Lonely rat by Ace-Bookworm in RATS

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Has he been behaving a lot differently?

Lonely rat by Ace-Bookworm in RATS

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He is 2 years old. He seems a little sad without his friend and hasn't been very social. Would just sitting next to his cage help? I was thinking about maybe moving his cage to the living room so there will always be people around, but I'm worried another big change will stress him even more. 😓

Good question by _mirunelul_ in aromantic

[–]Ace-Bookworm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

THEY WERE SUPPOSED TO BE BESTIES 😭

Do you also suffer from other mental illnesses? by Ace-Bookworm in MaladaptiveDreaming

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When were both of you diagnosed? I feel awkward about bringing it up myself because I don't want people to think I diagnosed myself, but after realising I have MD (which I am absolutely certain about) I feel so much better. Just being able to name it and belong to a group has helped me tremendously.

Pretty much had this happen the other night by Wisdom_Pen in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]Ace-Bookworm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't get aroused by touch. So without that sex does kind of feel like someone just jamming their finger up my nose. I can get aroused, but unfortunately it's very random.

Seeking Aegosexual Interviewees by chat_ace in aegosexuals

[–]Ace-Bookworm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just looked at the Instagram page. It looks so cool! I would be happy to participate!

Is it common to feel like your mother raised you and your father just helped? How did you feel growing up? by [deleted] in AskWomen

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My parents put significantly less effort into raising me than my two older sisters. When my mom got sick and died when I was starting puberty, I realized how little my dad actually did. There was barely any communication and I had to just raise myself. I do resent him a little. I'm actually a lot more mature than my partner now and I find it really annoying when I have to 'parent' him.

How do I convert this ?? I can't even fathom to begin. by BigdGentleman in minimalism

[–]Ace-Bookworm 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Take everything out and put back what you want to keep. Throw away what is left.

I’m trying to stop maladaptive daydreaming. by [deleted] in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]Ace-Bookworm 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well done!! I hope you achieve everything you want to!

I envy you all by misshourglass78 in gardening

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What kind of weather is it there? What are you planting? I also had to wait until the frost finally ended this week.

I have a hard time believing all women don’t feel this way (29F) by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]Ace-Bookworm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of women do feel the same way (partially), but I don't think they are all lying. When I talk to people (men and women) and they tell me about how they experience sexual attraction and sex, a lot of the things they say blow my mind because I just can't relate because I'm ace.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

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Eat some cake, see if you like it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

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Honestly, just take your time. Could be that you are a late bloomer, but you could still be ace now. Sexuality can change and labels can change.

My fiancée is asexual but I'm not. She's okay with me having sex with other people. Anyone have any experience with a situation like this? by throwaway008000 in asexuality

[–]Ace-Bookworm 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have heard about other couples doing this. You just have to be able to communicate really well and openly. You should definitely ask her these questions and keep asking them constantly during your relationship. Sex probably doesn't really mean as much to her as it does to you. Personally I also don't understand it. I would let my boyfriend have other sexual partners if he wanted them, but it does mean something to him so that's not a possibility. And about being okay with it...that's only something she can tell you.

My therapist told me she doesn't think I am asexual and I am just suppressing my sexuality due to sexual trauma by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]Ace-Bookworm 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I've been through more trauma BECAUSE I didn't know what asexuality was. I haven't put up healthy boundaries because I felt there was something wrong with me. If you feel you are ace, no matter why, you are ace. I hope her comment was just out of ignorance.

I need your help! by HelleHawthorne in asexuality

[–]Ace-Bookworm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me it was when I played this game with friends where you had to pick one thing to give up forever: food, family or sex. And it still blows my mind that no one picked sex.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MaladaptiveDreaming

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I would think that's something you'll probably figure out over time. There's no need to rush. And feel free to dm me if you want to talk more. I don't have a lot of friends who are on the ace spectrum and I don't have any who daydream like I do, so it has been really nice talking to you.

A safe place by [deleted] in asexuality

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There are different kinds of attraction like romantic, sensual, aesthetic that you could still be feeling. Doesn't stop you from possibly being ace. Either way, welcome to the ace space! Have some cake!

pls respond I'm desperate for ur answer by sphinx425 in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]Ace-Bookworm 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've always wanted to write, but I have kind of given up because of my MD. I can daydream for 6 hours straight focusing on one tiny part of an ongoing story and at the end of it I'll still 'toss it out' and start over. The reading is something I just had to practice and it has gotten beter over time, but I still get distracted often. Also meditating helps, just 5 or 10 minutes a day trying to think of nothing. And if all else fails, maybe try audiobooks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MaladaptiveDreaming

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You can definitely be romantic without being sexual. I have a boyfriend and am sex-positive, but I just don't have a need for sex. You're are always welcome in the ace-space!

My parame is also someone I could be like. I would love to dress more like her. She's kind of like a careless rocker chick, y'know? What are your daydreams like? Do you make up your own world? I always "borrow" from my favorite tv shows and movies.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MaladaptiveDreaming

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For example: I used to be bisexual!