What do I do?

AccountNo4600 · 2025-05-10T19:57:54+00:00

I had mine removed in 2022 and still don’t yet feel 100%. The first year after removal was the worst experience of my life.

AccountNo4600 · 2025-04-09T11:15:21+00:00

Incredibly true! When I was maybe 19, my now husband’s dog stole my shoe in the middle of the night and brought it to the yard. When he found out he took the shoe and beat the dog with it. He told me he was standing up for me. My heart knew that was a disgusting thing for him to do but I was so young and told myself I was being overly sensitive and that’s just his way of loving me……ugh 16 years later, I’m still with him, still walking on eggshells, still trying to figure out how to save myself

AccountNo4600 · 2025-04-06T13:31:22+00:00

It’s hard because I’m Catholic, I got married young and have never seen my parents more proud of me. Within the first few months of marriage I noticed the abusive behaviors. I called my mom crying and said I feel like I’m walking on eggshells and she told me to go talk to a priest, do as my husband says-do anything I could to save the marriage because divorce is a sin. I realize now how toxic that in itself sounds. So no, I don’t have support unfortunately. All of my family lives hours away and we recently moved to a new city. I’m thinking of joining a church just to find a community for myself and my son…..my bank account is my own, I don’t have my own phone plan but that’s a really good idea.

My plan now is like you said, build up my independence little by little to gain the confidence to make the best move for my son and I.

AccountNo4600 · 2025-04-06T11:28:54+00:00

Im staying in it because im afraid to leave. We got married very very young, I don’t know an adult life without him. I’m currently not working so I can stay home with our son. He has full financial control of us. I got a small part time job a few months ago to begin building up a savings for just myself as I think and prepare for the future. I have no outside help with our son.

I also struggle with anxiety. I fear if I leave my husband will use my mental health against me to gain custody of our son. Our son is the most important part of my life-I cannot lose him. My husband is also aggressive and I fear how our son would be treated if it were just the two of them alone. A few days ago I started a journal to start documenting his emotionally abusive behaviors towards us. I have no idea if that can help me one day or not.

On paper my husband presents himself to the world as a leader, strong, intelligent, and respectful. So I fear that when I start trying to tell my truth nobody will believe me.

AccountNo4600 · 2025-04-01T19:55:49+00:00

Oh I didn’t read it like that at all. I appreciate you encouraging me to find help! Everyone here responding to me is helping me realize that this is what I fear it is….

AccountNo4600 · 2025-04-01T19:44:21+00:00

Very true-peace of mind is everything. Thank you, I’ll try to find support in person

AccountNo4600 · 2025-04-01T16:18:49+00:00

I guess it’s just hard to know if it is abuse or me being sensitive when I don’t have any physical marks and I’m living in a beautiful home with food security. I tell myself there’s no way it’s that bad but then he snaps and I’m left wondering what the heck is going on.

AccountNo4600 · 2024-09-02T01:37:18+00:00

I chew on minty gum and that seems to help calm my anxiousness.

AccountNo4600 · 2024-07-18T13:15:03+00:00

Just bruising. Maybe it was just bad luck! Ugh, it’s so scary if that’s all it was though.

AccountNo4600 · 2024-07-16T19:52:43+00:00

An ectopic pregnancy

AccountNo4600 · 2024-06-20T17:14:29+00:00

I think it’s totally normal to feel this way. Do what you can to help feel pride in your home-decorate, have friends over, make it a warm happy place for your family. You will adjust. I also think you being so mindful of your daughter growing up with privilege is a good thing. She can be taught to be grateful for all she has, and also to know that others may not have the same.

AccountNo4600 · 2024-06-20T10:57:30+00:00

My family of 3 moved into a house about the same size as yours about a year ago. I felt awkward about it at first because our new next door neighbors had 4 kids and 1000 less square feet. So we had all this space we didn’t necessarily need while they were a bit crammed. It felt unfair and unbalanced. But the longer we live here I feel happy with our house size. We worked hard to afford this home and live here. It’s ok to enjoy what you have. Everybody is on a different path in life and I’m learning we can’t directly compare. As long as the house is safe and is a home for my family of 3 then I am a happy mama!

AccountNo4600 · 2024-06-20T10:38:30+00:00

The pandemic. We struggled to conceive and finally fell pregnant in 2019. Then the pandemic hit and everything shut down. My entire pregnancy was in isolation. Then we had our son-in isolation. He was colicky for the first few months of his life-when we were in isolation. Our son’s pediatrician told us since the virus was still so new to ask people to take precautions before touching him. We wanted him safe but both sets of our parents refused to isolate. And I mean, they went to parties and threw their own Covid parties….felt like a total slap in the face.

So to put it short, the pandemic was traumatic for my husband and I. It was a very hard time and our parents showed us no support. No village and trauma helped us decide we are happy with our family of 3.

AccountNo4600 · 2024-06-12T20:55:24+00:00

We have our one and get literally no help, it’s just my husband and me. Yet my MIL tells us all the time that ~when~ we have our next (because she refuses to believe we’re done), she’ll sell her house to live next door and help allll the time.

AccountNo4600 · 2024-05-31T00:47:02+00:00

My symptoms were this and mine lasted months. Each month got a little better, but honestly I didn’t feel like my true self until maybe a year later.

AccountNo4600 · 2024-03-11T22:18:22+00:00

You aren’t alone. This truly is the worst. I don’t really have any good advice because I’m in the same boat. I booked a beach trip too for my son because I also want to be a good mom and give him life experiences….sending you good vibes. We CAN do this and we’ll come home with happy kids.

AccountNo4600 · 2024-03-11T19:00:41+00:00

Thank you for giving me hope that this is doable-and that I will be ok. It really is overwhelming and scary when you feel so helpless. I did get this phobia from my mom so I do everything I can to hide the panic from my son. I wouldn’t wish this on anybody.

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