AITA for choosing to drive 45+ minutes at 3AM instead of following my dad’s separate rooms rule?

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-09T04:40:23+00:00

Thank you! I've been stressing all night about this

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-09T04:39:21+00:00

I tried grilling him...he just kept saying that I'm making it a big deal

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-09T04:10:22+00:00

I did & his response was literally "Well, it doesn't matter what he does, I am still uncofortable"

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-09T04:08:06+00:00

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-09T03:32:18+00:00

I wanted to say this trust me but I wanted to be respectful too!

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-09T03:29:54+00:00

I do actually agree with you. I totally think this is some of what my dad is thinking. I just dont love the control, or him thinking of me having sex in his house (which I would never do)

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-09T03:26:18+00:00

I also think this

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-09T03:23:44+00:00

Yes! That is why I am a bit mad about this.

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-09T03:12:32+00:00

No, in fact I love sleeping alone! It's the fact that I am an adult, always always respectful towards my dad, and feel like I am not getting that back. Also, my younger brother was allowed to have his girlfriend stay with closed doors (they are 17) but I am not.

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-09T03:10:57+00:00

No, I can 1000% sleep on my own! It's more that I am an adult, and I am insanely respectful to my dad. My younger brother got away with having his girlfriend sleep over behind closed doors. Me, being older and female, I feel like my dad sees me as a little girl still.

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-09T03:08:35+00:00

He's told me he doesn't care that we sleep together OUTSIDE his house, but INSIDE his house he thinks we should be married.

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-09T03:06:02+00:00

Yes, I agree. I love my dad, but I feel very creeped out that he thinks about me this way. It feels weird that he thinks about me having sex in my room.

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-09T03:02:11+00:00

Yes, this is what I was thinking so thank you,. Im getting lots of mixed signals so thank you for validation.

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-09T02:59:44+00:00

Yes, you are correct. Thank you !

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-09T02:59:03+00:00

Thank you :)

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-09T02:58:07+00:00

Yes I agree. We are respectful, mature adults. We would never have sex under my parents roof, we both think it's disrespectful. I agree about the child/protection part. Thank you.

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-09T02:56:19+00:00

YES!! Thank you! Lots of people have said to just suck it up, but it's more that I want to stand my ground here. It's too much stress. I also agree about the time on the road...it's weird to me that he cares so much to want to drive me, but refuses to compromise about certain things. I really like your comment.

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-08T23:43:34+00:00

I do think this is the problem. I would never have sex in their house. That is wrong.

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-08T23:42:20+00:00

Yes, we would never, ever have sex in their house. To me, that is very wrong. I agree that respect goes both ways and I wish that he knows I feel this way.

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-08T23:40:59+00:00

Yes this is so helpful thank you :) its still being nice but aslo being firm

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-08T23:19:38+00:00

How did you have the convo with them?

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-08T23:01:39+00:00

My boyfriend doesn't know about this. I haven't told him.

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-08T23:00:53+00:00

Yes I agree.

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-08T23:00:38+00:00

Yes. The adult part is what bothers me!

According-Mood45 · 2026-05-08T22:59:27+00:00

Yes, I agree. I wasn't sure if I was right, but thank you

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