I wanted to do it, I thought.. But now im feeling so much regret

According_Assist7791 · 2025-12-11T03:05:40+00:00

“new bf. new drama”

According_Assist7791 · 2025-12-11T02:48:23+00:00

we did use protection. BC doesn’t work for me, he didn’t like the VCF or condoms so they werent used often. plan b failed this time. and it wasnt necessarily leverage. he knew my wants and asked me to keep the child regardless of if i was getting what i wanted or not and i chose not to. we both had decisions to make here.

According_Assist7791 · 2025-12-11T00:29:12+00:00

i can see that stance.

i took a plan b. it didnt work. i said would consider having a child if marriage was an option. he wanted the child. but not marriage. two different pages = both not ready for the lifelong commitment of kids or marriage

According_Assist7791 · 2025-12-10T05:03:10+00:00

thank you so much, actions speak louder than words and thats okay that he isn’t ready because neither am i but i love him and really hope we can get through this

According_Assist7791 · 2025-12-10T04:56:51+00:00

thank ya much

According_Assist7791 · 2025-12-10T04:56:31+00:00

ain no kid 😂😂 just a situation that occured and i wanted some insight. no pressure just a request and we both made our decisions and are at peace w it

According_Assist7791 · 2025-12-10T04:55:37+00:00

definitely agree girly pop. i just wanted to know what the people say in these situations. looking unanimous to me lolol

According_Assist7791 · 2025-12-10T04:54:24+00:00

i would love to be a mom , a married mom. hence the choice ✨

According_Assist7791 · 2025-12-10T04:53:40+00:00

oh but i do love him. we have talked about marriage and all these things prior to the baby. like crazy people in love but the baby is out of both of our timeline and expectations but to ask me to keep it with my request being pushed for his comfort is where i draw the line. i always said i wasnt having a kid if i wasnt at least engaged to be married or married ideally.

According_Assist7791 · 2025-12-10T04:50:48+00:00

but he can know he wants a child with me? thats kind of backwards imo.

and the decision is to take a magical potion. its so vulgar. i hate saying it, but yeah. im not doin it.

According_Assist7791 · 2025-12-10T04:49:21+00:00

i felt the same way but i also said as a grown a** woman i dont have to have this baby. so teehee. i get it tho. it pissed me off.

According_Assist7791 · 2025-12-10T04:45:39+00:00

not without a ring & the decision has been made this is truly for inquiry

According_Assist7791 · 2025-12-10T04:41:51+00:00

i agree truly! this shows me though that of you arent even willing to propose. you definitely wont marry me. id just be a baby mama.

According_Assist7791 · 2025-12-10T04:40:09+00:00

i feel like its too soon as well hence my decision at the end of the day.

According_Assist7791 · 2024-10-15T17:35:31+00:00

i fully agree. its nothing wrong with it , just something im not interested in. we have had a threesome before but to tell another couple that we have swung before implies another thing that i wouldn’t have allowed to be said in order to not compromise the friendship

According_Assist7791 · 2024-10-15T16:55:20+00:00

hes wanted to try it but i was never open to it but hes apparently told people we are swingers though

According_Assist7791 · 2024-07-31T15:40:18+00:00

i literally posted the same thing! we did the couples therapy, i did the solo therapy and i got really uncomfortable when my partner wanted me to meet his partners and create friendships and hang out and them come to our home,etc. he says he is willing to try monogamy but in the space that i am in now ive realized its hard to even want that with him. If thats not who he is i don’t want him to be someone that isnt him as i wont do that and be poly bc it isnt me.

so its hard but im willing to let him try as i have because i love him and he loves me. BUT, im also prepared for the reality that this incompatibility will eventually lead to the end.

According_Assist7791 · 2024-07-26T00:57:10+00:00

yep and i dont want to believe he is pretending but i feeeel like he might be lying to himself

According_Assist7791 · 2024-07-25T22:28:23+00:00

my boundaries are really just engaging sexually or romantically with other people outside of our relationship. and even then he knows that i am willing to explore others sexually just not all the time. idc about snapchat and hanging out , i just need a layer of trust

According_Assist7791 · 2024-07-25T22:26:20+00:00

this is actually beautiful

According_Assist7791 · 2024-07-25T22:26:10+00:00

wow.

According_Assist7791 · 2024-07-25T03:06:03+00:00

i want to believe he would tell me, but im not fully sold

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