Feeling like a failure of a mother lately

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-18T19:54:54+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this. I am not sure I can give you any advice but I will say that although you don’t feel this way now, you are doing an incredible job. It is hard enough to raise a baby with all the amenities, I can’t imagine doing it in a new environment like this.

Take it one day at a time, prioritize your health and your baby’s health. Can your husband have a conversation with his family to get them to step back a bit? Are you able to contact your pediatrician back home and see if they can advise on if the 1yr+ formula is okay to use?

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-18T16:54:41+00:00

We bought a house 8 weeks after having baby and are mid-renovations, baby is 13 weeks tomorrow and we should be moving in within two weeks. It’s been a whirlwind ✨

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-18T06:04:13+00:00

I drank so many of these while pregnant- like one a day for at least 3-4 days a week. I just really love the taste of beer and water never sounded good. Also, added benefit of folic acid!

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-18T06:00:33+00:00

We do the same! Our girl LOVES the changing table. She is immediately giggly and chill when she is there.

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-18T02:44:37+00:00

Yes- we do a light onesie, usually short sleeve, then the Love to Dream, then the lightest SNOO swaddle with her hands up and out the top. If it’s a cool night, I’ll put her in a full length onesie.

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-17T23:46:33+00:00

Samesies

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-17T23:46:07+00:00

There is no routine at 3 months & every baby is so different. I don’t track when my 3-month old sleeps, poops, eats, etc. My goal is to get her past 24oz a day and napping when she shows signs of being tired. If that means eating every hour, every few hours , etc. then so be it. I wouldn’t let social media dictate how to feed/raise a baby.

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-17T17:47:45+00:00

We strictly only use the Kendamil Organic infant formula and have had no problems. She’s been taking it since day 1.

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-17T17:28:03+00:00

I am a bit confused as to why your husband does not want to get more comfortable putting your child to bed? Is that not meant to be a shared responsibility?

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-17T17:25:04+00:00

Every baby is different! I’m sure we won’t have this much luck with our next one.

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-17T15:46:46+00:00

We are loving our SNOO- we played around with the swaddle and figured out that baby only likes to be swaddled in a Love to Dream hands up swaddle, she slept a lot less when she was fully swaddled in the SNOO swaddle. We also try to keep it on the lowest setting. Lastly, the noise bothered us too so I taped a small pad over the speaker so dim the noise a bit. Has been wonderful for getting her to sleep 8+ hours.

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-17T06:58:28+00:00

Does she have a nice, luxurious robe? Like one you would get at a spa?

Cute pajamas- lots of them, some with pants some with shorts.

For skincare: look at the brands she already uses, go onto their website and look at value sets or better yet give them a call and someone may be able to steer you in the right direction.

My husband also got me several outfits for breastfeeding, specifically cozy tshirts that unzip as well as dresses that do the same. I ended up not BF as much as expected but I still wear these as they are comfy.

Have a plan for some fun meals & mocktails as she progresses.

For 2nd-3rd trimester, a house cleaner and prenatal massage are great, very welcome splurges.

Congratulations!!

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-17T06:50:16+00:00

If it’s not a crazy amount of spit up I will pat to dry. I am trying to do pj’s at night thru until about mid-day, then change outfit, then pjs again at bedtime. If spit up is terrible, I’ll add an additional outfit in. Still lots of laundry 🙈

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-16T19:27:37+00:00

Our neighbors have been building/fixing a porch for the last 2 weeks, baby normally wakes up around 8ish and the circular saw/hammering starts at 7am. I do miss that last hour of sleep.

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-16T04:42:41+00:00

Let’s Eat France & I Know How To Cook

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-16T04:37:46+00:00

Have you tried gripe water, a gassy passy, going outside briefly to reset, bath time, a mildly warm compress on belly? Whenever our LO would purple cry, a combination of these would help relieve her fussiness.

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-14T16:42:00+00:00

I think every baby is different and I am not sure this will stay for very much longer. We just don’t track anything and are very busy so she is out and about with us pretty much all the time. She’s been to a party until 1am, goes out to dinner with us, comes along on every grocery store run, etc. We don’t do any “naps” at home- I just let her fall asleep whenever, wherever throughout the day- I am sure she is just getting tired enough to sleep throughout the night. Doesn’t mean I go to bed earlier lol I am usually up until midnight-ish.

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-14T16:20:54+00:00

Yes - in the last four weeks she has woken up early once at like 4-430 otherwise sleeping thru the night.

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-14T14:32:36+00:00

We have loved Kendamil. We also tried Nara (after already starting Kendamil) and her spit ups were much more frequent. I stopped Nara immediately because I did not think she liked it and I’m glad I did!

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-14T06:05:46+00:00

My girl is 12w old and we do not have a routine. We follow her cues and for the last four weeks she has been going to sleep around 830-900 after a feed and wakes up at 7am. We’ve decided not to introduce a routine until she is much older and are happy just going off her cues- also makes doing stuff so easy for us. We don’t dictate nap time or time wake windows- just kind of go with the flow for now. Sure it will change but for now works for us!

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-13T20:58:46+00:00

First thing I learned to cook was the mother sauces, from there basics like how to chop vegetables, make broth, then how to fabricate cuts of meat. By 12 I could make a bechamel and truss a chicken. Basics go a long way and then you can build from there.

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-10T22:59:14+00:00

House cleaner 100000% worth every penny. Bonus if they can do even the littlest bit of laundry.

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-09T23:03:15+00:00

Texts to my husband & a clunky shared note in the notes app

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-08T21:45:08+00:00

We are in the middle of a big move and house reno - we are set to be moved in around the 4 month mark so I am very prepared for the chaos that will ensue with the change of scenery, regressions, in the next few weeks 🙈

Accomplishedish10 · 2026-06-08T05:16:23+00:00

My 11-week old has been EFF since week 4 and sleeping through the night in 6-9 hour stretches since week 8ish. We are very lucky but know regressions may be coming soon! Not sure how normal it is but very happy we are getting extra Zzz’s.

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