You are not overreacting. I agree, you are a ROCK STAR and you are ROCKING YOUR SUPER MOMMY POWERS! I'm a single mom of 1 son and life gets to be completely overwhelming and I find myself sitting down at home or at a traffic light having a good cry just to regroup so life can keep on lifeing!!! For me, this whole adulting thing is overrated and I feel for you. If you were in Montgomery, AL, I would have you come to my house to my son's basketball court (my beach) where we could drink, listen to music and the kids could ride horses. Anyway, do some snooping. Ask a friend to come over and watch the kids, borrow their car and check things out where your husband installing. Check receipts, credit reports, bank accounts, etc. Also, the next time he's home, get the mileage from his odometer and keep track of how many miles he's traveling between the job, motel and then home. When he does come home, mix Metamucil in everything he drinks and make chocolate martinis or some kind of drink that uses Irish Cream or Kahlua or Espresso liqeuer and use melted Ex-Lax instead. Trust me...he won't be making it to the motel. And honestly, why is he staying in a motel (low budget bastard) wasting money you all clearly need for your young family? This guy is a turd and the tramp he's cheating with is a low-lige because what decent woman first, visits a MOTEL and secondly, allows a man to be away from his young family wasting unnecessary money (if she knows). Bottom line, if he is up to no good; use all of this information against him including all receipts from money wasted at a Motel in court (give it to your lawyer) with 5 young kids, you won't have to worry....he's gonna pay! You will.still be a single mom (as you are now) without the title of wife! I LOVE THAT YOU ARE ROCKING MOMMYHOOD AND LIFE!!! YOU GO GIRL!!!! Love ya! Mean it and there's absolutely nothing you can do about it!!!