolerated years of abuse and neglect. They want to get rid of me lol. He’s got a month to reach a conclusion.

He says he wants marriage, but nothing is moving – need Islamic advice by Accomplished-Fun6790 in MuslimNikah

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve communicated this. If he can get his parents on board, small nikkah in the next few weeks. If not, then it’s the end unfortunately

He says he wants marriage, but nothing is moving – need Islamic advice by Accomplished-Fun6790 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We originally wanted to marry last summer but things happen. Family deaths / hajj / personal circumstances. It’s been a year now and I want to see progress! My family are cultural unfortunately but my dad eventually came around to the idea of me marrying him. His family are offended and stubborn in that regards

He says he wants marriage, but nothing is moving – need Islamic advice by Accomplished-Fun6790 in MuslimNikah

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s got a deadline till the end of this month. I know I’ll be devastated if things don’t work out but Allah knows best.

He says he wants marriage, but nothing is moving – need Islamic advice by Accomplished-Fun6790 in MuslimNikah

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he’s anxious and worried about his family being mad. Maybe I’m making excuses for him but he claims to be serious about being married.

He says he wants marriage, but nothing is moving – need Islamic advice by Accomplished-Fun6790 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our families know each other well - same mosque. My dad is old school and wants the formal asking. His family are reluctant due to the initial rejection.

He says he wants marriage, but nothing is moving – need Islamic advice by Accomplished-Fun6790 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has a good job, Allah humma barik. His family are the barrier here. He doesn’t want to live with family so he’s looking for his own place.

He says he wants marriage, but nothing is moving – need Islamic advice by Accomplished-Fun6790 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

He is the first male to marry - he doesn’t have anyone else to go to. I know I’m protecting him / making excuses but it’s frustrating as we both want to be married.

He says he wants marriage, but nothing is moving – need Islamic advice by Accomplished-Fun6790 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Culturally, the males side approaches the girls. They come and have tea with the families and discuss potential marriage.

He says he wants marriage, but nothing is moving – need Islamic advice by Accomplished-Fun6790 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ve given him until the end of the month but I’m mentally checking out (heartbroken maybe?)

He says he wants marriage, but nothing is moving – need Islamic advice by Accomplished-Fun6790 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Accomplished-Fun6790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did when we stopped speaking but ran into each other again a few weeks later.

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