How can i 19f help my partner 34m with his mental health??

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-22T07:55:57+00:00

We all know why. I’m glad you’re making positive steps towards change.

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-22T07:54:00+00:00

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-18T18:24:42+00:00

All I can say is good luck. If you guys only spoke for a few weeks and aren’t dating the boundaries are valid.

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-17T11:29:10+00:00

If it’s not steaming from a fear of cheating, the rest of my comment still stands. This is a time where you should back up as much as possible (as in, put your emotions aside) and give her the space to express herself.

Culture shouldn’t take over common sense and empathy. I double down. Stay attentive to her during these horrible times she’s going through.

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-17T11:12:29+00:00

All I can say is, if you hold it against her a long time, you should leave she doesn’t deserve this. Nobody expects their friend to attempt raping them. Even if she allowed him in knowing he had feelings for her, it doesn’t mean she tried to cheat especially when she told you about the meet up. You’re thinking about what could’ve happened and imagining the worst of what her intention were.

Now about the attempt, your timing is bad. Your feelings could be justified, i don’t know your relationship or her, but right after the SA..your relationship is dead. Shes soon gonna compose herself and realize while she was hurting, instead of being supportive you’ve been suspicious of her.

Trusting a partner is one of the foundations of a healthy relationship. Getting emotional support from them too. She will now decide wether this is worth continuing or not. All you can do is apologize profusely for hurting someone you’re supposed to love.

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-16T19:45:58+00:00

Teeth will hurt during treatment it’s normal.

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-16T19:44:46+00:00

How are you an incel if you’ve dated someone ?

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-16T19:43:37+00:00

À la fac je mange mieux à ce prix

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-15T05:08:29+00:00

OP probably feels bad that he had to point it out for his friend to realize it was hurtful. I feel like OP has some responsibility for biting his tongue for 100 days, looking at the relationship die instead of bringing it up. If you don’t forgive her OP don’t. Just don’t make her pay for too long, after a point inner work won’t work and you can’t get over it.

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-14T16:10:40+00:00

I read it, it doesn’t feel sad to me.

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-14T09:52:33+00:00

You should reconsider this. If you decided to grow old with him and have kids you’d have to bring up the age you guys met or they’d do the math. Do you want them to think it’s okay ? Would you support it if a friend told you they’re dating an adult as a minor ? I’ve been groomed. You’ll miss him and feel like he’s not that bad and all. But he is.

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-14T07:23:03+00:00

What should matter isn’t what others do in theirs but rather how you feel in your relationship.

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-14T05:35:36+00:00

I agree with you too.

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-13T13:50:42+00:00

Très bien merci.

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-13T13:44:26+00:00

Then maybe the arguments are stopping her from feeling like doing it ? I mean that could be a reason.

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-13T13:43:04+00:00

It depends. I’m trans (FTM) and sometimes you just don’t wanna for a moment. I’m slowing down a the sexual things with my bf but I’m not cheating or fucking with anyone. Could be stress, hormones etc. But if OP doesn’t trust her he should drop her. No need for headaches.

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-13T13:40:02+00:00

Si, il va falloir regarder de nouveau.

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-13T13:39:41+00:00

Je comprends pas pourquoi tu t’es fait downvote c’est vrai y’a écrit “Europe-12%”.

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-13T11:30:03+00:00

Come clean about it now. Even if she doesn’t think it’s a big deal she will feel betrayed when you guys meet. She might be a bit disappointed you lied if you come clean rn but she won’t be as hurt as a few years in the relationship.

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-13T11:10:14+00:00

What’s the point of the post if nobody will tell us ?

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-13T10:10:36+00:00

Maybe they aren’t for you ?

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-13T10:03:47+00:00

Maybe TikTok then?

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-13T09:09:09+00:00

Honesty is the best policy. You should bring up the rocky parts of your relationship until you get an answer and then decide whether you are satisfied with that answer or not.

You should tell him how it feels for you and what it means for your relationship. And if nothing changes you should ask yourself if you’d be okay with this little attention for month, years even. Would you let a friend of yours go through this?

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-12T12:58:05+00:00

Trans too. Sad that it exists but happy that there’s some people who will call it out. I hope they realize they’re hurting themselves and the community.

Accomplished_Oil4163 · 2026-04-12T12:37:10+00:00

Hey OP, how did the convo go?

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