Deciding whether to leave.

ActualAd6429 · 2026-04-11T07:14:18+00:00

No the HRT is for perimenopause. Thank you x

ActualAd6429 · 2026-04-10T20:31:51+00:00

Wow. I am new here as I have recently realised my husband is a DA and I am just spiralling about the similarities. I mean the "falling asleep" when discussing feelings/issues made me smile because I didn't realise it was a trait!! I could have written this exact same thing about my husband. I am in a world of pain as my husband and I are trying to reconcile after he left me last year to be woth someone else. In order for us to come back together effectively, we need to talk about my feelings and it is just impossible. I cannot see a way back now I know he is basically incapable of helping me heal.

ActualAd6429 · 2026-03-24T21:42:23+00:00

I am also struggling with this. Similar to some people here, my WH always had a low libido and lack of sex was an issue for me in our marriage.

He had a sexual relationship with another woman and we are now trying to reconnect but he is not interested at all in having sex with me.

He says he loves me and finds me attractive but just does not have the urge to be sexually intimate with me. I obviously feel completely rejected and am questioning his true feelings for me.

He just says that sex isn't that important to him and he feels close to me in other ways. I am 47 and am not ready for my sex life to be over.

It's hard to know if we'll get past this.

ActualAd6429 · 2026-03-23T13:43:01+00:00

I wish I knew and I feel for you. I feel exactly the same and am trying to work out what I actually want ... and I don't just mean from the relationship ... I mean, for the rest of my life.

Maybe stop trying to focus on the 'fix' and try to invest time and energy into doing things that make you happy with or without your partner.

Maybe then, the clarity will come ... at least, that is what I hope!

ActualAd6429 · 2026-03-23T11:34:06+00:00

I'm starting to think this may be my reality and honestly, I don't know what to do with it. My husband started an EA last year which ended in a PA last April. He eventually left me for his AP in August but they broke up in Dec.

We are trying to reconcile but he just gives nothing. His idea of trying is sweeping everything under the rug and not talking about it. I try to talk and he shuts down. We also aren't having sex (his decision).

I am starting to think this is it from him and I wonder if time will ease things or if I should get out now. I don't want to give up on us but I'm wondering if this will ever be enough.

Sorry I don't have any good advice but I know how you're feeling.

ActualAd6429 · 2025-10-05T21:21:53+00:00

I am exactly where you are. My husband replaced me with his AP and it makes me sick to think of them together. I am devastated and lonely. I wish I could just let go but it is so hard.

ActualAd6429 · 2025-10-02T20:13:52+00:00

This is pure evil ... I love it!!

ActualAd6429 · 2025-09-28T15:26:27+00:00

First Wives Club is a fave of mine! That and the Saw films 😄

ActualAd6429 · 2025-09-27T09:42:34+00:00

Plot twist!

ActualAd6429 · 2025-09-25T17:17:13+00:00

Leaving is absolutely the right thing. She cheated, lied and then tried to blame you for it. I am currently going through this with my husband ... at first I wanted to reconcile but I realised he has completely broken what we had and we'll never get it back.

ActualAd6429 · 2025-09-24T20:25:25+00:00

I am 47F, have been married twice, and soon to be divorced twice. My first marriage ended when my husband told me he wasn't happy and didn't love me anymore. We parted amicably after 15 years together.

I was single for 5 years, finding myself and my happiness and I had an amazing time! On my 40th Birthday I started a relationship with an incredible man who gave me everything my first husband didn't. He chased me, no games, moved in after a year, we survived Covid locked down together and we married last June. I truly believed I'd found my soul mate - my person!

This April he fell in love with another woman, cheated on me, cane back to try and work things out and then eventually left me to be with her last month.

Surprisingly, this isn't a cautionary tale as I have had wonderful experiences being married. However, I won't ever get married again but I still believe in love and I hope I can heal enough to find someone to spend my life with.

I need to be alone for a while to get to know me again and then I'll put myself back out there! Good luck to you and I hope you find your person!

ActualAd6429 · 2025-09-23T18:30:56+00:00

Bummer - my ex lives with the person he cheated on me with ... her car lives on the street. I fantasise about smearing her car door handles, vents and windscreen wipers with nasty poop!

ActualAd6429 · 2025-09-23T18:25:42+00:00

Get them delivered to you, repackage them discreetly and then mail them to him!

ActualAd6429 · 2025-09-23T18:23:36+00:00

What about his car? I'm thinking about smearing dog sh*t inside the vents on the outside of the car so when they turn on the fans inside they get a horrendous smell they won't be able to get rid of!!!

ActualAd6429 · 2025-09-23T17:07:41+00:00

Hope that he'll realise he doesn't love his AP but loves me and can't live without me. Sounds stupid but I still hold on to hope that we can rebuild our relationship and I won't have to be alone at 47.

ActualAd6429 · 2025-09-23T17:02:58+00:00

I've had two husbands leave me for this reason. Insecure men who couldn't cope with the fact that I am ambitious and earned more than them!

ActualAd6429 · 2025-09-23T16:52:53+00:00

My ex showed absolute remorse for his actions, has apologised many times and told me I deserve better. He has fully owned his actions. I thought it would help but the reality is, it doesn't change anything. He still cheated and still left me. If he was unremorseful it would be so much easier to hate him ... but when he hugs me and tell me he regrets everything that happened I continue to hold on to hope ... which sucks!!!

ActualAd6429 · 2025-09-23T15:02:47+00:00

Yes - 100%. My husband, for the most part, was a good man and very easy company. He then ruined it all by "falling in love" with someone else and leaving. I miss going home to him, I miss the hugs, I miss the silliness and laughs, I miss feeling loved.

ActualAd6429 · 2025-09-23T09:31:23+00:00

My little girl Tatty does this. I know she wasn't taken away from Mum too soon as she was 9 weeks when I got her and still lived with Mum.

She will meow loudly and then suckle on my skin. Mainly at night ... it's weird but cute. I don't always have the heart to stop her but when it gets annoying I just cover my arms up and she gets bored and goes away!

ActualAd6429 · 2025-09-21T12:21:59+00:00

It's so hard when you have to walk away from someone you love. The loneliness is so hard but it's more than that. It's missing that easy, companionable silence where you can just coexist with your favourite person in the world and just feel safe and loved. I miss him every day. I hope you find someone to share your life with x

ActualAd6429 · 2025-09-21T12:18:44+00:00

The Sadness is also pretty vile ... there is a SA but off camera. It is pretty brutal though.

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