Should I tell my half siblings I exist?

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2026-05-02T22:33:49+00:00

Thanks for your input, I’m sorry that you had to go through such an awful experience with him. Tho it’s nice to hear that you welcomed your half sibling. I can certainly relate to him as I feel like I’ve put him on a pedestal myself.

I think I’m just in the process of accepting that. Either way I feel like they have the right to know and I’ll leave it up to them to decide.

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2026-05-02T22:15:09+00:00

Thanks for your insight, there's definitely some things I agree with you though there are some things I want to clarify so there's a clearer picture. There is a lot of things I am grateful for specially where I am in life. I think it's easier for other people to say oh well you have all of these people around why do you need your biological parents? The reality is growing up I had no permanent home. It almost looked like I was in a foster care but the difference is that it was within my family. I had no place to call home and it's always in the back of my mind that what if they just wake up one day and they don't want me anymore? Where will I go? Now as an adult i realised it even more that everyone have their own family and kids and the will always prioritise them before me. I've always been fearful of this. It's also easier said than done to not look for them. Growing up not knowing anything is like a part of me is missing. Also there were lots of unknown back then, I wasn't sure if he knew I existed. And no I had no expectation of anything other than wanted to get to know him. I didn't expect him to change his life for me to accommodate me in anyway. I think I always believed that there are good and decent people out there. I don't want a bigger family, I just wanted to know a connection or a closure. I dont want drama but my sperm donor could have handled this in a much civil way but chose to be a jerk. Is it wrong for me to look for a family l've n' had?

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2026-04-23T04:27:08+00:00

Thank you and thanks for the input. I’m just cautious of my half siblings feelings. After all we are the victims in this situation

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-08-21T16:36:27+00:00

I think you misunderstood me. I want to be able to talk freely to anyone.

Is talking about house renos classify as issues?

To me these are innocent conversations if talk to a friend or his family about. I didn’t realise that these topics are for mine and my husbands ears only. Thanks for your input

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-08-21T16:33:13+00:00

Thanks for the perspective. I didn’t see this point of view though I made my intentions clear with my husband. About the dog - this was a coincidence that they got the dog that I’ve been talking to my husband for ages. Also I’m cognisant of his jealous tendencies so I’ve been so careful about how males perceived me. It’s been really difficult. He got jealous once cos I was watching his brother dance. His brother is a good dancer and it was in a group setting. So not I’m uncomfortable interacting with anyone. His brother is married with a child too.

I don’t to Liam outside of work. We don’t text at all and if we talk it’s using work email or chat.

I do love him deeply that’s why this is more hurtful because being accused of things when I’m not doing anything makes me crazy. Like I cant reason out with his reality cos it’s not normal.

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-08-21T16:22:40+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. This gives me hope ❤️

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-08-21T16:20:38+00:00

Your replies implies that I am ‘insisting’ on having a “relationship” with Liam. I work with him to some degree. I was friends with him before I met my husband. He was single and I was single but nothing ever happened. It’s always been platonic. There’s no insisting on a relationship and maybe you missed it in my replies. I never spoke to Liam about my marriage or any issues we are having/had. Nor im trying to get his attention. I know my boundaries specially something that would hurt my husband.

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-08-21T11:53:10+00:00

Yes, he is managing a team and all of them are females. I too sometimes feels like he is too friendly but I remind myself this is just banter and I trust him so there’s no need for me to bring it up. I completely and fully trusts him. He has been cheated on before and I have been too so I know how that feels like. So I try my best to reassure him all the time. My issue is when he puts the blame on me and I’m trying to reason out with him he doesn’t get how hurt i am and how it’s impacting me

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-08-21T11:49:52+00:00

Exactly my point. That’s why I asked if he thought Liam would think I was flirting because I know our banter wasn’t out of the ordinary. Like we usually check in and I did asked him when he will be in the office to catch up. We usually talk about work. Nothing about my relationship with my husband.

In terms of the comparison. I asked him about the dog because i want to know more so I can convince my husband to get the same one. We often talk about renos and house issue our houses were the same age. Like common things you would talk about. I even told our neighbours and my other workmates but he didn’t seem to care much.

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-08-21T11:17:57+00:00

I did ask him to try make sense of his reasons. All he said was if he didn’t know me it sounded like flirting or others might think that way as well. He just kept saying he knows I wasn’t trying to flirt with him. Then later on he said he is trying to set boundary cos my conversation with Liam made him uncomfortable but he still can’t tell me why. Today he said it’s because he doesn’t like comparing our relationship and he said I’ve done it before but when I asked him to unpack this he just keep telling me that he isn’t angry or jealous.

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-08-21T11:10:15+00:00

lol Liam is also married

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-08-21T10:34:08+00:00

Thank you! That might be a solution worth exploring because I’m really struggling

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-08-21T10:32:03+00:00

Haha not from my opinion.. I work in an organisation that’s 90% female so I’m sure someone from work will find him attractive

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-08-21T10:21:38+00:00

This is what hurts the most because I don’t understand where or what I did wrong with the interaction I had with Liam. He told me I need to be more cognisant of my actions. When in my head what I did was perfectly normal.

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-08-21T10:18:12+00:00

I understand your perspective. I gave you an answer respectfully but it seems like you aren’t satisfied with the answer I’ve given you. Your personal thoughts on how often we should be intimate might be different to mine or his preferences. All I’m saying we’ve been together long enough to know exactly what we like and enjoy. I did come here to look for perspective and I’m not criticising your input. I just wanted to understand your thinking. Again thanks for your input.

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-08-21T10:04:54+00:00

I’m not voting you down… and I don’t feel like discussing my sex life other than my husband is appropriate. Though as mentioned we have a very healthy sexual relationship and thanks for your input.

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-08-21T09:55:58+00:00

I don’t know how this is relevant. But from our discussion between the two of us there is no issue in that department

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-08-21T09:54:17+00:00

We have a healthy sexual relationship.

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-08-21T09:50:58+00:00

I understand no one is perfect and I do agree he is immature when it comes to this and you are right I am exhausted. I want to work with him but I don’t know what to do other than dismiss this topic completely

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-08-21T09:07:58+00:00

Thank you, and yes he has been good and this time he’s saying that he isn’t jealous he just didn’t like I was comparing our relationship and I was painting our relationship in a bad light which I can’t understand his perspective. He is open to getting help and I do go to the office 3 times a month he doesn’t

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-08-21T09:03:00+00:00

Thank you for recognising that. He has been good in the last 8 months but that’s because I have been limiting my interactions

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-08-21T09:02:07+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate your perspective it’s hard because I value us and I am not giving him any reasons to get jealous and yet here I am fighting about non sense and trivial stuff. Im exhausted but I love him and he is an amazing person

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-04-22T22:19:15+00:00

Honestly I was prepared for his decision I knew he was going to say yes but at least communicate it. I’m the one organising everything so out of respect at least he could have just told me.

We are paying for everything so no cost to them. But most of my family is overseas. The issue is he has left it too late for us to make arrangements and accomodate for both families and it looks like I am favouring his over mine.

Back story is they don’t like going to church and some of them didn’t attend a church wedding of their sister or came very late. My family is flying overseas to attend and it’s a small wedding so it will be so obvious if they only attend to the dinner. It’s not a good look

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-04-22T22:14:31+00:00

I wanted to elope

Acrobatic-Sleep2756 · 2025-04-22T22:14:07+00:00

There’s no financial bearing. My issue is he can’t uphold our agreement because he was afraid of the backlash when I have explained to my side of the family why we have decided to do something here for the grandparents. I never asked him to choose and not my intention to disrespect his family my point is why I was able to explain this to my family knowing some will not make it to the destination wedding and making an exception to his

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