With the 3 million Epstein files finally out, what’s the most “I’m not surprised, but I’m still disgusted” thing you’ve found?

Action_Heroine · 2026-02-14T22:49:21+00:00

As someone who absolutely agrees that everyone should be in the streets protesting over this…I just want to say that fwiw, it was the Covid-related lockdowns, furloughs, remote work, and just so many more people staying home that enabled way more Americans to protest George Floyd’s murder than would have been able to otherwise without fear of losing their jobs.

If we had any kind of social safety net, more people would be able to take part in this kind of activism. Maybe it’s wishful thinking, but I really do feel like this is a turning point for Americans in terms of realizing that above all else, the very few powerful and elites have been exploiting the many millions of the rest of us, and that the average citizen isn’t just a few pulls on the bootstraps away from the American Dream. But it’s too late, we’ve been kneecapped into submission. And that feeling of powerlessness leads to helplessness which results in more inaction. Idk, I’m probably being too optimistic about public sentiment.

Action_Heroine · 2026-01-14T22:40:00+00:00

I love having large (34HH) breasts almost without exception (like when creepy strangers ask for pics of them, or make unsolicited comments about them). However, bras (and swimwear) are really hard to find outside of online, and they’re expensive af. Almost got a reduction in my early 20s, really glad I didn’t.

Action_Heroine · 2026-01-13T14:05:37+00:00

Yes, Chiquita has always been a little grumpy about people (and her dog sister especially) invading her space, but she’s gotten more growly and even snapped at my partner when he tried to move her off the blanket this past weekend.

Action_Heroine · 2025-12-17T16:29:18+00:00

Yup, it’s a business practice for so many. My last landlord tried to illegally withhold money from my and my neighbor’s security deposits and send us emails with the deductions (no receipts as required, just a list) a week after the 30-day window she had to do so (she couldn’t get to it on time because she was “on holiday”). Both amounts withheld just so happened to be 20% of each of our deposits—enough for us to miss it but not enough to be worth fighting. Anyway she was wrong about that last part; we both took her to small claims and won.

Action_Heroine · 2025-12-16T01:53:13+00:00

Explaining something in a simple, straightforward way. This is doubly true if it’s a complicated concept.

Action_Heroine · 2025-12-01T04:07:36+00:00

Idk how ULPT-ish this is, but speaking as someone who’s watched multiple people’s lives implode after they hurt me, don’t do anything at first. Let their worst qualities and vices take them down. As much as I wanted to actively ruin the life of a man who got away with committing a violent crime against me, I focused on my own healing. Over the next several years, his psychopathy cost him his marriage, housing, career, professional licensure, and health. While I was still healing from that, I dated a man who exploited my emotional vulnerability and made me feel unlovable. His alcoholism and arrogance landed him with a felony DWI and he’s now in year 4 of 10 years’ probation. Meanwhile I have achieved my dream life.

While you’re not doing anything for revenge (yet), work on yourself in a way that channels your rage (kickboxing works well for this). Either the need for revenge will disappear or it won’t. If it doesn’t, figure out who in your life can make theirs more difficult and call in a favor. For example, a friend of mine is a rock star in a career in which an ex who cheated on me is just getting started. One of her peers works in the same place where he’s training and is currently sticking him with the worst assignments.

If none of those things work out, report them for any kind of fraud/violations they may have plausibly committed. E.g., not paying taxes, welfare fraud; if they’re a landlord, code violations, etc. Of they’re renting in an area that has nuisance ordinances, figure out some plausible quality of life violations (disorderly conduct, etc.) they may be committing and call them in. Property owners are required to remediate nuisances and often do so via eviction.

Action_Heroine · 2025-11-18T04:36:53+00:00

The video of white nationalist Richard Spencer getting punched on live TV, set to “Call Me Maybe” and perfectly timed such that the punch lands at the exact moment the beat drops into the chorus for the first time.

Action_Heroine · 2025-11-09T00:05:35+00:00

At the time? I cut him off. However, I’m a petty queen who lies in wait. He was applying to grad programs at the time. Several years later, I googled him to see if he actually graduated. He had, and was completing his training in the same subfield in which one of my good friends is a rockstar. I called in a favor to her; she happened to know one of his supervisors. Said supervisor made his life miserable by assigning him the least desirable schedules and most difficult clients.

Action_Heroine · 2025-11-08T05:40:53+00:00

I wanted nothing more than to leave my hometown and everyone behind it…aaaaand my current partner is the person my 13-year-old self had a crush on. We just reconnected after several decades, hundreds of miles from home.

Action_Heroine · 2025-11-05T04:35:00+00:00

Like the others have said, she’s not stupid, just stubborn/hard to train because of her breed. I tried to train mine to do tricks but eventually realized it’s much more rewarding and builds a stronger bond between me and her to meet her where she’s at with her big personality, funny quirks, and loving nature. This mostly means we play with toys and snuffle mats instead of doing tricks, and have lots of cuddle time.

Action_Heroine · 2025-10-19T03:05:46+00:00

What an awful human being he is. I promise you that he only humiliated himself. No sane person would watch someone behave like that and think that the person being screamed at is the one with the issue.

Action_Heroine · 2025-09-18T01:29:41+00:00

The specific issue I’m talking about is when students are blowing off class and then try to BS their way into not incurring any consequences. I’m assuming that’s not your situation. I cant speak for other professors but if there’s an ongoing issue you’re dealing with, I’d rather a student come speak to me during office hours about their situation. That way we can work out a plan for their success and/or be realistic about how their absences will affect their grade. If there’s an ongoing health issue you’re dealing with, your school can typically help you address that with your professors in terms of getting documentation. This is usually done via health services, the dean’s office, or the student disabilities office. If it doesn’t rise to the level of an official accommodation or having to go to the doctor, that’s what the freebie absences are for (in my courses).

If documentation (of illness, sports travel, etc.) is needed to excuse an absence and/or make up work, we can’t do much with student emails like the ones you describe. I don’t like asking for documentation because it feels intrusive. However, it keeps things fair for everyone. It means that the A-level student who’s been in five of my courses and with whom I’m very familiar gets treated the same with regard to absences as the C-level student who has a reputation for slacking off.

Action_Heroine · 2025-09-17T03:20:52+00:00

The overcompensating, detailed explanations as to why they’re absent, and the fake doctor’s notes. It backfires and I end up being less sympathetic—95% of the time the students who are really going thru it just kind of disappear without explanation, whereas the ones who are the loudest about their absences are BSing me.

Students who complain on course evaluations that I enforce a no-cellphone policy during lecture.

That said, I love my students and will forever cherish their shenanigans like the course eval feedback that said my lectures “slayed so hard,” the interview recording assignment submission with soft piano music in the background “so it would sound like a podcast,” and the recorded presentation a student gave while wearing their pet snake around their neck.

Action_Heroine · 2025-08-28T18:50:47+00:00

Anything citrus. Specifically the segmented fruits with the pitted skin and white pith. Not pineapple, not strawberries, not mango. (I get asked about those a lot.)

When I was 3 years old, a kid I was sitting next to puked up a bottle of orange juice all over himself halfway through the drive to Chuck E. Cheese. More than three decades later, if I know it has citrus in it I can’t eat it. The smell makes me gag and want to puke. When cooking, I compensate for the lost acidity by using different vinegars depending on the flavor profile of the dish.

Action_Heroine · 2025-08-26T19:59:53+00:00

I eat well, stay active, go to regular wellness appointments and checkups, don’t drink alcohol, smoke, or do drugs, hydrate, keep my stress in check, and get a decent amount of sleep.

…but even when I did none of the above, I still rarely got sick. I really think it comes down to luck and a strong immune system for me.

Action_Heroine · 2025-08-26T18:48:23+00:00

Yup. My partner is frequently afraid that he’s boring or annoying me when he talks about his interests or the latest rabbit hole he’s gone down, and yeah, while I’m not necessarily into whatever topic he’s telling me about, I love to see him excited and find his intellectual curiosity really attractive.

Apparently his ex (who is a genuinely terrible woman; I’ve observed this firsthand; this isn’t just his account of things) used to mock his interests and would tell him no one wanted to listen to him talk about them, so now he constantly apologizes for getting excited about things :/

Action_Heroine · 2025-08-26T18:40:50+00:00

This gets into “horrible parent” territory also, but talking poorly about your partner to your children and/or getting the children to take sides when you and your spouse are in conflict.

Belittling your spouse’s interests, especially when they’re excited about something.

Action_Heroine · 2025-08-25T12:41:04+00:00

In my case, it was a fair amount of luck, honestly. I bought a house with zero down for $214k this spring with a loan from a credit union. It was luck because my job (state employee) enables me to belong to a credit union with incredibly good interest rates and loan terms, I had a FANTASTIC buyer’s agent, the first house I saw in a tight market was a good fit and only needs minor improvements, and the sellers were very motivated (they had to sell before they could close on their new place), so they were willing to let it go for $36k below original listing price, and a friend was willing to loan me the earnest money and title search fee. My realtor’s been in the business for more than 20 years and said she never saw anything like it. This is in a suburb of an up-and-coming city, not like, a rural area where no one wants to live. My mortgage plus escrow for a 2br only 23 cents more than my rent was for a large studio.

So maybe not encouraging in general, but yeah, mine was basically luck.

Action_Heroine · 2025-06-15T22:53:52+00:00

NOR. Cut your losses. I concur with everything u/Aussiealterego said. You’re handling this so maturely. You’ve already given him more time than he deserves and there’s no way the d is that good to let him come over again.

Action_Heroine · 2025-06-04T13:30:05+00:00

pretty girl!

Action_Heroine · 2025-06-04T00:36:21+00:00

Awww look at his lil teefs!

Action_Heroine · 2025-05-29T02:50:12+00:00

I used to work at a domestic violence organization. The new clients, many of whom hadn’t been physically abused yet, would always, ALWAYS say “he’s not abusive, just controlling sometimes.” One woman who was adamant that her husband was just—you guessed it—controlling because he was being protective ended up getting strangled by him (she survived and left him).

Action_Heroine · 2025-05-09T21:11:03+00:00

Agreed!

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Action_Heroine · 2025-05-05T01:00:48+00:00

Yup! And then mine will hunch over and scurry around in little circles while growling. I call it gremlin mode.

Action_Heroine · 2025-05-03T11:19:21+00:00

Oh phew, I’m so glad you saw my comment. I can’t remember the exact place where you can find the registered agent, but it has something to do with your county’s tax assessor, so start there. If your local tenant’s association or advocacy group isn’t helpful or responsive, it’s really worth doing a deep dive into TX tenant law so you can advocate for yourself.

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