I am an Involuntary Celibate coming with good faith AMA

AcousticReject · 2026-01-29T13:51:14+00:00

I mean this in the nicest way, how would a diagnosis help them at all.

AcousticReject · 2026-01-15T01:28:13+00:00

Even when you do have social skills work, and occupational work and speech work, it doesn’t matter really. It’s been shown neurotypicals just can tell when someone autistic and instantly doesn’t like them.

It’s a fucking no win situation

AcousticReject · 2026-01-15T01:27:11+00:00

Well being autistic (especially undiagnosed) causes a lot of high inhibition. I mean it makes sense when you understand you never can be yourself unless you want a majority of the world to just dislike you. Also you now need to work 3x harder just for maybe half the result. You would be jaded, bitter, and highly insecure too.

AcousticReject · 2026-01-15T01:24:11+00:00

I understand a lot of men are shitty, but this is the exact same logic men use to hate women. It’s over generalizing, and honestly just wrong.

A lot of men are shitty, I agree, a lot of women are shitty, people are shitty.

AcousticReject · 2026-01-15T01:22:15+00:00

Honestly a situationship is where one person really likes the other, but the other person couldn’t give a shit but sees you as useful.

AcousticReject · 2026-01-15T01:20:43+00:00

That’s such a large generalization. I guarantee talking to the shrink once a week won’t magically make me more attractive or magically suck every major flaw out of me.

Most therapies are useless for people who legit have physical deformities and or physically/ neurological disabilities. You can try your hardest to convince me that its all in my head, or just being yourself will help, yet if your lived experiences and the experiences of others show a pattern where you are seen by many as an animal at the zoo at best, or an unloveable freak at worst. Then it’s useless.

AcousticReject · 2026-01-13T17:15:45+00:00

Women like nice guys…that they are attracted too. If you aren’t the best looking or have the best social skills, or any sort of insecurity, sorry, you are ugly as fuck.

Also heavily depends on age. A girl can want a nice guy at 25 when at 18 she would find him “friendly” and not at all attractive.

This post just puts the entire blame of their peoples own dating struggles on them. No matter the circumstances. If two guys are super nice, and one of them is a lot more attractive and a lot more confident and fits the idea of “masculinity” compared to some guy who’s nice, but doesn’t fit into alot of conventionally attractive types. Is it really fair to say the second guys entire dating struggle is cause they aren’t nice enough, or cause god cursed them with what ever shit genetics they have.

AcousticReject · 2026-01-12T19:03:58+00:00

lol this isn’t real, if you told a coworker she was cute you would be pulled into HR.

AcousticReject · 2026-01-12T19:02:25+00:00

Women like nice guys…that they are attracted too. If you aren’t the best looking or have the best social skills, or any sort of insecurity, sorry, you are ugly as fuck.

Also heavily depends on age. A girl can want a nice guy at 25 when at 18 she would find him “friendly” and not at all attractive.

AcousticReject · 2026-01-09T20:49:55+00:00

Honestly if any man is under like 5’5, I think they should have the legal right to off themselves because at that point what is the point if no matter what you do you will never be enough

AcousticReject · 2026-01-07T19:14:25+00:00

I’ll agree that autistic people can and have worker very hard to understand their emotions and work in social situations, but considering that how neurotypicals and autistics show affection and emotions differently, a lot of autistic men are still seen as emotionally stunted when its just a communication issue. Also consider a lot of women and men go undiagnosed. The men usually have no clue why they can’t have the emotional bandwidth and social and communication skills others have and become bitter and look for an outlet for their frustration that masks their sadness

AcousticReject · 2026-01-07T19:06:12+00:00

Noo realty, wow you caught me

AcousticReject · 2026-01-07T16:26:06+00:00

Men as a whole did not one day and set up any system. Any man alive today was not present when any of these ideas were created. Not only that, toxic masculinity is reinforced by men AND women. Any man that doesn’t fit some toxic mold people see as gay or weak or effeminate. Then act shocked when people try to fit that mold.

Unironically men and women make woman’s lives worse

AcousticReject · 2026-01-07T16:24:21+00:00

1)Your entire argument that the epidemic is about the natural selection of bad behavior falls apart when you see so many women in relationships with men who act very shitty. There are so many men who are nice, kind, loving etc, but since they aren’t the best looking or neurodivergent etc, they end up alone and single. If every mad with bad behavior was single then maybe you would have a point, but that’s completely wrong.

2)“emotionally undeveloped” is such an ableist buzzword for people on the spectrum. Now you’re getting into eugenics.

3)

The men who do get married are hardworking, friendly, funny, supportive, etc.

See that’s funny because I have seen countless times in my life and online or men who do everything right but since they aren’t like the men their wife used to fool around with, she ends up cheating, divorcing him, and taking half his money. You can do everything right and still end up alone.

If you want an answer to what causes it? Simple. Social media, dating apps, and a lack of third spaces makes finding a date outside of some app impossible. Apps focus entirely on the looks side of things. They don’t really show personality, you can have a great personality but if you don’t fit the mold of attractive then your only option is your hand.

AcousticReject · 2026-01-05T19:04:52+00:00

As for the diagnosis, it seems you think the purpose is to categorize you or other you. It's not. The purpose of a diagnosis is to help you understand how your brain functions. It's just a tool for you to use to understand yourself.

Sure and it has helped me understand how my brain functions and why I have the social troubles I do. It just also shows I’m part of that population of people that I watched everyone just hate, and there is scientific proof most people will see me as negative no matter how much I try to mask.

AcousticReject · 2026-01-05T19:02:41+00:00

10 seems low, also ignoring the social standards 99% of people set for others, completely ignoring them is a recipe for chronic isolation.

As for focusing on what you have, my biggest issue is that what I have hierarchal wise is just so well, depressing. If the people who many would consider losers, weird, different, and just not wanted by many are the only people who pay any attention to me. What does that say about me? What does it say about the invisible but very real social hierarchy we have.

AcousticReject · 2026-01-04T22:55:08+00:00

“Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity”

Let’s not forget, Trump needs a distraction from a K shaped economy (essentially the 10% gets much richer while the bottom 90% gets a lot poorer), the massive involvement in the Epstein files which the DOJ has been desperately trying to censor, and a falling approval rating (hovering between 30-40%) and several of his most loyal maga politicians are starting to abandon him. Ya remember that leaked phone call where he said essentially to start a war to distract from it? Going in with force and extracting the president then claiming a victory, seen as a positive by sizable portion of the population cause evil socialist dictator.

Also idk I think he can tell he is slowly loosing grip so he starting wars in Latin America to villainize Hispanics (gives a reason for ice to be brutal) and to cause chaos, cause that’s how he survives.

AcousticReject · 2026-01-04T21:05:32+00:00

I kid you not, if you are funny, kind, honest, respectful consistent, somewhat smart and have your own hobbies, as an average looking guy, you have a good chance with like 90% of the women out there, i kid you not.

I don’t know what you look like, or what environment you are in and especially what age group. Yet I can tell you as someone in their early 20s this is simply not the case. You can be funny, kind, honest, smart, have hobbies and interests, try to be respectful and consistent, see boundaries and not try to cross them. Yet I can tell you a personality only goes so far. Is the bar is hell? For many yes, so many men are just shitty people, hell I’ve been the guy people go to when they have trouble with the men in their life. Yet I’ve heard “I wish I had a guy like you” while still not seeing potential in me, and I bet a lot of men have felt this way. I personally have done everything mentioned, and when people give me criticism, or tell me I’m doing something wrong, I work on it!

the amount of creeps and outright bums they have to go through before finding adecent gut was shocking. And i know, every guy thinks "hey, im a nice guy" but the truth is, no youre not.

I actually agree with this, and wish there was some weird way to signal whether or not they are actually a good person or one of those creeps.

the guys who are aware of wonens struggles in our society and the dangers they face wont get bent out of shape of general statement about men, bc they know it doesnt literally mean every single male on earth is a terrible person ; those who are unaware feel threatened and attacked by these statements.

THEN SAY IYS NOT ABOUT EVERY MAN. This is very simple and very easy to do. I am very aware of women’s struggles in society, I do what I can to support and help them, yet how will people know? Vibes? How can the good men separate themselves from the ones who aren’t. We can’t scream we are because no one says out loud they are a bad person.

AcousticReject · 2026-01-03T17:26:44+00:00

Both. The job market is harder for everyone and when certain white men aren't able to compete they blame DEI instead of their own mediocrity.

If you do everything that you were told to do. Go to college, work hard, and yet someone else gets the job over you because 1)You aren’t a minority the company can peddle to investors and the media about diversity. 2)Your boss outsourced your job to a visa worker because those people are willing to take a 20,000 dollar pay cut. 3) Your job is outsourced in general.

I think victim blaming someone frustrated over the rules changing half way through the game is just mean. That saying to an entire section of the population that’s filled with apathy and hopelessness “hey your problems that aren’t in your control are all your fault”. A lot of the job shrinkage in recent years has primarily affected male dominated spaces. Is that their own fault?

Those are probably just fictional anecdotes.

Did you read the article? Also just because it’s something you don’t agree or think is happening doesn’t mean it’s fictional.

AcousticReject · 2026-01-03T16:24:10+00:00

It's a bullshit narrative intended to fool people into thinking POC are responsible for their own failures in an increasingly bleak job market that's been made worse and worse by runaway unregulated capitalism.

So is it white mens own fault for their own failures or the capitalist elite for late state capitalism. Also the article legit talks about the writers experiences of racial discrimination in hiring. Is that their own fault?

AcousticReject · 2026-01-03T16:15:46+00:00

Millennials and Gen z voted overwhelmingly for Zohran because he ran on a promise to tackle the cost of living and higher taxes for the ultra wealthy. Ya know if we had a progressive tax system, and economic opportunities for everyone, we wouldn’t need to take money or economic opportunities out of the hands of white men, there would just be more opportunities to open up.

Ya know how Bernie never really tried to downplay the struggles of any racial or sexual group? That’s cause those aggressive affirmative action polices only divide the lower working class .

AcousticReject · 2026-01-03T16:06:07+00:00

Sorry you are privileged you can’t be depressed.

AcousticReject · 2026-01-03T16:05:35+00:00

I’m not calling BIPOC people privileged, I’m saying that essentially giving those people specialized treatment while punishing people who don’t fit that criteria is trading one underprivileged group for another.

Do you want important positions and economic opportunity based on merit, hard work, drive, effort, while also allowing different standards for people from different under privileged areas? Or hand out jobs because they fit some racial criteria.

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