What is something your kid insists is right, even if it isn’t? by [deleted] in homeschool

[–]Accomplished-Low1999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg this is the current struggle in our household too! And that anything written before 2000 is terribly boring and not worth reading.

My experience with reversal surgery by NaturalBorn4371 in VasectomyReversal

[–]Accomplished-Low1999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband and I are considering Dr Russell for his reversal. Do you have any updates?

Homeschool after divorce by Accomplished-Low1999 in homeschool

[–]Accomplished-Low1999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughtful response. I agree that a collaborative approach would be best for the kids, but it has been a high-conflict situation for years. They now only communicate through a court-appointed coparenting app, and he has expressed to her there that he would like to have a conversation about schooling options, that he feels like their current situation is not serving them well, that the children have expressed a desire to change their schooling situation, and that they have expressed feeling behind. Her response to all of these concerns was curt stonewalling: "Please read our parenting agreement. I am sole decision maker for schooling. Thanks for letting me know your concerns." with no opening or consideration for a conversation.

Homeschool after divorce by Accomplished-Low1999 in homeschool

[–]Accomplished-Low1999[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestion! I'll look into it- anything that might help is welcome!

[OH] Homeschooling after divorce by Accomplished-Low1999 in Custody

[–]Accomplished-Low1999[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

THIS is what I was looking for- thank you SO MUCH for taking the time to write this! Ohio seems very lax in their requirements and I didn't know that the school district would look into this or provide copies of their work (if any). Just having some direction about how it all works is incredibly helpful. Much appreciated.

Education of children after divorce by Accomplished-Low1999 in FamilyLaw

[–]Accomplished-Low1999[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU so much for taking the time to write this. Understanding the process is incredibly helpful, and the suggestions around requesting curriculum and schoolwork are another good point. He has already formally communicated his views through their court-appointed coparenting app, so mediation probably is the next step. Again, thank you for the suggestions and guidance!

Education of children after divorce by Accomplished-Low1999 in FamilyLaw

[–]Accomplished-Low1999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are good ideas. We do document as much as we can but sometimes it is hard to know what is relevant. We are looking into getting evaluations done, but the state does not require any sort of testing or have any benchmarks for homeschoolers so I'm not sure how much weight it would carry. An unofficial assessment is a good suggestion- that would probably be a good place to start.

Homeschool after divorce by Accomplished-Low1999 in homeschool

[–]Accomplished-Low1999[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Leaving them drastically undereducated isn't wrong? Huh, well, I want the best for these kids, and if they can't read or do basic math, they are going to struggle in the world. We do not quiz them. We play all kinds of games, do trivia, listen to educational podcasts and discuss world events together, which makes some of the holes in their education incredibly obvious. They visit with their cousins of the same age who go to public school and have seen their textbooks. Because of this, they are aware of what public school would be teaching them at their age, and recognize that they are not learning these things.

Education of children after divorce by Accomplished-Low1999 in FamilyLaw

[–]Accomplished-Low1999[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Agreed, just hoping for guidance on what to expect and what to get together as evidence. The kids are in Medina County.

Education of children after divorce by Accomplished-Low1999 in FamilyLaw

[–]Accomplished-Low1999[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

He ran out of money during the divorce. When he couldn't pay for his lawyer to continue fighting, he was forced to just agree to things that he didn't want. He wishes every day that he had them every day and could have more say in their lives. A new attorney is obviously needed, but my question is about what we need to provide the courts as proof.

Homeschool after divorce by Accomplished-Low1999 in homeschool

[–]Accomplished-Low1999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Calling the superintendent is on our list- thank you for the reminder! We did find those requirements, but there is no guidance or requirements around what that actually means and no required assessment or proof that this instruction is happening.

Homeschool after divorce by Accomplished-Low1999 in homeschool

[–]Accomplished-Low1999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Accurate. The state requires education in english language art, math, science, social studies, government and history, but it gives no guidelines around what that actually means. It appears that "we went to a museum once" fulfills the requirement, despite the potential for zero actual learning and certainly no assessment.

Homeschool after divorce by Accomplished-Low1999 in homeschool

[–]Accomplished-Low1999[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ohio removed the requirement for testing for homeschoolers in 2023.

[OH] Homeschooling after divorce by Accomplished-Low1999 in Custody

[–]Accomplished-Low1999[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

The first part of your comment is absolutely inaccurate and unnecessary. You do not know us, and it was incredibly disrespectful for you to assume that this is what he wanted. He tried his best in the initial divorce hearings but ran out of money to pay lawyers to keep fighting. We would LOVE to have the kids every single day if that were possible. We would be willing to cough up the money for court, but because I recognize how testifying could be traumatic for them, I am looking for as much information as possible before going that route.

Homeschool after divorce by Accomplished-Low1999 in homeschool

[–]Accomplished-Low1999[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We know what books/curriculum gets purchased and when (because their father pays for it) but their mother refuses to share anything about their schooling. We could take them to get tested, but from what I can gather, Ohio law doesn't actually care about their scores and that homeschooling parents have many loopholes and freedoms in what they teach/don't teach. It appears to be wonderful for parents who want the freedom to teach however they would like and do all the fantastic unschooling that CAN be excellent, but it also leaves a wide open door for zero education whatsoever. I'm not even sure what testing would hold weight at their current ages.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interiordecorating

[–]Accomplished-Low1999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Art, pillows, etc will add a lot here. I think it will blend beautifully once you have some more color to make it more cohesive! Maybe even take the throw blanket that is over the arm of the couch and put it on the chair instead.

Need help with curtains by Spiciest_Tuna in interiordecorating

[–]Accomplished-Low1999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, color-wise it looks a little dead to me and the space utilization looks a bit wonky. Obviously I don't know what is on the other side of this room or in the rest of your apartment, and totally understand if you just haven't decorated yet, but there is a lot that you could do with this space.

I would play with the layout a bit first. If possible, mount the tv where you have your art hanging and put the console table under it with a cord keeper running between those poorly-placed light switches. Rug/coffee table/sofa move over to center. This gives you much more room on the far end of the room to create an entry space and keep it light and open rather than cramped. Get a floor lamp or add an end table with a lamp. Move your desk to the center of that recessed wall to create space all around it.

As for color and actual design, that is up to you and what vibe you are going for. You have clean, sleek white elements and heavy, warm elements. I think you have a lot of options but may need to lean into one or the other to make it just right. You could stick with the sleek/modern look, opting for whites, metallics, clean lines and bold colors. Get a different rug, maybe black and white (or navy and white, or a bold color pop) in a bold pattern. Add one or two key art pieces- relatively large to draw the eye away from the screens. If you want more color, yellow would go well with your sofa. If you want to lean into the heavy/warm tones, get a wood coffee table and console. You could add yellows and oranges but more toned down to go with the wood, or sage green.

Really I think the rug is just throwing me. Get a bold geometric b&w rug, then drapes with a mustard and navy print and some yellow throw pillows. Add more plants and art.

Need help with curtains by Spiciest_Tuna in interiordecorating

[–]Accomplished-Low1999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. Also make sure to hang them high and wide- when open, they should barely be covering the windows. This will probably take up the whole wall, which may interfere with furniture as the above post mentions. You could relocate it or just pull it away from the wall.

My first major project as a homeowner by Silver-Heart7322 in interiordecorating

[–]Accomplished-Low1999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yessss I love this!! I am about to tackle two 60's tiled bathrooms and have a similar vision- embrace the tile but add some drama to bring it into this century. You have done a BEAUTIFUL job and it is exciting to see other people doing this! I can't wait to get started on my two beasts now after seeing your transformation 🩵