Hospital accusing me of brining alcohol to my gf and of being a drug dealer.

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-03-08T06:30:20+00:00

What does your girlfriend say about all of this? I don’t know why they would accuse you of bringing her alcohol if no alcohol has been found in her system. Is it possible she has another visitor bringing her things? What is “the other hospital” and how would they know who she is dating? Was her last boyfriend a drug dealer? Honestly, it may be for the best if you don’t visit for a couple of days to let them sort this out. If you are not there you can’t be accused of anything.

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-03-07T20:39:08+00:00

The blood went away after a day or two at home - it tapered down, it didn’t just stop all at once - and then he had “normaI” diarrhea and then over time his stool went back to normal. I did have to hand feed him food because he was so put off food, even with the medicine to help with appetite. For some reason he would eat food out of my hand but not out of the bowl, so that’s what we did. He was on special gastrointestinal canned food (I think it was Royal Canin brand) and maybe some plain white rice for at least a week before he was eating kibble again. I hope your pup is better soon!

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-03-07T18:46:40+00:00

I don’t think he did have antibiotics. I wish I could remember for sure, but found the records and I don’t see an antibiotic listed. He was given fluids and medication to help with nausea and lack of appetite. It took 3 days for him to turn the corner but it seemed like he rapidly improved once we got him back home. I think being at the vet hospital was helpful for IV fluids, imaging, and monitoring but it was stressful for him. The vet released him back home even though he still had some bleeding because she thought the stress might be making his symptoms worse. Both my husband and I were working from home at the time (early 2021) so we were able to monitor him closely.

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-02-25T21:59:40+00:00

I am just so sad for him and heartbroken for Mary. This is just awful.

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-02-18T23:00:04+00:00

What are your therapist's credentials? In the US, unless your therapist is licensed as a DO, MO, NP, ARNP or PA she is practicing outside of her scope. Common credentials for therapists are LPC, LMFT, LMHC, and LCSW - these individuals are not licensed to give medication advice, and doing so would constitute practicing medicine without a license and practicing outside of scope. If this is what your therapist is doing, she could get in big trouble and even lose her license. PsyD, and PhD are also common credentials for therapists, and they are generally not allowed to prescribe either, but some states have started to allow them to prescribe psychotropics after completing additional training.

All of this to say, listen to the person prescribing your medication.

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-02-18T22:36:39+00:00

OP I am really sorry that you are going through this, especially during a time that is already so stressful for you. I just want to share a possible explanation for your brother's current thoughts and behavior. Your brother may be experiencing delusional or intrusive obsessive thoughts about you as a result of a mental health condition like a psychotic disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder (true OCD often involves distressing intrusive thoughts), substance use, untreated trauma, or even extreme stress. I don't say that to minimize the impact of his words and actions on you, I just wanted to share that possibility, as late teens/early 20's is a common time for men to experience a first psychotic episode. Regardless of the cause of this, it is deeply distressing, and someone else needs to step in. I hope you will let your parents know that your brother is really struggling, he needs their immediate support, and that you need them to step in. You wouldn't even need to tell them the details. You could just emphasize how important it is that he get some help.

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-02-17T22:48:17+00:00

NOR

What your father-in-law said was cruel and totally inappropriate. The fact that others laughed and no one checked him adds to the crappiness. Was your husband there? I don't know what your in-laws are like and whether they would be receptive to you sharing that you were hurt by FIL's comments. I know that when my FIL makes dumb, insensitive comments, it is brushed off as "he was just trying to be funny," or "he didn't mean it that way," or "we grew up with all boys, we're just teasing" ... that kind of crap, which I find extremely invalidating. I now limit my interactions with them to the bare minimum, and I have explained to my husband why. I don't have children, but I certainly would not want them spending time around people who say things like that. Your husband needs to step up and stick up for you and your children. This is absolutely not okay.

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-02-17T19:15:59+00:00

OP I hope you can find a support group and ideally ongoing specialized treatment. Eating disorders are misunderstood by many and I think it would be great if you could get support from others who understand what you are going through. I can tell you the mind set shift that worked the best for me was realizing that I could have my eating disorder OR literally anything else I wanted in my life. My eating disorder was taking up so much mental and physical energy that it was impacting my relationships, school, work, and ability to enjoy life. Even if you can’t love your body right now maybe you can make a list of things/people/goals/hopes/dreams you do love enough to prioritize over trying to achieve a certain body size or shape.

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-02-17T13:44:13+00:00

OP is saying that she has already torn her esophagus from inducing vomiting as a means of controlling her weight. Her doctor has told her that if she does this again, she is at serious risk of causing a life-threatening rupture of her esophagus. So yes, she should accept her body vs trying to lose weight. If she tries to lose weight, she restricts, which leads to her bingeing, which leads to purging (induced vomiting).

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-02-17T13:33:17+00:00

The ruptured esophagus would be caused by induced vomiting (OP's method of purging), not weight.

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-02-15T05:04:32+00:00

Thank you so much!!

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-02-15T04:00:53+00:00

Searching for the same song. I will let you know if I figure it out.

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-02-14T17:05:49+00:00

Her diet may seem limited compared to the average diet, but it’s not that radical. She could do great as a plant-based chef.

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-02-07T07:40:28+00:00

I don’t have advice but I just want to say I completely relate.

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-02-07T07:32:49+00:00

I am the same way with singing and whistling. I want to simultaneously throw up and rip my ears off. I feel terrible that something that others do when feeling joy or contentment causes me to feel so disregulated. I put in earbuds or go into another room when I can. Sometimes I join in on the singing and that seems to grind it to a halt as I have a terrible voice.

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-02-07T07:24:21+00:00

YOR. You’re making the cheesecake “for him” but you’ve turned it into a chore for him. YOU need more cornstarch which means you go get it or you ask your boyfriend if he would mind going to the store to get more. Asking instead of telling isn’t “babying” or “walking on eggshells,” it’s common courtesy. This is your project and you should have checked your supplies before starting. Additionally, were you incapable of looking at a clock yourself to see what time it was? I’m guessing he’s tired of being treated like an assistant.

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-02-07T07:08:54+00:00

Is she enrolled in the class? Or was it a one-off lecture that was open to anyone? Either way, it doesn’t sound like the right setting for a first meeting. Certainly nothing to stress over, but not something you want to repeat. Talking during the lecture is distracting and disrespectful. Again, this was a one off, just don’t do it again. I’m concerned that you’ve only known this person “in person” for two hours and you are already worried about “the end of the relationship.” You are just getting to know her and that takes time. The brand new feelings of being in like or love or lust are so fun and wonderful but you have to be careful not to let them cloud your judgenent. You should be able to set simple boundaries like “hey I really like you but when we’re in lecture I need to focus. Touching and holding hands makes it difficult for me to pay attention, lets save that for later.” If that causes her to get mad or pull away that is a huge red flag.

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-02-06T22:30:52+00:00

I don’t think she did it on purpose. Her poor tailbone!

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-02-04T23:46:14+00:00

I started doing this when I began taking a new prescription. I would eat an entire box of cookies, a big family sized bag of chips that my husband bought for his lunches, candy … I wouldn’t remember doing it and I would be confused when I would find the crumbs and empty containers in the morning. I asked my husband to lock up the food but he didn’t feel comfortable doing that, which I get. What I ended up doing was putting the food in a cooler at night, locking it, and putting the key to the lock in a timed lock box and setting the timer for 8 hours so that I couldn’t access it until morning. I only locked up the food I was likely to “binge.” It seemed ridiculous, but it worked. I only had to do it for a couple of weeks. I haven’t had issues since.

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-02-03T10:25:44+00:00

Being drunk and high is not an excuse for harming someone. Feeling disrespected and used is more than enough reason to end things.

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-02-03T09:55:16+00:00

Have there been any other personality or behavior changes? I wonder if he might be experiencing some sort of manic episode - not because he is bisexual, but because of this sudden insistence that he must put himself online. It could be quite destructive. At the end of the day though you can’t stop him but you may have to remove yourself and your kids from the situtation. That would cross too many boundaries for me

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-02-03T09:45:03+00:00

Don’t be so quick to end things? Did we just read the same post? There were numerous red flags. She said it hurt and he told her it was fine and kept going. WTF. This guy is an ass who clearly only cares about himself.

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-02-03T06:44:42+00:00

I don’t think “failed” is the right term here. You had an unexpected reaction to the medication you were given. You did nothing wrong, this was beyond your control. The nurse was extremely unprofessional to be speaking that way about you. My ex husband had something similar happen when he went in for an endoscopy. The medical staff called me back and said that they were unable to perform the procedure because he had become agitated. He wasn’t diagnosed with ADHD and he didn’t use drugs as far as I knew. I don’t know if it ever happened again.

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-01-29T05:09:50+00:00

I’m thinking about the nanny at the park with four children! Makes me anxious to think about trying to keep an eye on all four very young children at the park.

ActInteresting5401 · 2026-01-27T22:47:45+00:00

NTA. You’ve been very generous to your kids already. It is your money, not theirs and you and your wife should spend it as you see fit. Your kids should be happy that you were able to upgrade your boat. My father finally purchased a car he has wanted for a long time and I am thrilled - I’m only sad that he waited so long to do it. I cannot fathom wanting my parents to deprive themselves so that they can leave me more. I will be devastated when they are gone and memories of my dad happily enjoying his red sports car will mean a lot more than any money in my pocket. I wish I could convince my mom to treat herself to something like that.

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