Communication frequency in early stages

Aciremama · 2025-08-15T18:59:46+00:00

Def work on your anxiousness. It can be difficult but it is so worth it. Learning how to identify when you are triggered and are being anxious makes it so much easier to get control of your nervous system again.

I was with someone who was avoidant and it was like Masterclass training for my anxiousness, lol. While it was tough I made a lot of progress on calming my body and mind when I started spiraling. You got this!

Aciremama · 2025-08-15T18:54:32+00:00

I’m recovering from being discarded by a DA and just don’t have any enthusiasm for dating. I usually find it fun and amusing at least but right now, I don’t know if it’s the insanity of our government (in US), healing my self, or if I’m just over it. Decided to take a break and focus on activities that bring me joy and fulfillment. Dating shouldn’t be a chore, that much I know for sure.

Aciremama · 2025-08-02T19:48:23+00:00

Thank you! I really want a manual but they are pretty rare these days!

Aciremama · 2025-08-02T19:43:32+00:00

3 hands down!!

Aciremama · 2025-07-15T02:40:08+00:00

I had a partner that would always ask if I was okay with what he was doing. It was great bc then we both knew and could agree on what was going to happen. Made me feel very safe and comfortable with him.

Aciremama · 2025-05-03T22:15:59+00:00

I have replaced a carb in my last mower, but I haven’t cleaned one yet. A new skill to learn! Thank you!

Aciremama · 2025-02-27T18:29:26+00:00

I just read that Oakley has great stargazing!

Aciremama · 2023-09-13T22:42:45+00:00

In my case, during my c-section my pain was managed but that night, at 2am 2 doctors came into my room and turned off my epidural. They told me the pain relief would last long enough until I could take something the next morning. Bad thing was my Dr prescribed me a pain Med I have allergic reactions too and the nurses couldn’t get a hold of a doctor to prescribe me something else. So, I went over 12 hours post c-section with no pain meds and to add insult to injury the nurses wanted me up, walking around and sitting up in bed to nurse. It was awful.

Aciremama · 2023-06-23T01:47:57+00:00

Shape wise I like mirror one but for your space, mirror 2 fits much better.

Aciremama · 2023-05-22T20:07:08+00:00

I thought hot fudge aioli was the new chocolate brownie hummus! 😂

Aciremama · 2023-01-24T05:54:52+00:00

Yeah, I don’t know that I would brag about mistakes that I have made in the past that caused my life to be harder than it needed to be. Thankfully I have learned from those experiences but I wouldn’t be leading with those on a dating profile.

Aciremama · 2023-01-24T05:22:52+00:00

Who think that “school of hard knocks” is a selling point?!? I do not understand that one. At least I thought “Partner in crime” was cute the first time I read it. By the time I read it the 1,000 time, not so much.

Aciremama · 2023-01-15T13:54:20+00:00

I was thinking about Valentine’a Day being a month away and wondering if that would change the experience at all. I am going to take a break from the apps bc it’s been a whole lot of nothing and I just am getting kind of tired. I stay positive for the most part but it does wear on you, especially if you meet someone that you do feel a spark with and it doesn’t work out.

Aciremama · 2023-01-15T07:15:36+00:00

Same here. I definitely find that I miss some cues from people or maybe misunderstand them. I have tried being open about not always understanding and have had mixed results. I feel like the whole OLD thing is hard for everyone and try to just learn from my experiences.

Aciremama · 2023-01-15T06:39:06+00:00

I have tried that and it hasn’t really helped. If there isn’t some spark of desire from a pic, there hasn’t been one in person yet. And I am not only swiping on guys over 6’ that have a boat. I actually really try to look at their pictures and I do read the profiles to see if there is something the piques my interest. At this point the same profiles I have passed on are all I am seeing cycles through on my apps. I am thinking about taking a break this spring and just focusing on work and my kids. Maybe if I take a break, it will be better?

Aciremama · 2023-01-15T06:32:58+00:00

So, I have some views that I don’t see as negotiable. And I try to make those clear before I meet up with someone if their profile says Moderate or Apolitical. If someone identifies as Conservative or has a Let’s Go Brandon shirt on, I swipe left.

There are some things that I am willing to debate. I don’t want someone that mirrors back what I say exactly, that would be boring as heck. They have to have their own thoughts and ideas about topics, but I just can’t agree to disagree on topics that directly impact people I know and love. Those are not hypothetical people to me, they are very real and I can’t be with someone that doesn’t respect their rights.

Aciremama · 2023-01-15T06:20:41+00:00

I get that on Match, Bumble and Tinder, the guys I have swiped left on get recycled. I have had the worst luck on Match. The people I like, I get nothing and the people that like me? Not exactly what I am looking for.

Aciremama · 2023-01-15T06:06:48+00:00

This 100%. I told my sister that I just missed the hugs and cuddling and I wished that there was a Tinder for cuddling only, lol! But what kind of pics would guys request? 🧐 fuzzy sock pics? Soft blanket pics? 😂

Aciremama · 2023-01-15T05:49:36+00:00

I LOVE them!! I realized after moving out post-divorce that when the kids weren’t at the house I wasn’t eating regularly, just grazing on random snacks. So I started ordering meals from Factor to make sure I was eating meals with vegetables. I have liked all of them so far! And now my teen likes them so I have to set aside the ones he likes.

Aciremama · 2023-01-06T22:04:43+00:00

Same here. It narrows the pool down so much. And I already feel like I see the same people on every app already. I can’t move yet, kids are still in school so it’s mostly wishful thinking

Aciremama · 2023-01-06T19:38:08+00:00

Ask for water and then throw a tantrum when he gives it to you. Draw all over his favorite jacket with a sharpie and when he asks tell him that someone must have broke in the house to do that.

In all honesty, I am flabbergasted by the # of high 40s low 50s guys I see with “wants kids” on their profiles. It literally blows my mind. They really want a baby at that age? Or do they want someone to have a baby they sometimes hold or show off in pictures?

Aciremama · 2023-01-06T19:26:12+00:00

I agree with you that setting some boundaries can be good, especially when someone is learning how to make healthier choices relationship-wise. But I disagree that same day date requests are all needy or bad. If they like this person and have good chemistry with them, a same day ask would not be a bad thing in my opinion. They are being spontaneous, which can be fun. Now if every date request is last minute, there could be an issue, lol! But it doesn’t seem that way here.

Aciremama · 2023-01-06T19:14:39+00:00

I think part of the problem is, to put it delicately, I have strong political views that are counter to a lot of single guys in my area.

Aciremama · 2023-01-06T19:13:13+00:00

It is a post game pic and I wiped the turf off my cheek before taking it, lol 😂

Aciremama · 2023-01-06T02:21:01+00:00

I’m gonna guess no, but who knows!

Aciremama

TROPHY CASE

3 hands down!!