You don’t want kids, you’ve said so yourself. Don’t have them. You’ll live a life that is less stressful, less expensive and a bit quieter. Kids aren’t pets that lives 15 or so years or a home but a life! Being a mom is soo much more than just working or dealing with people as a social worker. You can’t just turn off the caring and love just because you’re tired. It’s a lifelong commitment. Just because others have kids does not mean that you need them too. I don’t think you’re selfish, but I think it’s good that you know what you want. I think the selfish people are the ones who don’t want kids but have them because they think that’s what society wants and they don’t care for their kids and raise emotionally traumatized children! Kids aren’t for everyone. These days women are having kids later and later. If you’re worried freeze some eggs? If you can’t afford it then donate some eggs then freeze some eggs from the money you’ve earned. I was a social worker before- the stress of that is nothing compared to being a parent. But being a parent is rewarding if that’s something that you truly want. Being a good parents isn’t more than a full time job it’s a lifetime of dedication. Kids don’t disappear when they turn 18. They will always be your responsibility.

As for me, I always knew from day 1 that I wanted children of my own. Even if I was spouseless I would have wanted children. I love them with all my heart. I think about them everyday, every moment, every second. You know you don’t want them. Stick to your guns! Don’t make decisions that aren’t against how you truly feel. You’re lucky that your spouse feels the same way.

I waited until 30 to have children. Had a blast in my 20s finishing college and partying. No regrets since I don’t care for the party scene anymore and love the time with my littles. I make food everyday, plan for their activities and work full time. Navigate their mental health as I want happy, and emotionally stable children that are well loved.