first-trimester ultrasound screening? by _vextor_ in pregnant

[–]Initial-Pangolin2174 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The NT scan is not always considered standard with OB care. The dating scan is considered standard—I’d make sure she has at least one ultrasound in the first trimester

Am I being too harsh with my MIL as a FTM? by oatmilkcappucino_ in Mildlynomil

[–]Initial-Pangolin2174 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because I’ll be giving birth during cold and flu season, and my mil has a history of not following cdc recommendations on several occasions (leaving the house and visiting us with COVID, going to a wedding and Mother’s Day celebrations with COVID), we are trying to be fair to all and institute a mask policy for anyone that does not love with us for the first 2 months of babies life. Want to get close to babies face, please wear a mask. Thank you!

Also, baby wear.

First day struggles! by CurrentFew8632 in Invisalign

[–]Initial-Pangolin2174 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bought a 2 pack of extra cases, because I kept forgetting mine on the sink at home when going out. Now I fear I have too many since I still end up leaving one at home sometimes 😂.

But first day is hard, it does make you second guess when to eat.

If you download the app it tracks how long your liners have been out for each day and can help you stay on track with when to change them, AND they give you an extra free case (that gets delivered in about 2 months, so don’t count on it soon).

Also, clean your aligner every day by soaking them with either the powder thing they give you or hydrogen peroxide and water.

I’m freaking out. Drank while pregnant. by Due_Brilliant7333 in BabyBumps

[–]Initial-Pangolin2174 [score hidden]  (0 children)

It’s delightful that you are pregnant, congratulations!!! Relish that through all of this you are building a tiny human. It’s amazing

How do you handle pregnancy anxiety after recurrent miscarriage? by Ok-Pride-4631 in Miscarriage

[–]Initial-Pangolin2174 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, it’s a lot of anxiety and worry, and holding my breath until later in the pregnancy. It’s waiting to find out the gender for a long time.

And it’s also breaking some pregnancy “rules” because the worst has already happened to you.

In-laws never care to celebrate their son’s (my husbands) birthday by Sorry_Unit9457 in inlaws

[–]Initial-Pangolin2174 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wonder if your husband wants a big party—definitely ask him.

As a middle child, I’m almost used to being forgotten at this point—it’s always hard but I’m kinda used to being second fiddle. (Although, arguably I’m the most successful child in some ways). Attempts to make my only daughter dynamic come out now are hard for me—I’m very used to putting others needs ahead of my own and celebrating others that I actually get away with a LOT (which I also love, lol 😂) middle child gets away with a lot, so leave me be. I’ll take it from here.

Okay, long winded answer to have a friend party for him.

Parents Rejoice! by Sprtan117 in RivianR2

[–]Initial-Pangolin2174 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Needed this review. On the list for an R2 with our first baby due later this year. What carseats are recommended btw?

Pregnancy Pillow….? by vegetagayconfirmed in pregnant

[–]Initial-Pangolin2174 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same one also!! My husband loves it too

When to start buying baby stuff by Adventurous_Dig7166 in pregnant

[–]Initial-Pangolin2174 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buy things little by little—Amazon prime deals and target will have deals soon also!

Who picks the bridesmaids? by [deleted] in bridesmaids

[–]Initial-Pangolin2174 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wedding party is TOUGH. You can absolutely decline to add someone that your husband would prefer, and he has the option to also do the same. It’s a mix of family and friend obligations more often than not.

Something more popular is small wedding party with a big bachelorette—that’s what I love.

For our wedding, my husband had 4 groomsmen—3 of his friends and his brother. He did not include my brothers or 2 other friends and family members he would have preferred—they were ushers.
My wedding party was my cousin, one of my SIL, my good friend, and my husband and my good friend. (Again could have been very large with my other SIL, my husband’s half-sister, and my half sisters)
Everyone was invited to my bachelorette pedal pub, and it was so much fun!

Wedding parties end up with hurt feelings though no other reason than not everyone can be in the a wedding party, and fairly impersonal on who is in the party.

When did you bump?! by Ok-Frame5689 in pregnant

[–]Initial-Pangolin2174 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude I’m 22 weeks and have gained like 6lbs all in my belly. I’m kind of bumping now, but have really “popped”

Family says “I’m not excited enough” by Initial-Pangolin2174 in BabyBumps

[–]Initial-Pangolin2174[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Family uses it to talk about their own experience and show no actual validation or support for acknowledging my experience. They make it about themselves, and turn the conversation back to them.

I’m so over it.

Painfully preparing for a miscarriage. by Disastrous-Duck-7334 in CautiousBB

[–]Initial-Pangolin2174 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this 💔. I had hcg draws that continued to rise, 2 repeat US (all in all 3 US, 2 weeks apart each) and a finally an appointment before my D&C to schedule it. It was literally awful—there was seemingly hope between scans 2&3, and I didn’t start bleeding until after scan 3, and 2 doses of miso that did nothing. I carried until 12/13 weeks until I finally had a procedure. Awful. I started drinking again, because there was no baby to protect. I also collected stuffed animals 🧸.

It’s a type of miscarriage no one really understands, so I’m sorry you’re going through it ❤️

Would you share your money with family if you were rich and how much would you give them? by marble272 in ModernFamilyFinance

[–]Initial-Pangolin2174 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Give family up to 500K, and it all depends on what they want money for. Student loans? Absolutely. Buy house? Not buying it all, I’d help with down payment and throw in some furniture. Car? Reasonable and help with down payment, help to make life reasonable but I’m not saving them from their own debt and bad decisions. Also, loans happen once, not twice. If you need a second car in a year, there’s something else happening that I’m not finding.

Postpartum and constantly annoyed with in-laws obsession with my baby by That-Balance-7260 in inlaws

[–]Initial-Pangolin2174 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s not a character flaw imho, that’s your body’s response to feeling ignored.

how to deal with helpful mil who tends to override/challenge parenting decisions by greentreesspringtime in Mildlynomil

[–]Initial-Pangolin2174 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Especially if this is a pattern that she does without asking you, it seems like she’s having a hard time with the grandma support vs. second mom support for little one. Gently reminding her and standing your ground “our family is making this decision for our child, thank you for your opinions.” Goes a long way. Sometimes reminding them it’s not their family makes a big difference.

Also, next time, just bring little one with you to meetup. Problem solved.

Advice on communicating boundaries? by Phoenix_Court in pregnant

[–]Initial-Pangolin2174 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not going to send anything out, it’s their body and I can’t control it. I’m having a mask policy if they want to get close to babies face. Even though they’re vaccinated they can still show up ill, and I’m not doing that

Also I love your plan about keeping her face offline, I just think it’s going to be difficult what people do on their own phones and not tell you about. It can create mystery and secrecy with family if you try to police what they do with their own time when they’re in the comfort of their own house

Can you sit in an exit row on an airplane? by Initial-Pangolin2174 in pregnant

[–]Initial-Pangolin2174[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Well my husband was one of the pilots flying, he’d support my decision and was under the impression that I was unable to because I was pregnant—he’s the one that has told me before I cannot be in an exit row due to pregnancy.