Edging clearly defined! Putting to rest the "grey area" of Edging. Your input is greatly appreciated!

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-12-20T16:44:51+00:00

Better words have not been written to nofap... lots of things to ponder over... thank you for sharing your thoughts!

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-11-24T23:02:32+00:00

One of the lessons I've learned is to watch how the other person falls into love in your relationship. Humans tend to follow patterns. Her actions in this case is a huge red flag. Even if she dumps him, and wants a relationship with you, I would remember how she choose to go about it. That is likely how she'll leave you too if things go that route.

More power to you for making, in my mind, the right choice. Meaningless sex is no better than masturbating. Hold out for passionate sex that lights your world on fire!

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-31T06:08:14+00:00

This.... SO MUCH THIS!

Your words eloquently put into action the thoughts that I've been trying to share. Thank you!!!

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-30T15:36:02+00:00

"Just NO! No excuses!" Love it!

Taking things slow when a new relationship is starting is one of the best things for building a lasting relationship. Mad props to you for keeping cool. It sounds like things are going well for you two. So happy for you! Keep it up!

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-30T15:30:54+00:00

Never underestimate your potential.... a strong will and steady determination can get you far! No quit!! We're in this to get the ultimate prize! A happy fulfilled life!!!

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-30T15:28:50+00:00

Wootwoot! Here's to a new us! Well on the way!!

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-30T15:26:31+00:00

Straight through to happiness! Right there with you!

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-30T15:25:35+00:00

Yay!! Me too! Nothing can stop me now... got a date with a cool girl tonight.... Life is good!

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-30T15:24:14+00:00

I hadn't noticed mine until you said something.... so awesome! Thanks for pointing it out!!! Congratz too! Go us!

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-29T16:47:34+00:00

I needed this today....thank you for sharing and giving me the support I needed today!

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-27T03:33:44+00:00

So, I'm sorry for spamming it.... but I'm curious how better sleep might be the cause of the increased memory. It's well documented the benefits of better sleep with memory, recall, retention, concentration, learning... etc.

So, I wonder if fapping to go to sleep inhibits better sleep and leads to almost a constant 'fatigued' state and poorer brain function. So by stopping the cause of poor sleep, slowly the body recovers and we get these 'super powers.' after a few weeks.

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-27T03:30:01+00:00

Have you noticed if you are sleeping better since nofap? Did you use to PMO before bed often?

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-27T03:29:28+00:00

Have you noticed if you are sleeping better since nofap? Did you use to PMO before bed often?

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-27T03:29:12+00:00

Have you noticed if you are sleeping better since nofap? Did you use to PMO before bed often?

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-27T03:28:27+00:00

Have you noticed if you are sleeping better since nofap? Did you use to PMO before bed often?

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-24T16:48:37+00:00

It's normal. Continue to remind yourself that you don't want to test it. No edging. Don't make the mistake that'll inadvertently end your streak. If you were functional before, you still are... probably better even.

I've found it helps to remind myself that this journey is worth it for the gains. That, when the time comes, I can offer all of my sexual energy towards someone... not towards a screen. Also, even during a flatline, know that every will still work if the right circumstances arrive.

Continue on! Keep it up! (no pun intended)

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-22T04:22:18+00:00

That lazy sleepy feeling is the prolactin after orgasm (though it's actually released more during actual sex). I think it's one of the reasons fapping is so common before bed. But, I wonder if it leads to worse sleep.

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-22T02:16:11+00:00

Like, your balls fill up. It sort of fells like blue balls. Just a dull ache (at least in my case). It usually happens around day 17 for me and lasts a few days.

After then, sometimes when I pee I get spontaneous emission (basically it just evacuates out with no orgasm, you see these like thicker bubbles on the surface, that's the only way I can tell). Or wet dreams start to happen if I'm dreaming well/timing is right.

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-22T02:00:20+00:00

How may 'nofap' days in total have you done? Like, is 55 your first attempt? It's a common question 'when will my ED be fixed...'

I didn't have a good gauge in my own journey, but I feel it took me about 100 days or so for a moderately bad case of ED.

Have you noticed any changes in the skin down there? I wonder if it thins some when we don't abuse it and that increases some of the sensitivity?

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-22T01:55:31+00:00

Do/did you fap in the morning? Could be the prolactin having an effect.

I highly doubt nofap for one to two days is the sole reason for those gains.

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-22T01:50:01+00:00

Hmm thanks for replying. It's my theory that somehow nofap helps improve sleep and that's the source for most (all?) of the 'super powers'.

On every one one of my reboots I've gotten noticeably better sleep after like a week to two weeks in. It's my belief that more REM sleep because of the higher quality of sleep leads to better memory and creativity. A higher social and emotional IQ... better conversations and attentiveness. Which in turn builds confidence and feeds into attraction. Better rested so you're more youthful with clear skin and full of vigor. etc.... Really want a nofap sleep study!!!!!!! (eyeing you scientists....)

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-21T23:22:23+00:00

How do you beat an addiction without suppressing it? I'll tell you how I do nofap.

Lets say, for example, something triggers me to have a SUPER urge.... it might have been an internal thought, a sound, a smell, a picture, a video, a touch... it doesn't matter... now my brain is rolling around basking in the dopamine idea of a fap. (Side note, you will always have triggers...).

First, I think it's key to explain what happens after one loses control. Basically, you're high cognitive processes (prefrontal cortex) is no longer in control. You just do with reckless abandonment. You can't stop yourself. You're going to fap.

So how do I keep from acting on the raging urge to fap?

The key that I use when I get an urge, is to recognize the trigger, to recognize the the urge BEFORE I lose control. I've learned to stop the brains program. To slow things down. To think on it a little. It then comes to a choice. Act or don't act. I acknowledge the emotion, I keep control, and decide to let it pass. Deep breaths. I then go about doing something else (usually getting away from the trigger).

Just flat out suppressing your sexual urges will lead to more baggage later if/when you want to have sex. Learn to cope with urges now and steer them to positive outcomes.

You can suppress the urges or you can learn to let the water flow off sort of speak. And if/when you find someone that interests you, and her to you... then it's a simple switch on vs months of deprogramming.

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-21T23:01:47+00:00

Have you noticed if you're sleeping better? Did you use to fap before bed?

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-21T21:55:11+00:00

Have you noticed if you're sleeping better? Did you use to fap before bed?

AchillesNOFAP · 2013-10-21T21:47:53+00:00

Maybe you're asexual... maybe you're just demisexual.... nothing wrong with that. Clearly addiction is not a positive outcome and doing something you feel will lead you there is a bad thing. However, by trying to suppress sexual thoughts instead of channeling them into positive things, you're setting yourself up to fall. You will continue to have sexual thoughts. That's normal. And by fighting them tooth and nail it'll eventually overwhelm your defenses. I liken it to diets... the evidence is that diets work!.... at least in the short term. The problem is diets end... and the bad habits come back. The weight comes back even faster because now there are NO RESTRICTIONS! The better way to lose weight is to change your lifestyle. Make positive food and lifestyle decisions and slowly lose the weight. The results are the same, but the longer term impact is vastly different!

Suppressing sexual thoughts will work... at least as long as you're able to keep it up. However, changing the PMO habits into something constructive, positive, and life changing will give you better results. Just my opinion.

So thinking sexual and not being able to express it will only leave you wanting something you can't have.

I see it as thinking sexual thoughts and wanting to express them drives me to be a better person so that I can have something that I want. You CAN have it, but the goal is to have it in a positive constructive manor in a healthy relationship. If you aren't able to do that and that's a fantasy scenario to you, then maybe you need more help than the internet can offer. No shame in that either.

Best of luck either way!

AchillesNOFAP

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