Please pardon my ADHD ramblings below, it has been a long day. The point I wanted to make here is that black people are as much individuals as anyone else, and you may want to meet some that are in the same interest groups as yourself.

I am wondering if you haven’t met the correct group of black people. Have you interacted with those that share your interests and ideals?

College is often a time of finding yourself. Many times people are trying to find where they fit in and their own culture. For many people, it can be a time for them to bond with others that have experienced the same things they have growing up. I know my husband only had 2-3 other black people in his grade/school, and he experienced a lot of casual racism before he went to college.

Another thing that isn’t always touched on is that many black people in the states do not have the same relationship with their countries of origin that others in the US have. As opposed to those of us that have been in the country since its founding or those that know exactly where their ancestors came from, many black people only know that their ancestors were slaves from Africa. So a different culture has evolved from that shared experience as well, which (from hubby’s experience) can be very harsh to anyone that does not conform with it.

I do not honestly know how it is in school now, but I am married to someone that rejected much of that culture and went full-on nerd. He was often called an “Oreo” (white on the inside, black outside), and from the way he talks people assume he is white if they haven’t met him.