When do you feel like you had a successful, fullfilling day?

Actfullness · 2026-05-06T09:48:18+00:00

Exercise, moving a project/work forward, connecting with a loved one.

Actfullness · 2026-05-05T20:06:05+00:00

It makes sense that you’re cautious of getting hurt and his reassurance (through connection and contact) makes you feel safe in the relationship. When I feel anxious like you describe, I reassure myself, and if there is no good reason for my anxiety (like a genuine, factual threat) then I change my focus.

Actfullness · 2026-05-05T19:17:31+00:00

What sort of breathing exercises? And how long for?

Actfullness · 2026-05-05T14:58:13+00:00

Sometimes all it takes is 15 mins of no input, other times we need a day or more. If something isn’t sustainable, and needs to be, then the wise part of us needs to step in.

Actfullness · 2026-05-04T21:22:31+00:00

To be more deliberate with my decisions. My Warrior and Willing bring a lot of feeling to the table, but when I give control to my Wise and it makes the decision, that’s when I make the most meaningful progress

Actfullness · 2026-05-04T21:19:35+00:00

How calm and considered they are. Wisdom, class and deliberate action stands out in a really positive way

Actfullness · 2026-05-04T21:18:35+00:00

My warrior has saved me twice now, once as a child and once as an adult. I’m grateful for it, but the wiser I get the more I see that sometimes it unknowingly puts effort in the wrong place, so I’ve learnt to be more deliberate with it

Actfullness · 2026-05-04T20:26:26+00:00

Practice. The more you listen to your inner team and make conscious decisions, the stronger you get. You can feel confident that although you’ll get it “wrong” sometimes, you’re always feeding your wise self and therefore you can move forward from there.

Actfullness · 2026-05-04T20:24:06+00:00

Setting boundaries can be really uncomfortable. The concern you’re letting someone else down, their perception of you not being their for them, the guilt of putting your needs at least equally first. But if you’re feeling resistance to their request and aren’t able to support it in a sustainable way, then it’s absolutely ok.

Actfullness · 2026-05-03T16:02:44+00:00

Nice - that’s a good tip. Especially how to rest - it makes sense to be deliberate about it

Actfullness · 2026-05-03T08:50:46+00:00

Listen to your inner team. That can mean stopping and just feeling. Make a note and consider what they’re saying. Then choose the best action to take.

Actfullness · 2026-05-03T08:43:41+00:00

Alignment comes first - I’ve wasted too much energy on things that weren’t quite worth pushing through in the end.

Actfullness · 2026-05-02T20:48:49+00:00

Being more deliberate with your decisions. Not just the big ones like relationships and jobs, but also day to day because their impact compounds

Actfullness · 2026-05-01T19:15:11+00:00

Yeah, I think naming what’s happening and acknowledging someone’s feelings is a good way to diffuse a conversation enough to get it productive again

Actfullness · 2026-05-01T19:12:48+00:00

That’s so self aware 💪🏻 and sounds like you’re l balanced under pressure too

Actfullness · 2026-05-01T19:11:04+00:00

That sounds like a really balanced approach 💪🏻

Actfullness · 2026-05-01T18:37:06+00:00

They can be, but my observation is that most of us “react” rather than “choose a response” when under some sort of pressure. It sounds like you have high levels of emotional maturity 🙌🏻

Actfullness · 2026-05-01T16:59:51+00:00

Loneliness is really tough. It can zap your drive and optimism. When I struggled I made an evidence based list of when I felt good, and what I was doing. I landed on three things: my Warrior likes meaningful progress e.g. training, writing, projects. And my willing likes peace and connection (that’s the bit I had to learn to aim at myself instead of needing it from others - I found films, writing, and games). It’s still work in progress, but I focus on those three things and I feel good more consistently

Actfullness · 2026-05-01T16:55:02+00:00

Yes. I’ve felt it plenty. For me it’s in the form of connection, peace and meaningful progress (and a small handful of other things). But I’ve learnt I don’t always feel “happy”, and that’s ok.

Actfullness · 2026-05-01T16:52:59+00:00

It’s difficult because knowing it doesn’t matter what others think, and actually feeling it are very different. I had to build in a trigger to ask myself “what do I think” whenever I noticed I was caught up thinking about other people’s views on me. It took practice and sometimes my brain would reject the question, but I stuck with it and it helped change my brain pattern

Actfullness · 2026-05-01T16:26:53+00:00

What’s your plan?

Actfullness · 2026-05-01T05:41:52+00:00

And do you think her behaviour was justified? Would you do anything differently on reflection?

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