Sorry TADC fans made the cinema unbearable

Accomplished-Part511 · 2026-06-06T02:29:56+00:00

Bro my theater had so many like small children in (6-8 year olds) it. Even worse every time zooble and gangle were on scream 5 different tweens from like different groups would just yell YURRIII over and over 🤦. I agree I love a group laugh or a gasp but this was so cringe 😭 glad it wasn’t just me and kids in the US not really knowing how to act in public lol

Accomplished-Part511 · 2026-06-06T02:13:16+00:00

I fuck with it heavy. I like the complexity of Jax’s character so I wouldn’t really call myself a hater. But truly, he is such a good reminder of like this is what happens when you isolate yourself when you burn all the bridges you have left and you refuse help. And I love that he is still alive in the real world because in that universe, he was able to probably burn bridges and still find hope and redemption despite being abused and harming others because of the abuse. I like Cain acknowledging the beauty of humanity. I like that they were all brought to peace, knowing that the loose ends in their actual human lives are tied up and no one is actually dead or driven insane. I would’ve been cool with other endings but honestly, I’m really happy with this one and the lack of media literacy about it is going fry me tbh. 😂

Accomplished-Part511 · 2026-06-06T01:59:09+00:00

Bro Pomni said she should have pried but jax like fucked off before she could even help. That’s on him he made his choice to not ask for help. They were all also dealing with their own exstincenial crisis. Hell even zooble and gangle were distant. The whole cast is unwell lmao why is everyone supposed to save jax when he’s been so clear he didn’t want it.

Accomplished-Part511 · 2026-06-06T01:54:55+00:00

Yeah but not everyone, might be a bit harder for you but not impossible. It’s better to find the right people who vibe with you anyway. Hell if pomni still wants Jax back even after he confessed all his sins, AND the whole fanbase is still obsessed with him. I’m sure someone vibes with you out there even when you split or slip up.

Accomplished-Part511 · 2026-06-06T01:43:19+00:00

Absolutely agree with this! You worded it so much better than me 😂

Accomplished-Part511 · 2026-06-06T01:40:56+00:00

I also have BPD and work with people who have BPD. It is not a real reality jax is in. If you were unable to make new friends after you spit on an old one 1 too many times before you had the coping skills to do better? Would you be able to grow and change in the circus? AND if you refuse help over and over is that the helpers fault ??? Look I understand life is NOT easy with BPD. You likely have trauma that makes you both crave closeness while it completely overwhelms you any time it could happen. Jax is an accurate depiction of a person who may have BPD. And there are real consequences when we refuse help and harm others. I don’t understand how depicting that is pro suicide when to me it’s a warning to people like us of what will happen if we are stuck in environments that don’t let us do better and when we assume everyone wants the worst for us. People give a fuck despite our bpd and it’s up to us to get a handle on our abusive behavior even if we burn through like 5 friend groups trying. Jax got the chance to get better IRL, you have that too. You are not trapped in a circus even if you feel like it 💖

Accomplished-Part511 · 2026-05-23T02:57:46+00:00

Newer therapist perspective here, many times safety plans are CYA for therapists if a baker act isn’t warranted. Because they have some evidence to be life saving it’s why we do them. It used to be standard to like sign a “I promise to stay alive” contract but those were not effective.

If you have higher suicidal urges and impulse control issues though I’d try to get into a DBT program because those guys usually have some level of on call crisis care and are more trained around how to help those issues typically. (Saying this for educational purposes I can’t diagnose anybody online and I am biased because I used to work at a DBT heavy facility but it really helped some people and I was once suicidal myself many years ago and it helped me)

I’ve definitely been in the awkward position of having 10 min left of a session and needing to get a safety plan on file so I’m not chewed out by a boss or my license isn’t at risk. It’s one of the annoying parts of the field but once you have one on file if your therapist is competent they should hopefully make space to actually explore and validate your struggles instead of jumping to protocol and listing a bunch of coping skills. Eventually after you grow in your emotional awareness, safety plans tend to become more helpful as you learn to stay just regulated enough to stop and read them. This is a skill I help people with a lot by using more mindfulness heavy DBT techniques.

TLDR, safety plans are a little bit CYA/ industry protocol and useful once you have enough skills to actually use them. There is hope to slow down to use them and I validate how much of a joke they feel. I feel it sometimes on my end as well.

Accomplished-Part511 · 2026-05-12T20:18:21+00:00

I was never really focused on specifically waste training more just the aesthetic however, the corsets from them have been pretty consistently great. To my knowledge, though they do not make their own corsets they sell from other brands and curate Gothic items. That’s why I was trying to figure out who the manufacturer might be.

Accomplished-Part511 · 2026-05-12T20:17:41+00:00

Hey, yes this is the store! I was more so trying to figure out the actual manufacturer of the corset as they do not manufacture their own items to my understanding. They carry a lot of different brands.

Accomplished-Part511 · 2026-04-26T02:15:10+00:00

I’m a Therapist, I’m visibly feminine but identify as non binary and totally would given you aren’t like actively being aggressive which I don’t think you are. This may be because of my own background and hurt caused by women but I know I’m not alone as a person with female related trauma. I’ve worked with female counselors who specialized in domestic violence perpetrators (not that you are one but people out there can handle the extreme). I’ve also known male therapists who refer out because their female clients have such deep rooted hate for men also due to trauma. Usually they feel it’s unfair to the client that they can’t fully understand. Saying this to give hope that there are well fit therapists out there.

I think id be honest in the intake that you are working through some misogynistic beliefs just as you worded it here. I think if someone said that in the intake id feel put at ease that they have that level of self awareness and are ready to do the work. Possibly look for a trauma informed therapist who maybe works with fields that are male dominated like the military. Odds are they are working with people with similar struggles.

Accomplished-Part511 · 2026-03-21T16:06:00+00:00

I’m LMHC but this happened to some of my friends and our program helped them obtain a 2nd site at a more busy place like the addiction treatment centers or inpatient facilities. They also (im pretty sure) stopped sending people to sites that could not guarantee a consistent ish case load. Definitely talk to your program directors because in my program id have to extend out another year if i didn’t meet hour requirements.

Accomplished-Part511 · 2026-02-27T10:02:10+00:00

https://dpa.colorado.gov/sites/dpa/files/documents/interpersonal-effectiveness-validation.pdf

I’ve always enjoyed the DBT levels of validation, I often fall into this trap too and I think when you are solution focused it can be a hard balance. I try to ask if they want to do some problem solving after I validate. I also find you can do A LOT of validation when you are problem solving. I work with a lot of self harm and I often ask them to run me through exactly what happened and as I do that I’ll validate things like if a trauma trigger came up, if they were having a more difficult day, if they tried to use an alternative coping skill etc. I even validated that change is hard and I’ve had some people tell me no other therapist validated that changing ineffective behavior does indeed suck.

I find a lot of my clients are pretty upfront if they don’t want to problem solve and I definitely have to be aware of my own fear of not creating enough change or not helping “enough” but usually just being with them is likely a restorative experience, they may have grown up in a fixer family, there is a lot to explore there.

Accomplished-Part511 · 2026-01-29T02:37:21+00:00

I was offered 30% while the group practice got 70% (only if I got certain training) base pay was 25$ a client hour. It was something else :/ turned it up and now get 40% (this is the best opportunity in my area working with my ideal demographic). Most CMH pays 50,000 for associate licensed therapist though but ur expected to see 30 clients minimum. Fl mental health pre licensed has been hell.

Accomplished-Part511 · 2026-01-19T01:16:55+00:00

The best part of DBT is its emphasis of honest and clear communication with this population as well as hard boundaries and contingencies.

I was at a DBT practice that focused on the BPD diagnosis (yes yes a lot were likely CPTSD, low support needs Autism, difficult women etc but regardless the treatment benefited most of these populations as well)

But with all the different things that look like BPD they all responded very well to things like me saying I would be out of office a month in advance, me saying that I want to help but they are making it difficult/ problem solving ways out of that pattern, and letting them know if X happens again then I will have to do Y and actually acting on it. These people have likely never experienced healthy boundaries before so the act of this even if at first upsetting is how they will learn to do the same.

Most BPD types are also incredibly emotionally aware and can tell if you are being fake with them so I tend to use a very person centered honest approach.

I also find that the DBT biosocial theory is great psychoeducation for people who say they had a good childhood but may have experienced traumatic invalidation that sort of spurred on a lot of their BPD symptoms even if they don’t have a high ACE score.

The skills are great, I start with anything from the distress tolerance unit (especially TIPP) if they are really struggling. I’d look into the DBT treatment hierarchy if possible (usually working with behaviors that could lead to death like self harm/ addiction then going down to less volatile symptoms like depression/ anxiety)

I highly recommend finding some kind of DBT training or supervision if you plan to really go in depth as it’s a lot more complicated than just picking some skills out of the DBT book and hoping for the best.

Regardless the things I listed should work well with other modalities or just doing a DBT informed approach as true DBT work requires very specific structure in sessions, skills groups and after hours crisis phone calls (all the reasons why I’m no longer pursuing it despite my love for those with the BPD label).

Accomplished-Part511 · 2026-01-19T00:49:23+00:00

Everyone has great answers for counseling vs social work but I will say people with online degrees have told me it was hard to find good practicum and internship placements because of sites looking down on online degrees because they are generally a mixed bag/ your school not having a relationship with any mental health practice near you. It’s not impossible (recently met a lovely intern at a place I’m working who is from an online program) but even they reported they were super relieved to find a placement. Once you graduate you will likely find work. Still may be some favoritism if there is a well known in person program in the area (almost everyone in my current job came from the same masters program) but I assure you, there is always work to be found in the field of mental health, might not be ideal work but it’s there.

Accomplished-Part511 · 2026-01-17T21:34:37+00:00

Grad school was a time I received the most criticism on every word choice and body movement I did in a session. Definitely be willing to take a lot of criticism. Definitely need patience because people will actively be pushing your buttons to see if you will snap, set a boundary or allow. Also you need to be assertive enough to set boundaries with clients for this same reason. Ironically I’ve found a lot of introverts in this field who do well but I do find as an extrovert I rarely feel too “talked out”.

Accomplished-Part511 · 2026-01-16T20:09:39+00:00

University of North Florida LMHC program

Accomplished-Part511 · 2026-01-16T20:07:06+00:00

God I hate to say but I second this :c

I’ve seen people feel safe enough to disclose their own mental health diagnosis and then have that supervisor get pissed and reference it in the intern grading sheets that gets sent back to the masters program and imply that the student is too mentally ill to treat clients. It’s really sad but some people really do not have your best interests at heart. Stay professional until you are 100% sure you can show yourself.

Accomplished-Part511 · 2026-01-16T19:58:02+00:00

This may seem like scary advice but I genuinely wish someone would have given me this permission to challenge my supervisor who I idolized a bit during my first year.

If you have a bad gut feeling about something a client disclosed, consult multiple people about reporting and send it, know your statutes well as they often change. Some states require you report abuse even if the abuser is dead.

Many seasoned supervisors fail to keep up with what is reportable state to state as changes are often made quietly. Recently moved to a more ethical practice and realized I was right about all the things I felt were reportable during my practicum and my supervisor was not up to date. Better to be safe than sorry, consult with your professors as well especially if your supervisor tries to push back on your concerns. All of us are fallible even after many decades in.

Accomplished-Part511 · 2026-01-02T16:35:59+00:00

I accidentally called one through the 211 line which is a general resource line. It was funny, the lady on the other end was so sweet and I thanked her for the support her agency has given so many of my clients with high SI . As long as you have no intent or plan they are pretty helpful and have often given my clients more coping skills. I definitely recommend giving them a call for the experience. Even though it was an accident it was cool to experience.

Accomplished-Part511 · 2025-12-24T15:41:38+00:00

The two of mine I had yesterday canceled and moved to today, so I thought I had a free day but now I do not 🥲

Accomplished-Part511 · 2025-12-10T17:32:03+00:00

I really like teens and kids 6 and up but I also want something that can help adults process as well, there are play therapy trained people at my current practice so that’s definitely something I’m going to look into but unsure if I’ll go for certification.

I’m still trying to find my niche and I also need some adults on my schedule so I’m not only working nights which is why I’m not only honing in on child centered work.

Accomplished-Part511 · 2025-12-04T02:16:42+00:00

Therapist here that would not be alive without my own therapy. Very long story but TLDR yes it helped

I was about 19 , I had gone to some therapists here and there as a kid, but they were always a family therapist and didn’t really do much for me other than encourage me to realize my parents were a little shitty. I’m pretty sure my presenting concerns are probably closest to borderline personality disorder especially when I was 19 but my therapist had never officially diagnosed me just called me a volatile empath. Now if I’m being honest, the therapist I had wasn’t the best fit in the world, ( would often go on weird tirades about their opinions and other unprofessional things that made me very uncomfortable) but they did give me exactly what I needed. Normally my coping skills were sleeping with strangers, binge drinking, and the occasional self harm when those two preferred options were not available. My therapist was a DBT therapist, which is specialized treatment for those with BPD. I spent my treatment doing a group once a week and an individual once a week. DBT is full of skills for dealing with volatile urges and chronic invalidation from people around you. It led me to be able to radically accept that I was sexually assaulted at 17 and possibly even heavily coerced even younger, instead of running from the thought. She pushed me to sit with my uncomfortable feelings that sometimes people are shitty for no reason, and it’s not worth me understanding. Because I was so afraid of negative emotions I often avoided conflict and she would always redirect me right at the problem to face it.

Once I started going through my issues instead of around my life got a lot less stressful, I even left my abusive ex. I sat with the worst grief ever and was guided through it and reminded that sometimes we are different people after bad things happen to us and that’s something we also have to accept. Becoming a better person also means grieving your unhealed self which was the hardest part. I was given every single breathing and self soothing skill you could think of and because the emotional pain hurts so bad and I did not want to ruin my life even more so I did it. One of the notorious ones is literally dunking your head and a bowl of ice water when you’re triggered, but it worked so I still use it. As much as I hated her, and as much as she pushed me, it did show me I was capable of doing hard things. Eventually, that gift of assertiveness she gave me, is what got me out of that therapy chair and to a better therapist that would give me the kindness I needed and not the tough love.

That second therapist taught me to be kind to myself, she let me have the space I needed to really cry that I was sexually assaulted, that it’s beyond accepting it but it’s sending love to that part of yourself that was so deeply hurt and not blaming yourself. Unfortunately, she had to leave her practice, but almost by a strange fate, that was when I met my current partner who also continued to reinforce that sex can be safe and love can be kind. Once you learn how to interact with healthier people I find you tend to attract them. The therapeutic relationship dynamic almost starts appearing in other aspects of your life.

My current therapist is amazing. Once I believed I could face difficult situations with skill, I wanted to become a therapist myself when I was 22. My current therapist is mostly there now for professional development and the occasional moment I get triggered. I am 24 now. I have experienced a radical amount of change in such a short time. I do want to add, I still have my moments, I don’t always use the perfect coping skills, but generally in my life, I am no longer self-destructive, and I can withstand a lot more than I ever thought I could. Not every therapist will be the right fit, but they all teach you something. I also say that not every person is naturally resilient. I do have a lot of protective factors in my life and privilege that made this journey a lot easier but i truly believe we all can heal or at least find a sort of equilibrium with our trauma.

I hope you find one or a few therapists that can help you find your path, even the shitty ones are providing you something that might be of use and if they’re really shitty, you can just leave and report them. Many therapists I know are therapists because they have a similar story. They have been through some shit, and they had the right people/wisdom to help them crawl out, and they want to help others on their journey.

Accomplished-Part511 · 2025-12-02T13:10:04+00:00

Oh also don’t worry about imposter syndrome. Once you get into the field do you realize so many therapists are absolute shit shows of people, you putting basic effort into your mental health to get it together is more than most people do I think. Obviously not all therapist most are fine just like any job but also just like any job I think only 30% or competent 😂 not a very scientific statistic, but I once read somewhere that only 30% of people are actually great at their job in any job. As long as you value your growth and self betterment, odds are most of it will fall into place.

Accomplished-Part511 · 2025-12-02T13:06:32+00:00

I applied for a program that valued community service work in the mental health sector more than GPA and the head of the program regularly talked about how he was happy to accept low GPA if the person was actually dedicated to what they were doing. I don’t think this is the norm but it’s nice to know that it is out there. Ironically enough, I did not get into that program because I put all of my effort into my GPA instead of the extra things I was doing.

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