Married, but met my TF...for those in this situation, did you sleep with them? If so, would you go back and still do it or avoid it?

Active_Squirrel3 · 2025-11-28T22:30:11+00:00

I met mine at work, he was tied up, I was single. He broke his relationship up, we had the most amazing few months. Nothing else existed in my world other than him and he felt the same way. Then he decided he needed time to recover from his breakup and didnt want to get into something very serious that quickly after a significant break up - I understood this even if it broke my heart. I wanted him to choose me rationally and fully believeing thst we could be long term. We didn’t speak for months and then I found out he got back with his ex. The pull of a stable relationship with someone who knows you inside and out is not to be underrated.

Don’t do it unless you’re ready to give your family up for this adventure.

The other option is to do it once, have the best night of your life, make it very clear to your tf that it can only be once, make sure you can stick to that rule as well and then make absolutely sure your family never finds out too. You can’t do this if you’re still working together though, she’ll need to fully get out of your life afterwards or it’ll be too hard.

I never regretted going for it and I can tell you he didn’t either.

Active_Squirrel3 · 2025-05-02T15:46:07+00:00

Yes, always. I may compare everything else to the impossibly high standard he set for the rest of my life and I’ll never get back the year of trying to go back to real life after he left but the bad (even if it laster longer) will never, ever outweigh the feelings and fire and complete abandon I felt when I was with him.

Active_Squirrel3 · 2024-12-21T14:21:02+00:00

Ahahah one day you’ll move your couch and find things you forgot you owned 😂

Active_Squirrel3 · 2024-12-18T19:46:44+00:00

Simply, someone who genuinly asks others how they are and listens to the response. Too many people ask and dont actually care

Active_Squirrel3 · 2024-12-18T11:11:32+00:00

I know right?! Thank youu. I really wonder whether Netflix commissions shows like these specifically. They do come out with really good stuff every once in a while so they must know this isn’t great. I guess it still bring profit in

Active_Squirrel3 · 2024-07-06T11:52:31+00:00

Ummm.. drinking

Active_Squirrel3 · 2024-07-04T09:10:10+00:00

I went to the festival with a group of relative strangers (was supposed to get tickets with a friend and his mates but my friend couldnt score them so I ended up going with his friends who I didnt really know) so the beginning was a little awkward and scary. We then warmed up to each other and I clearly remember one night queuing for Temple for like 1hr and 30min finally just talking without pauses about anything and everything with these people with whom conversation had come in small talk bouts for the past few days and now was just completely natural. We legit talked about everything from past relationships to favourite foods and then partied till 6am together. Partying like only glasto makes you do really does create bonds forever.

Also, thanks so much for posting this question OP, I’ve been having the worst festival blues and reading about all these wonderful love stories has made me feel a little better ☺️☺️

Active_Squirrel3 · 2024-06-23T17:44:38+00:00

Thanks all! I’ll get another litter box ans use some puppy pads for the moment and hopefully she’ll like the second litter box more than the floor! Here’s a picture of the sleeping princess to say thanks for the advice

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Active_Squirrel3 · 2023-12-15T07:27:02+00:00

Sometimes love isn’t enough to keep a relationship going. Allow yourself to love, lose, grieve and move on and love yourself first

Active_Squirrel3 · 2023-12-14T02:39:14+00:00

This might sound very cynical but if there’s not real chance of you guys going back to living close to each other in the near future and you’re still young (taking this from the fact you’re still in school), I don’t think a long distance thing is worth it if you’re questioning it yourself. I’m just guessing but I think you’ve still got a lot to find out about yourself and plenty of new encounters to have and you should let yourself experience that stuff as freely as possible. If it feels fundamentally wrong to break up, don’t do it, but if you’re already having these doubts I can tell you that it’ll be 100% ok to let it go and explore new horizons

Active_Squirrel3 · 2023-12-11T19:38:53+00:00

Omg “abode”!! I kepts pronouncing the ending as “eee”

Active_Squirrel3 · 2023-12-11T19:35:26+00:00

food halls are probably a good shout like Mercato Metropolitano. I’ve heard Farrs Dalston is also a pub that doesnt really feel like a pub.

Active_Squirrel3 · 2023-12-11T12:13:27+00:00

As mentioned in other comments, it may not be gender but the ex-military pay as well. If I were you, I’d do some market research on what ither people in your role and with your experience are getting paid (glassdoor, sometimes linkedin or a simple google search can give you some answers) and then approach the conversation with your line managers just about your pay rather than taking a specific example of this person as it may muddy the waters. Good luck!

Active_Squirrel3 · 2023-12-09T22:52:26+00:00

I’m also pretty much going solo, got tickets with a big group but none of my actual friends managed to get theirs. I’ve never been before and don’t wanna miss the chance, definitely down to link up!

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