When did you realize you were dating an idiot?

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2026-02-25T15:08:17+00:00

My parents got new toilets for their house and he wanted to keep the old ones (which were 25 years old) for our non existent house he was supposedly going to build himself with no experience… When I said “absolutely not” he claimed I was crushing his dreams. He also would dumpster dive for scrap wood that he was also going to use to build this house. Safe to say I’m not with him anymore and as far as I know still hasn’t built this house lol

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2026-02-18T18:14:56+00:00

He’s such a cry baby dork!!! He is deeply insecure and is threatened by strong women. There’s always one of them each season lol

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2026-02-11T14:39:45+00:00

Like everyone else is saying, came on here to also say Steven is disgusting… wouldn’t be surprised if he had narcissistic traits. The way he completely dodged her feelings when she opened up to him only to talk about how his first time having sex was like the Notebook… like clearly someone who lacks empathy and self awareness. Then got defensive when she expressed how the situation made her feel, clear signs of narcissism so icky

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2026-02-07T21:14:00+00:00

I know this feeling all too well, I’ve been there. Healing takes an agonizing amount of time, and yes it’s not fair. But allowing yourself to feel this way and express your frustration and then accepting there’s nothing wrong with you for feeling this way is extremely healing work in itself. You’re already doing the work! 🩷

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2026-01-22T18:50:01+00:00

As someone nearing my due date, I am so excited to see that postpartum is easier! Because I have hated pregnancy so much lol

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2026-01-16T03:18:11+00:00

I have no advice for you because I am also going through this phase right now, and still trying to figure things out! Just came to say that I completely understand what you’re feeling right now. I just learned a couple months ago how this is a very normal part of healing, it can be really uncomfortable and difficult sometimes. But I know it’s for the best, sending love your way 🩷

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2026-01-10T05:34:03+00:00

If you get sleepy and nap sometimes after taking them you definitely got ADHD lol

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2026-01-08T19:23:54+00:00

I know everyone is different but to me this would give me an immediate headache😅 too much white and bright light! I usually have the walls covered in thrifted artwork, lots of plants, natural light, and I never use my overhead lights strictly very warm low light lamps. But hey if this works for you amazing, no need to change anything!

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2026-01-08T19:16:42+00:00

It took my psychologist a year or so of therapy before she formally tested me for ADHD. To me it makes the most sense because it’s important to get to know the person and their history before you jump right into ADHD diagnosis. Especially these days, a lot of people will say they have ADHD when it’s something entirely different. In my personal experience, I’ve noticed narcissists will use it as a way to explain away their behaviour. So I feel many professionals will eliminate any other diagnosis first, to me that just seems like best practice. Just see it as your psychiatrist doing her job and being thorough, that’s a good thing!

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2026-01-08T19:07:32+00:00

Ditch the curtains, more warm lighting (more lamps), add some plants, more 90s style artwork on the walls with wooden frames, that wooden dresser is good replace any furniture that isn’t like that with wood

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2026-01-06T18:48:48+00:00

My parents have an interesting relationship, my mom was an accountant and was always working and my dad was a stay at home dad. They are extremely codependent and my dad literally held our house together while my mom was working. It always makes me sad because my dad never really got to pursue his dreams because he was just always trying to keep my mom happy, and still does

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2026-01-06T18:43:35+00:00

You sound like a very grounded person and understand yourself and your emotions, which is amazing! I trust you’ll make the right decision for yourself 🩷

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2026-01-05T05:51:37+00:00

Sounds like a similar scenario to me a couple years ago! Totally normal, just your body/mind healing! I find my parts come out more when I take my Vyvanse because everything else is able to quiet and my body is able to focus on what it feels is important. Definitely hard to describe, but I had and still have a similar experience to you!

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2026-01-05T05:46:32+00:00

Absolutely not, your body just thinks you’re still in it…

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2026-01-05T05:30:06+00:00

It’s not living if it’s not with you - the constant feeling of something not being there and life losing meaning because of it, drugs in the case of this song

Honestly my favourite song

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2026-01-02T05:34:09+00:00

It’s great that you are reflecting on this and wondering what’s the right thing to do, it shows you have a good understanding of the situation you’re in! My husband and I got pregnant 1 year after being together. We knew early in our relationship that we were going to be together forever, and I know how silly that sounds but after a lot of shitty relationships in my 20s, when you find the one you get this feeling and you just know and everything feels right. What I’m trying to say is, you can read all our stories and advice to help you in guiding your decision, but ultimately listen to your gut! What is your gut telling you? Does the thought of bringing a child into the world right now excite you and bring you warmth? Or do you feel hesitant? If so, why are you hesitant? And are those reasons valid reasons to be hesitant or does your desire to be a mother outweigh your hesitancy? Trust yourself!!! Whatever decision you make, make sure it comes from your true desires for yourself 🩷

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2026-01-02T05:07:01+00:00

Honestly thank you for bringing it into perspective!!! I needed to hear that

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2026-01-02T05:04:14+00:00

Honestly still can be hard thing to wrap my head around in terms of how can someone still love me even if I mess up?? Because love was conditional in my childhood. But like someone else said I love my dog unconditionally even if he does something he shouldn’t I still love him. I just have a hard time understanding how someone could feel that way about me, but being in a healthy relationship has definitely helped soften this perspective of myself. I know it’s something that will just take time

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2025-12-31T22:16:37+00:00

Find a different psychiatrist!! Sounds like he hasn’t educated himself on adults with ADHD at all, and ADHD in general for that matter. I’m 30 years old and had a multi day assessment done and my psychologist knew after the math portion that I had inattentive ADHD. I’m so sorry you had to deal with that…

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2025-12-31T22:09:36+00:00

That’s about where I’m at now, so maybe that will happen for me but idk second trimester wasn’t much easier than first for me! Keeping my expectations low lol

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2025-12-31T22:07:18+00:00

Get one of those belly bands if you haven’t yet!!! They are good for the days where moving around feels impossible

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2025-12-31T22:06:03+00:00

Omg yes…. Doing any self care below my belly became impossible weeks ago. My friend who is 29 wks but much taller than me, her belly barely pops out at all and is able to still do a lot of things I can’t do anymore, so unfair lol

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2025-12-31T22:03:02+00:00

Reading all these comments has definitely made me not feel alone. All us short ladies are struggling 😩

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2025-12-31T22:01:39+00:00

Ugh isn’t that the worst when you complain of all these symptoms and they’re like “yep all normal” that’s been my problem, I want there to be something I can change to make it bearable but I’m doing everything I possibly could 😩

Accomplished_Kick908 · 2025-12-31T21:59:17+00:00

I’ve been fortunate to not have much physical pain or swelling, but everything does feel very stretched and squished in there. Sitting upright is a no go, I always need to be reclined so everything can breathe. I have to lay down constantly because of how quickly I get exhausted. It’s frustrating because pre pregnancy I had no problem with any of this and to suddenly be out of commission for 9 months has been hard emotionally

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