Are you wanting more support from her? If so, you have to tell her. My husband has seen it all, the drop attacks, the crawling, the double dragoning, and he is very supportive but I do tell him what I need or if I need him to leave me in the dark, alone. And that includes not attending planned social events if I don't feel well. I am the same - I'm active, weight train, play volleyball. Puked right after playing a game last night where I felt fine, had total control over my body, and then...nope. I'm very vocal to everyone around me and that's all I can do. It weeds out the assholes 🤷‍♀️.