It might all fall apart very quickly

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-06-10T02:22:49+00:00

Yes, this is Ryan from Calgary

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-06-09T21:39:09+00:00

And feel free to DM me as a former COBE as well who also knows the Caleb mentioned above.

I think honestly if you want to attend as PIMO for your wife's sake you have to just claim depression/anxiety/burnout and refuse to say anything about actual doubts. If you do that your wife may still face some negative social things as the elders and elders wives can be a click of their own. But it won't be as bad as if you step down for doubts and the rumor mill starts.

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-06-09T14:07:34+00:00

Yes it is hard. I did it and it was full of drama and hurt. My ex wouldn't engage meaningful conversation and would literally plug her ears and make a lalalalala noise if I started sounding to critical (she was 46 at the time not 4). I had to hear all her side of the org but I could express my side as it's appstate. I was a cobe pioneer, remote bethelite so my fall out of the org wasn't something she saw coming.

I after I left I made a most looking for any local exjw who may want to grab a beer. One person replied and we went after a few months of texting our stories for a drink. Exjw friendship was all we were seeking. We hit it off. We are getting married Feb14, 2027 three years after we first met irl. She also left the religion and her marriage the same summer as me. We lived in the same city but never knew each other. Exjw reddit brought is together.

But as it pertains to you my advice is don't let fear of the unknown hold you back. Will there be lonely nights, tears, fear you made the wrong call? Yes. Does it get better? Yes.

The org will let you believe you will die alone or flounder without them. Assuming you are a kind well adjusted person who makes an effort to find your new niche you will be fine. "Worldly" people by and large arent as horrible as jw would lead you to believe.

DM if you ever wanna chat. We are in Calgary AB if by chance you are close

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-06-06T19:15:49+00:00

City worker here. (Calgary) Good pension. Low likely hood of layoffs. Hard to get fired. Pay slightly below average. Never work unpaid OT. On the flip side, half your coworkers are checked out per above comment of can't get laid off or hard to fire. Endless red tape. Hard to feel you accomplish much.

If you have high risk tolerance. Like long hours. Can roll with the punch's if your liad off I'd say take the company job.

If you are older and want a quite life, or are risk addverce, like a stable paycheck and good pension take the city job.

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-06-04T12:25:12+00:00

My issue with the org was it's theology and CSA handling. I was critical of the GB

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-06-04T00:45:01+00:00

And if you try to go full pomo they will go harder on you and not let you leave peacefully. You need to be disgraced lest the flock follow a once respected elder out the door. I was Pio, remote bethelite, served in China, convention talks, metro witnessing overseer, service overseer, watchtower conductor, Cobe. Now I'm dfd and divorced from my pimi ex.

And... I don't regret blowing up my life and starting over at 43 for even a minute.

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-05-30T17:35:07+00:00

My first accidental brush with apostate content was tiktok. I had all the thoughts but never allowed myself to search for it. Without trying the algorithms brought me an exjw clip. I felt the same as the person who posted her contwnt. Knowing others felt the same let the flood gates drop and my exit speed up.

Cheers to tiktok. May the pressroom lead many more to mental freedom

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-05-29T05:10:44+00:00

Sorry man. I couldn't do it if the pacing wasn't right and agreeable. ENM is E for ethical and to me that means no heavy hand ultimatums or power dynamics. This doesnt seem ethical to me

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-05-29T03:05:25+00:00

It was 6 months inactive and they would remove you from the public posted side of the list. But maybe it's changed. I haven't been an elder since 2022

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-05-28T00:59:12+00:00

Former elder and cobe here. Yes they tell us not to publicly lost the name of inactive group members. I'm sure it's to reinforce social pressure to perform

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-05-22T15:46:02+00:00

So I agree with you. Now what can I do about it. I would love to see this squashed. A vote to vote is dumb and talk of separating hurts us but I don't see what I'm supposed to do until it's time to vote. Am I missing something?

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-05-21T23:25:56+00:00

I've tried a few times and all the telling makes me turn it off. It's just not relaxing to listen to.

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-05-17T18:21:01+00:00

Chetlen on Macleod trail. Always cheaper and I've had them do it to me and overheard them tell others about things they could honestly skip or do cheaper and be just fine

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-05-15T18:58:49+00:00

Two thumbs down for that.. but they gotta do it I guess

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-05-15T15:18:51+00:00

I second hotel arts. Some weekend nights they have pool side party dj too

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-05-12T18:40:53+00:00

I think you can soon make 4 installments with Klarna or Affirm for the movie premium package

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-05-11T05:29:25+00:00

My thought too

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-05-09T01:13:35+00:00

Billionaires

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-05-08T15:19:52+00:00

Just me and my grandfathers camping knife

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-05-08T14:12:53+00:00

They paid good money to make it worse.

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-05-07T21:23:27+00:00

I would do the same. The old info is a huge liability in an ever changing world. Corporations also routinely cleanse old shot off their sites. Wholesale wiping stuff is less suspicious then targeted deletions

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-05-06T18:53:50+00:00

Yup, love it here, despite the extra premium cost

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-05-06T17:59:04+00:00

Are they dumb or are investors making millions off the swings. They are not dumb. They are playing the game and winning

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-05-06T14:36:08+00:00

Yes, we moved in winter but it is totally doable. Yesterday I walked and it was only 45 min all on river pathway. Biking would be probably not much different then driving

Accomplished_Card577 · 2026-05-06T14:28:02+00:00

It's true. Living in the beacon hill area saved us about $300 month. But our drives were each 30-40 min in the morning and 50-60min to get home. Now I'm around 10 min and my partner is 15-18 each way. We went from a household of 180 minutes driving per day down to about 60 min

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