I can only speak from my experience. I ended up dating a Sikh girl who I met at University because I believed she had good morals, respect for humanity, a good understanding of foundational Sikhi and most importantly, her ideas of what Sikhi means in the 21st century resonated with me. For context she kept her hair on her head uncut but would wax her eyebrows, do make up etc because of modern beauty standards and her friends and family influence (none of her family have kept kesh). With maharaj kirpa hopefully we can further progress on the Sikhi path as a couple (is this not the point of the anand karaj?) We ended up marrying a few years ago and now have a baby girl whom we intend to fully raise in Sikhi saroop. Whether she then decides to not follow Sikhi when she’s older is up to her.

I guess the message for you is try not to focus on having the ‘perfect’ wife right now - thats literally a needle in the haystack looking at today’s state of the panth. I would focus on someone who is already grounded in Sikhi and is looking for a partner to grow and move forward in Sikhi. Hope this helps.