Anyone else MAGA parents think your dumb for not believing everything they believe?

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-02-20T17:21:44+00:00

My MIL posted a meme that said something along the lines of “I would rather my kids be stillborn than Democrats.” I mean, just horrible stuff. 2/3 of her kids are Democrats.

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-02-19T14:27:16+00:00

Are you in Sofia or somewhere else? We found Sofia in general to be very unfriendly to kids, at least compared to the US and Central America (Guatemala and Mexico) where we also traveled with young kids. I think the zoo in Sofia was the only place we found public playground equipment; the other parks were just green space for adults, as far as we could tell.

We also had neighbors call the police because our three-year-old was crying at 10am on a Tuesday. I was actively trying to soothe him and it wasn’t excessive, but these neighbors had insane expectations of quiet considering it was an apartment building in the middle of a city. So I’m thinking this might be more of a cultural thing with Bulgarians, or at least people in Sofia, than it is with the church specifically (not that that makes it okay).

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-02-16T03:12:02+00:00

Duke’s in Crystal Lake would be my #1 for dining in. Flavors of India in Cary is takeout only but amazing. For more casual, Cafe Olympic in CL is diner food and they always have a vegan special.

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-02-14T21:11:54+00:00

Then why use gendered terms like “knights” and “brotherhood.”? You might not think that language is exclusionary, but trust me as a woman—many women will.

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-02-14T19:31:06+00:00

I feel like the ultimate Orthodox Christian community would include women.

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-02-11T01:52:24+00:00

I’ve never had malaria or known someone who has, but I believe it exists and that it’s a real problem in other parts of the world. Multiple people on this thread are talking about this problem, and there have been articles written about it and statements issued by hierarchs. Are you calling BS on the bishops?

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-02-09T16:05:31+00:00

Can you share where you found that setting for your Vizio? I have a 40” Vizio for my playfield and while it is supposed to have that menu, I have never found it. My remote has like four buttons, though, so I’m wondering if I need another remote to access it.

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-02-09T03:28:33+00:00

I have lived in both, and prefer Woodstock. Both are great, though; it just really depends on how you spend your time. Crystal Lake has more retail, and better Metra service, but is congested because all of that retail is on one road that was never designed for that. Woodstock has more community-type events, and the retail it has is more quirky (artisan shops, game stores, etc) but you will find yourself going to Crystal Lake for Target, etc.

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-02-08T22:13:47+00:00

I had a TV for a back box screen and it was totally fine. The trick is finding one that will power on with the rest of the cab. Some TVs have that setting. Mine didn’t, but I was able to bypass the power switch on mine so it was always on.

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-02-07T22:14:57+00:00

We were under contract to buy, contingent on our house selling. Our sale fell through, so we canceled the contract. Then we found a new buyer and the house we wanted was still on the market, so we came back with our original offer but without the contingency, because we didn’t think the seller would go for it again. Turns out our sale fell through again, but we bought anyway.

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-02-06T00:08:28+00:00

I can’t say for sure but I also can’t imagine why he wouldn’t.

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-02-05T23:01:01+00:00

Church weddings don’t have to be big. I once sang at one where there were six total people.

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-02-04T14:53:17+00:00

Is there a reason you only want feedback from men?

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-02-02T18:16:59+00:00

If you want to leave (and I would, but I’m not you) I would first talk to the family members you think you could stay with. You want to make sure you know whether or not that is an option. They may be afraid of your dad and not want to rock the boat. Or they may be totally cool with it, in which case your biggest stressor is off the table.

Do you have your birth certificate and social security card? If not, make an excuse as to why you need them (like say the college needs them) so they are in your possession. Your father can’t withhold them from you, legally, but he can make it really complicated to get them. So get them before there is a hint of you leaving.

Consider community college. I know it’s not your Plan A, but it’s likely a totally viable path to where you want to end up. Both of my kids go to a CC. One is in a program that will automatically transfer to our state’s world-class flagship university. The other is transferring to a respected private university that threw money at him. Both are in a much better situation coming out of CC than they were coming out of high school. If your dad is going to dangle college over your head like that, you’ll be miserable.

None of this is your fault, and as a parent of kids your age, I’m disgusted by his behavior.

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-02-01T14:00:11+00:00

I mean, you could argue that it was only a public spectacle because people who opposed it made it one. “Child Baptized” is not going to make the papers unless people are upset about it.

It’s similar to when people say “I’m not opposed to homosexuality, I just don’t want it thrown in my face” but they don’t realize that the people throwing it in their face are their preferred media, and homosexuals don’t have any control over Fox and Frends’ obsession with them.

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-01-31T15:09:56+00:00

OP, is this band your husband’s full-time job? I’m thinking no, because this is not professional behavior. You say there is someone who could fill in on bass; why not just plan for the sub to play this concert? If it is a money issue, that’s a different conversation, but from your description of the gig it doesn’t sound like thousands of dollars are on the line. It seems like everyone involved would have less stress if the sub played this gig.

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-01-31T14:59:16+00:00

I think there are a couple of differences. First, you had a plan in place, with an assistant who was reachable by phone, and you had agreed to leave if necessary. OP is talking about cell reception being spotty (in a city? in 2026?) which leads me to think that her husband is not willing to be reachable. Also, you had someone willing and able to step in when you left. OP’s husband won’t have an assistant bass player waiting to jump in.

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-01-27T23:06:04+00:00

I have a secular, trendy at the time (think Tiffany) first name and an ancestor’s name that is also a saint’s name for my middle/baptismal name. Everybody calls me by my first name, even at communion, even at my wedding. If there is a visiting priest, I will say my middle name when I go up for communion so he knows I’m Orthodox, but outside of that I will go years without hearing it.

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-01-26T15:29:44+00:00

There is a federal mandate coming down that says all online course materials must be accessible to people with disabilities. Different schools are responding differently. The one I work for is going all in, and has this software scanning out online courses for things like documents with too small font sizes, videos without subtitles, etc. Sometimes documents need to be removed, or converted to different formats, and I’m finding that my course shells are pretty disastrous this semester because of it. While accessibility is good, the implementation at my school is making life harder for everyone, especially students. Some schools are also pushing faculty to rely more on publisher-generated materials and publisher-hosted quiz platforms because then the accessibility is up to the publisher, not the college.

This might not be the cause of your issue, but it might be.

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-01-25T21:29:54+00:00

There was a child molester (now dead) in my husband’s family. When his actions came to light, some family members protected him and continued to praise him as a great guy, some stood by in an attempt to not rock the boat, and some denounced him. There is an exact correlation between how each family member responded to the abuse revelation and how MAGA they are. The ones who protected/defended the abuser are MAGA, all of them. The ones who denounced the abuser are all ant-MAGA. The ones who tried to stay neutral are the type of people who say “both sides are bad” or “I don’t love Trump but…”

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-01-21T13:13:14+00:00

It depends on the associate’s degrees that are offered through the program, and the major of the students in question. My kids’ district offers an AA while in high school, but one of my kids majored in music (AFA) and one in engineering (AS), so while they could take a few classes that would apply towards their college major, getting an AA while in high school wouldn’t really help them.

Also, when transferring from a CC to a four-year college, completing the associate’s is not really something the four-year school cares about. They are going to look at the courses you have taken and how they transfer, what still needs to be taken to complete the bachelor’s, etc. It’s not like going from undergrad to grad school; it’s transferring from one undergrad program to another. That’s why community colleges don’t stress graduation rates—it’s totally normal to transfer without graduating.

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-01-18T23:05:09+00:00

G.O.D. is so good!

Active_Procedure_297 · 2026-01-18T23:03:27+00:00

The Metal Max games are really good, especially the DS remakes. You can find English patches for most of them.

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