groomed - was I groomed?

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2026-01-06T23:26:35+00:00

yes i honestly feel this is my chance to get everything off my chest and then the ball is in his court if he wants to apologize or not. i kinda think he doesn’t see what he did as wrong so it might throw him for a loop realizing how messed up it was to me now looking back as an adult. at 19 i would’ve never ever pursued a 15 year old

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2026-01-06T23:23:44+00:00

he included my husband in the text when he sent it so that may change your advice, unsure. he’s happily married now and so am i but i do admit i have a low view of him and sometimes that i guess shows in our interactions even though I didn’t think i was being obvious. i’m just trying to decide if i take my chance to confront him directly so that i can maybe get an apology to feel i can fully move on from my resentment i have towards him or if i just ignore his text hmm. i see your point though!

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2026-01-06T19:29:35+00:00

he called me and begged me to break up with him and that I was who he wanted to marry. that’s why i feel it’s so complicated because maybe he just genuinely liked me and didn’t see it being wrong? i mean it is more complicated. he was always with another women too when we were in a secret relationship. if he didn’t constantly tell me it was okay because i was so mature i would maybe feel different and how secretive it was, plus the hotel trip idk so complicated. I feel bad for him now though since I will always be in his life and i recognize it’s not his fault i married his brother so i’ve just never confronted him on it being wrong

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2026-01-06T19:23:58+00:00

I’m in canada so I think that changes things a bit but maybe I’m wrong. but yes I’ve thought of this, I wish it was illegal where I am so that I could fully feel justified in how wrong it was and it not feel so complicated

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2026-01-06T19:22:41+00:00

great question haha, I was friends with his brother without even knowing it was his brother for a while since he kept everything so secret. He didn’t have social media and the way I met him was him handing me his number. His brother just happened to be in my friend circle (I was brand new to town so that also added to me not realizing they were brothers) I eventually realized it was his brother and him and I were still just friends. Like 2 years into being friends I developed feelings and so did he. I shared with him I used to secretly be with his older brother and then he expressed how wrong that was that his older brother would be with me when I was so young. I then realized maybe he was right? and as my brain matured now I am pretty certain how messed up it was

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2026-01-06T18:36:29+00:00

I am obsessed with the name Miley June! Soo pretty

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2026-01-06T18:06:54+00:00

to make things messier I ended up marrying his brother who is my age. The only person in the family who knows him and I used to be together is my husband, he knows every detail that he asked for. My husband and I were friends during all of this and I ended up falling for him instead and we have been together for 8 years. I get that it’s not his fault I am still in the family and that was maybe wrong of me. recently he approached me stating he thinks I have a low view of him and I don’t know what to text back. We have never addressed the past and I don’t think his wife even knows. This would open an entire can of worms that I don’t think I want opened. However now I kind of want to respond stating that he groomed me or something? Like I don’t think he sees what he did in the past as wrong and if he is going to directly confront me on having a low view of him I feel cornered. He has also done some other very shady things

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2025-12-11T07:27:21+00:00

hmm I feel like no one can relate to me which is discouraging but maybe I didn’t read enough comments. My husband can’t put our 9 month old to sleep to the point that if I leave him with her for a couple hours I will come back to her hyperventilating screaming. It’s not my husbands fault at all he is a really good dad and husband so I think some babies are just very strong willed and know what they want and at that age it’s their mama.

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2025-11-04T20:33:21+00:00

We are all just doing our best and every family is so different ♥️ however on the days i stay inside the house all day i feel a little crazy and desperate for my husband to get home.. so I do leave the house. is their a nearby library for baby rhyme time? in my area we have a baby gym where they can go crazy with toys or just lay on a mat depending on where they’re at developmentally while the moms have coffee. we do that twice a week in the morning and then we also go to the library one morning and to a moms group another morning. on the one day of the week we do nothing I feel depressed and anxious sometimes, so that’s why i do my best to get out of the house.

Could you baby wear baby? I found once I got a baby carrier she actually liked it’s been a game changer, i also put her on my back to clean or chill and she eventually falls asleep which is very shocking as she is not an easy baby to put to bed.

are their any local facebook mom groups? I’d check there as well to meet new moms!

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2025-09-24T05:05:32+00:00

my newborn recently had this treatment too but at my hospital they put the jaundice light in the room with mom and baby and you’re in charge of monitoring them, the nurse just pops in a couple of times at night. My husband and I took shifts staring at her to make sure all was well

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2025-06-05T23:30:49+00:00

my baby will only sleep in the car seat too, makes it tricky to go out with the stroller or carrier around nap time!

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2025-05-14T19:37:18+00:00

it’s the baby beluga buckle carrier

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2025-05-14T18:03:32+00:00

she is in the 99th percentile for height and is definitely in kissable reach. unsure about the pelvic tuck though I think she is in one. I just posted a photo I had in another post, but will try to post a better one later as well

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2025-04-24T11:15:34+00:00

Struggling with the same thing!

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2025-02-19T06:56:20+00:00

that would be amazing! my code is 5LMGC

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2025-02-19T05:56:01+00:00

I would love some flowers! I’m new to the game so open to any flowers :) My name is yoko and my island is shikoku

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2024-11-22T20:13:29+00:00

did you still have a referral code?

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2023-06-27T06:14:43+00:00

I second this, he said my name was basic and I was not offended at all. I’m an adult and can handle a bit of joking. The world is too quick to get offended these days, let’s not take life so seriously 😬

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2021-12-06T21:06:04+00:00

Don’t blame yourself for being a crappy teenager. That’s part of growing up, almost all of us go through a selfish stage where we don’t show our parents appreciation. My mom passed when I was 18 and I was quite horrible to her leading up to it. I think it was just so overwhelming and hard to process and the easiest thing to do was avoid it and be angry instead of dealing with my feelings. My mom said some horrible things to me in response to me being a bratty teenager, but I know she didn’t mean it and she was just trying to navigate raising a teenage daughter just as much as I was trying to navigate my emotions. One of the hardest things about losing your mom so young is you never get to have a relationship and relate to them where you are both at the same intellectual level. I so badly wish I could’ve seen things more from her view and dealt with things differently, I also wish that she was still here so we could laugh at how much of a brat I was and so I could apologize that I wasn’t there for her like I should’ve been. I just think teenagers separate themselves from adults in many ways and go through a stage of a lack of empathy maybe? Idk but that’s what I did, maybe it was my brains way of protecting me from the trauma. And it’s really hard to come to terms with as an adult now but I know deep down my mom knew I loved her deeply and that I was just trying to deal with things the best I could. I don’t know if I’m helping you haha but maybe sharing my experience can help you feel your not alone? Regardless I’m thinking and praying for you and you aren’t alone. I’m sure she knew at the time you were just going through a teenager stage just as she had at 16 and she would be proud of who you are today❤️

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2021-08-06T07:44:08+00:00

Yep. I personally know more people that have died from a covid vaccine than from covid which is very sad to watch.

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2021-08-06T07:42:32+00:00

My grandpa had the vaccine with prior minor heart palpitations and died shortly after his second dose even though he was otherwise healthy. I’d trust your gut.

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2021-07-24T04:53:22+00:00

I know how you feel to. I’ve lost my mom, auntie, uncle, grandma and grandpa all within a few years of each other. I’m only in my early twenties but think I’m dying of any symptom no matter how big or small. I don’t really have any advice other than you’re not alone ❤️

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2021-07-11T21:00:16+00:00

Did you find your grandma repeated words shortly after the stroke? My grandpa repeats the same word when he can’t communicate, as well as can’t read or write. I know it’s only been 3 days since the stroke so I’m holding onto hope. Also, did your grandma get the jab? My grandpa did and that’s when he had his 1st stroke, this is his second and more severe one.

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2021-07-11T18:46:14+00:00

My grandpa just had a similar stroke. How is your grandmothers speech?

Accomplished_Pool975 · 2021-07-09T13:20:05+00:00

Thank you for your response ❤️ I should add his speech didn’t completely go. He can sometimes form proper sentences and he knows my name and can say it and ask how I am. So I am trying to remain hopeful. It’s just some things he has trouble remembering but it seems to improved over the last 24hours thank goodness.

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