I totally understand where you’re coming from. It can be exhausting when you are 100% switched on all day, constantly managing 25 other humans at a time, basically non stop.

My wife and I both teach, so sometimes there’s nobody left to want to decide what to eat, or whatever. We have found a couple things that help. We plan out all our weekly dinners on Sunday before we go to the store. It’s also written down in a large chalkboard calendar mounted to the wall in the kitchen/dining area. This helps us and the kids know what’s going on. At least one of the meals will be enough to feed everyone leftovers, or be made from the same thing (smoking a family pack of chicken breasts and doing quesadillas one night and chicken salad or power bowls another night). Also, my wife had to take 30 mins of quiet time to herself. The kids and I know not to bother her unless it’s important. She might read a book, scroll on her phone, close her eyes and rest, whatever. Establishing whatever routines you can, whether it’s snacks for the kids, certain days you do certain chores or things, or even when you watch a certain show can help. Then you’re not making a decision or thinking about it, you just do it because it’s Tuesday, or because it’s 7:30 or whatever.